New to this – Need help choosing sexy lingerie/legwear for my curvy wife (gentle start, without scaring her)

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Hi everyone,

I’m completely new to the hotwife lifestyle and honestly a bit nervous posting this. I’ve only recently discovered these fantasies, and my wife has no idea yet. I love her so much and just want to gently bring some excitement back into our sex life without overwhelming or scaring her at all.

The first small step I’m thinking about is surprising her with some sexy underwear and legwear. I want pieces that:

• She can comfortably wear under her normal everyday clothes (for that secret thrill where only I know what’s underneath),
• But also sexy enough that she can wear them during our intimate moments and for boudoir-style photoshoots I’d love to take of her at home (to help her feel beautiful, desired, and rebuild confidence).

The problem is, I have no idea what to buy or what kinds of things are good starting points that hit both of these – discreet for daily life but hot for bedroom/photos. I don’t want anything too extreme right away.

I have a big thing for pantyhose, stockings, thigh-highs, garters – really anything leg-focused.

Can you help with recommendations? Especially from couples who started slow:

• Best comfortable sheer pantyhose/tights for curvy women that look amazing in photos?
• Thigh-high stockings that stay up well on thicker thighs and photograph beautifully?
• Garter belts that work under clothes but also feel super sexy for intimate play?
• Matching bra/panty sets that are luxurious for both everyday secret wear and bedroom/photoshoots?
• Specific brands or items that worked great early on? (No budget limit – Wolford, Falke, Agent Provocateur, La Perla, etc. are all fine)

She’s 5'4" (163 cm), about 154 lbs (70 kg), curvy build – US bra around 38B/C, panties L/XL (hips ~42").

Any advice or specific product suggestions would mean a lot – I’m taking this very slowly and just want to make her feel amazing. Thanks!