You seem to be a have knowledge of the internet since you posted on here
Obviously most married, career, family women in the lifestyle are looking for discreet. So we don’t go out to bars, act like whores and/or pick up random men on the weekends, nor do we put on cheesy qos tats or anklets that say ridiculous things in hopes some random horn dog has balls big enough to come talk to us and then let’s explain our situation to them in public on the slight chance we are attracted to them. Sounds like an awkwardly pathetic time!
Internet: Hook up / dating sites
Be straight forward, no bs, reject every idiot (there’s lots), you don’t need to show your face (not very discreet if you do), once you settle on a guy meet for a 15 min coffee first (internet is not the same as real life) if that goes well set up a fuck date, congratulations you are now a swinger