Quality of sex when wife has emotional connection with other man vs someone new?

I am the wife answering this question. My first lover and I had a chemistry that even our friends could see. The sex with him and Diver was amazing and the sex with some of our friends was good but not as intense. Over the years I have had a few lovers where we had a “chemistry” and it made for incredible sex
 
I am the wife answering this question. My first lover and I had a chemistry that even our friends could see. The sex with him and Diver was amazing and the sex with some of our friends was good but not as intense. Over the years I have had a few lovers where we had a “chemistry” and it made for incredible sex
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I am the wife answering this question. My first lover and I had a chemistry that even our friends could see. The sex with him and Diver was amazing and the sex with some of our friends was good but not as intense. Over the years I have had a few lovers where we had a “chemistry” and it made for incredible sex
The chemistry you speak of is where my hotwife always says it was incredible. Over the years she has mostly focused on finding and keeping those best relationships…her current will b 3 years in spring. And there connection is strong that they are doing a week in the Caribbean in the spring. And they are an interracial couple so they will fully enjoy their relationship making new friends. I will await whatever photos or stories she wishes to share. But for that week I will b in total cuck life thinking all the time about what they are up to.
 
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We currently have 3 long term guys who I fuck.And often my husband will let me do my "pub" routine where he watches me get chatted up from across the room then comes and joins us if I give him the "this one please nod".
It's hard finding guys that are OK with the stag/vixen ..hotwife life.
Then you have to get to know them make sure they are clean etc..which takes time.
And you would be surprised of the amount of men who are not into threesomes.
But when I fuck of our regulars ,there is a connection of course there is ,it's a mixture of lust and excitement and pure sexual adrenaline.
Plus my husband thinks of them as friends and we often go out all together for a drink and a laugh.
He is always involved and 9 out of 10 times joins in .He likes to see me go wild and as he calls it "cock ......".
But I only love my husband,the guys are just like sex toys to me .I like cock xx 😈
 
We currently have 3 long term guys who I fuck.And often my husband will let me do my "pub" routine where he watches me get chatted up from across the room then comes and joins us if I give him the "this one please nod".
It's hard finding guys that are OK with the stag/vixen ..hotwife life.
Then you have to get to know them make sure they are clean etc..which takes time.
And you would be surprised of the amount of men who are not into threesomes.
But when I fuck of our regulars ,there is a connection of course there is ,it's a mixture of lust and excitement and pure sexual adrenaline.
Plus my husband thinks of them as friends and we often go out all together for a drink and a laugh.
He is always involved and 9 out of 10 times joins in .He likes to see me go wild and as he calls it "cock ......".
But I only love my husband,the guys are just like sex toys to me .I like cock xx 😈
If they are Alive walking talking sex toys do you ever get more than one of them at the same time?
 
I am the wife answering this question. My first lover and I had a chemistry that even our friends could see. The sex with him and Diver was amazing and the sex with some of our friends was good but not as intense. Over the years I have had a few lovers where we had a “chemistry” and it made for incredible sex
My second lover was my boss for almost three years and again we had a chemistry at the time Diver only knew I fucked him once a week but it was usually like 3-4 times. Before you ask no Diver didn't suffer his office mate was a very attractive lady and he got into her pants several times a week as well. I only stopped fucking him when Diver and I decided to have children. There was a very strong chemistry between Diver and his office mate and some how she got pregnant at the same time. We found out later she cut off her husband until she was pregnant.
 
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We've done this with 2 different guys, one guy many many times, 3 times with the other.
3 time guy I thought was a good fit but wife really wasn't into him.
Regular guy is the guy we started with. NOT the type guy my wife finds attractive. I don't really think about an emotional connection but I'm sure it's there. She REALLY enjoys sex with him. We only see him for sex fun.
Watching is a much different perspective so it's hard to compare what she does and feels with him. He has a bigger dick for sure and she very obviously likes how they have sex. She's never said anything if he's better just that it's different with him.
When he's with us she's a different woman, VERY sexual and fucks us both like crazy.
my wife had 2 regular guys. one was my best friend and her first guy we shared her with. after the 3rd time we all hooked up they had their own routine. Our other regular guy was a young guy who worked for me. He was her favorite. He used her like he owned her. I remember one night I woke up to the sound of my wife screaming and he was hitting it from behind so hard I thought he was hurting her. I asked her if she was all right? She said Oh god yes.. I don't want him to stop. He didn't. Many times I would tell him to stop at my house when I sent him out for parts and when he came back ,he would fill me in how he fucked her. They really had a attraction.
 
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We currently have 3 long term guys who I fuck.And often my husband will let me do my "pub" routine where he watches me get chatted up from across the room then comes and joins us if I give him the "this one please nod".
It's hard finding guys that are OK with the stag/vixen ..hotwife life.
Then you have to get to know them make sure they are clean etc..which takes time.
And you would be surprised of the amount of men who are not into threesomes.
But when I fuck of our regulars ,there is a connection of course there is ,it's a mixture of lust and excitement and pure sexual adrenaline.
Plus my husband thinks of them as friends and we often go out all together for a drink and a laugh.
He is always involved and 9 out of 10 times joins in .He likes to see me go wild and as he calls it "cock ......".
But I only love my husband,the guys are just like sex toys to me .I like cock xx 😈
Nothing wrong with that my hotwife has 3 regulars .She and i love the pub pick.up its not a three some she likes the seduction sometimes itd her doing it or him and she will sometimes encourage it one of regulars happened that way
 
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Nothing wrong with that my hotwife has 3 regulars .She and i love the pub pick.up its not a three some she likes the seduction sometimes itd her doing it or him and she will sometimes encourage it one of regulars happened that way
our regular guys became friends. our guys had wifes or girl friends so they were very discrete. If we were out with one of them we almost always went back home and invited them to join us. Sometimes My wife would ride back to our house with them. I enjoyed that. I would see them climb in the car or truck and first thing they would do is a mini make out session . She would always go down on them as they drove to our house and many times they would have another Mini make out session when they pulled into our driveway. ( I have no doubt some of our neighbors caught that act)
 
I definitely think the quality is better with an emotional connection. While it may not be for some, our first guy we shared my wife with was one of her ex boyfriends. It’s continued for a few years now. She has a clear emotional connection with him which has allowed them to be extremely passionate which she loves.

I have the same experience. Sex with her steady lover (with whom she fell in love) was extremely beautiful to watch.
 
Im fortunate to have a Hotwife that has allowed me to video most, but not all, of her fuck dates with Bulls/FWB’s.
I have over 10 hours of her with many different men.
She and I were discussing who she has enjoyed fucking the most. She said Bryan was the most passionate. They have a 14 year friendship and we both call him her Boy Friend.
They recorded one video for me since Ive never been allowed to watch them in person. They have only recorded this one video for me in all this time but have made audio recordings of nearly every date.

Anyway, I told her during our conversation that her vid with Bryan was my all time favorite video of her due her enthusiasm while fucking him. She is more passionate, embracing him, deep passionate kissing, pulling him deep into her, the way she sounded, loud orgasms, laughing, etc. just the whole sex scene was very real and very erotic.
The other men she has fucked she enjoys but there is that…. I don’t know how to describe it… “hold back” maybe? Its like watching a professional porn movie verse true amateur. I can just tell it’s acting instead of real emotions.
Anyone else observe this with their own Hotwife?
We figured out RIGHT AWAY that I was not capable of bieng hubbies private porn star!! I absolutely HATED him being there, directing things, asking stupid questions, interrupting the flow, etc. Even though I LOVED having extramarital Lovers, we stopped because I couldn't do this with him present.

Then, a guy at work started paying more attention to me than was needed, and the rest is FANTASTIC history!! He was my first affair alone without hubby present, I could relax and focus on him and US and WOW was I in heaven!!!
I need an emotionsl connection with my Lovers too, and I need to be able to express igt intimately in a way I simply can't do with hubby there. I have to LIKE them before I can have sex and eventually I definitely am "in love" to some extent with long term Lovers. Admittedly, this can be a bit risky.....there have been two that I seriously considered ending our marriage for but even hubby will admit that the intensifies the sexcitement of this lifestyle!!

Most of my affairs last 6 months to a year, usually ending because their wives are asking about ALL the overtime they are suddenly working!! LOL
Hubby is very accomodating of my time and lust for my Lovers and we let my Lovers think he is not aware of the affair, I am just not getting what I need at home, so if they are available I am also. That means 2-3 nights a week they are "working overtime", and maybe on the weekend too. My longest and most intense and satisfying affair has been with my Boss/Lover; it lasted almost 11 years and only ended because of the pandemic (he got VERY strange during the pandemic, lots of people did). We still work together fine, but the sexual affair ended in 2020.

I definitely needed that ability to be alone with my Lovers for this to work for me. J (the wife)
 
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