Quality of sex when wife has emotional connection with other man vs someone new?

[Stevens4fun]

After my wife once asked me how I would like to see her with another man, we decided to visit a sex club in which there was an abundance of single men.That very first visit to what became our favourite club completely changed our lives. I had to watch her lose herself with other men.

In that club, it often happened that a certain chemistry developed between her lover/bull. I regularly saw her kissing a lover, lovingly embracing a man, heard her telling him how much she had enjoyed him or telling her lover hoping to meet him again.

To be honest, that's how I knew my wife, to whom I had been married for almost 40 years. Always friendly towards other men. And always with that broad smile. Enjoying sex with other men to the fullest.

Now completely forgetting about me, enjoying herself.

So it happened that she entrusted to me that she had fallen deeply in love with one man: ‘You always told me that this could happen and that you could live with it. Now it has come to pass. What a luxury to be able to love two men at the same time. You as my everyday very beloved husband, he as the man with whom sex exceeds all imagination.’

Believe it or not, our already strong bond became even stronger because we could now talk more openly about deeper feelings and sex in the most intimate details.

Very nice. You and your wife have taken the relationship to a much higher level. How is her BF reacting? Some BFs (and hubbies) get scared at this point....

 

[Loridan]

Defiantly with a friend she feels as comfortable with him as she does me. They both know what each other likes.

Exactly
That's why our fun is exciting. We all know what to expect and look forward to getting together with our friend.

Wife an I hooked up with a stranger once, didn't go well. it was exciting for sure but VERY awkward. We met him in our hotel bar. Visiting with him in the bar was damn hot, wife was REALLY into him. We went up to his room and it started our good but he turned into a jerk telling her how he was going to fuck her like she'd never been before. Wife (or me) didn't like that so wife put her top back on and we left. HUGE buzz .......

When our friend is with us it's very relaxing. Nothing crazy happens but anything goes. It's a LOT of sex for my wife, we take turns with her. Lots of kissing, oral, sex and relaxing laying around naked. When him or I (or her) are ready for more we/they just fuck. It's fun.

 

[dinoo-2]

Very nice. You and your wife have taken the relationship to a much higher level. How is her BF reacting? Some BFs (and hubbies) get scared at this point....

Of course, she told her lover, too. I heard him say that he loved her, too. They kissed each other very passionately.

And what about me?
There's always a risk, of course, but after almost 40 years of marriage, you could argue that confidence and honest communication help.
I'm not saying this is a 100% guarantee, but it's pretty close. My wife and I have talked a lot about this subject.
I think falling in love with another man is very human. It's in our nature.

I'm very rational and I think knowing about the love between my wife and her boyfriend works much better than not knowing about it.
Even before we were married, I noticed that my future wife enjoyed attention from other men. Believe me, I was always flattered.

I should mention that he was married and my wife only met him once a month.
However, it was clear to everyone that they loved each other.
Believe me, I was happy for her.

Attached is a picture of my wife with her steady black lover, whom she didn't love, but as she said, 'Having sex with him is really exciting.'
This photo shows how she expressed it.
(BTW, he was very bold. My presence didn't matter him at all. Never. And just that she loved extremely.)

 

[Stevens4fun]

whereas I would prefer an emotional connection (and there will be one), I dont think my husband could really handle that

The emotional connection yields the best sex for both hubby and wife, in our view. Marriage needs to be secure, as does trust, which happens after you've been married for a while, which you have. The fact that you are discussing this kind of fun rationally would seem to indicate you are ready to take the next steps. That's my .02 worth, anyway. Was a bit scary for me at first, but trust and love prevailed.

 

[dinoo-2]

HusbandOfGen wrote:
An emotional connection is not necessary, but I can tell in just moments if Gen is really into the guy. She definitely likes the sex better when she is attracted to him.

If there exists some chemistry between my wife and her partner, emotional or physical, it is my experience that their sex is much better.
But an emotional connection comes before everything else. That is really thrilling to watch.

 

[dinoo-2]

The emotional connection yields the best sex for both hubby and wife, in our view. Marriage needs to be secure, as does trust, which happens after you've been married for a while, which you have. The fact that you are discussing this kind of fun rationally would seem to indicate you are ready to take the next steps. That's my .02 worth, anyway. Was a bit scary for me at first, but trust and love prevailed.

I agree with what you wrote except for being scary. At least in our case.
The sex my wife had with her (before) steady lover was always beautiful and hot to watch.
Before I go on, I have to tell that he never wore a condom. Which was of course very usual at that sex club.
Both my wife and he, challenged each other with only glans penetrations.
When he tried to penetrate her, she didn't allow him and when my wife tried he didn't allow it. They did Just these glans penetrations......

Cuddling and kissing played a significant role in their connection.
I once saw his huge erect penis at the entrance to her vagina. My wife was on top of him, holding each other very tightly while she moved very slowly over his glans, which was between her pussy lips. I couldn't stop thinking about taking his cock and helping her feel it even better. They both knew it was me who did this.
They did their best to cooperate, which made me realize that they were enjoying what I was doing. Then I pushed his unprotected penis into her vagina, first the glans and then a few centimeters more a few seconds later. My wife began French kissing him while both wriggled their hips, teasing each other not to go any deeper. I watched this closely and wondered if their behavior was motivated by sex alone or if there were deeper feelings involved.

Some encounters later my wife, sitting on his lower body, pointed me to come nearby. She told me that she had put his (unprotected) cock now in her pussy. "I fell in love with him. That is why I did. Kiss me if you are happy for me."
I don't think we've ever kissed for so long before.

 

[Loridan]

My wife definitely has an attraction to our friend but it's only sex. We only associate with him for sex fun.
When he's with us they obviously like each other. Long sexy makeout sessions, lots of kissing and cuddling.
He gets way more sex time with her but I get plenty.

We've invited him to back yard bbq with our regular friends, we introduced him as her coworker. He's a super cool guy and it went great. Wife absolutely got off about him mingling with our friends and keeping our secret.