Quality of sex when wife has emotional connection with other man vs someone new?

[Stevens4fun]

After my wife once asked me how I would like to see her with another man, we decided to visit a sex club in which there was an abundance of single men.That very first visit to what became our favourite club completely changed our lives. I had to watch her lose herself with other men.

In that club, it often happened that a certain chemistry developed between her lover/bull. I regularly saw her kissing a lover, lovingly embracing a man, heard her telling him how much she had enjoyed him or telling her lover hoping to meet him again.

To be honest, that's how I knew my wife, to whom I had been married for almost 40 years. Always friendly towards other men. And always with that broad smile. Enjoying sex with other men to the fullest.

Now completely forgetting about me, enjoying herself.

So it happened that she entrusted to me that she had fallen deeply in love with one man: ‘You always told me that this could happen and that you could live with it. Now it has come to pass. What a luxury to be able to love two men at the same time. You as my everyday very beloved husband, he as the man with whom sex exceeds all imagination.’

Believe it or not, our already strong bond became even stronger because we could now talk more openly about deeper feelings and sex in the most intimate details.

Very nice. You and your wife have taken the relationship to a much higher level. How is her BF reacting? Some BFs (and hubbies) get scared at this point....

 

[Loridan]

Defiantly with a friend she feels as comfortable with him as she does me. They both know what each other likes.

Exactly
That's why our fun is exciting. We all know what to expect and look forward to getting together with our friend.

Wife an I hooked up with a stranger once, didn't go well. it was exciting for sure but VERY awkward. We met him in our hotel bar. Visiting with him in the bar was damn hot, wife was REALLY into him. We went up to his room and it started our good but he turned into a jerk telling her how he was going to fuck her like she'd never been before. Wife (or me) didn't like that so wife put her top back on and we left. HUGE buzz .......

When our friend is with us it's very relaxing. Nothing crazy happens but anything goes. It's a LOT of sex for my wife, we take turns with her. Lots of kissing, oral, sex and relaxing laying around naked. When him or I (or her) are ready for more we/they just fuck. It's fun.

 

[dinoo-2]

Very nice. You and your wife have taken the relationship to a much higher level. How is her BF reacting? Some BFs (and hubbies) get scared at this point....

Of course, she told her lover, too. I heard him say that he loved her, too. They kissed each other very passionately.

And what about me?
There's always a risk, of course, but after almost 40 years of marriage, you could argue that confidence and honest communication help.
I'm not saying this is a 100% guarantee, but it's pretty close. My wife and I have talked a lot about this subject.
I think falling in love with another man is very human. It's in our nature.

I'm very rational and I think knowing about the love between my wife and her boyfriend works much better than not knowing about it.
Even before we were married, I noticed that my future wife enjoyed attention from other men. Believe me, I was always flattered.

I should mention that he was married and my wife only met him once a month.
However, it was clear to everyone that they loved each other.
Believe me, I was happy for her.

Attached is a picture of my wife with her steady black lover, whom she didn't love, but as she said, 'Having sex with him is really exciting.'
This photo shows how she expressed it.
(BTW, he was very bold. My presence didn't matter him at all. Never. And just that she loved extremely.)

 

[Stevens4fun]

whereas I would prefer an emotional connection (and there will be one), I dont think my husband could really handle that

The emotional connection yields the best sex for both hubby and wife, in our view. Marriage needs to be secure, as does trust, which happens after you've been married for a while, which you have. The fact that you are discussing this kind of fun rationally would seem to indicate you are ready to take the next steps. That's my .02 worth, anyway. Was a bit scary for me at first, but trust and love prevailed.