Question for the more experienced cucks

[Sluts_lil_bunny]

I have been a cuck now for about 5 years. In the beginning progressing step by step into the lifestyle was a very exciting and intense period with constantly new experiences. The first dates of my wife I was waiting at home feeling very nervous because I didn't know what was going on and my imagination was going wild. But with time comes experience and after 5 years there are not that many new situations anymore. I notice that things that use to be very exciting and very wild are now completely normal to me. Like the fact that my wife is having sex with other men feels like this is absolutly normal.

My question to the more experienced cucks is: how are you dealing with getting used to being a cuck and do you shift into new to get your fullfilment as a cuck?

 

[LilSissyCuck]

I find that it never loses its excitement imagining what another man might be doing to her and with her. Also there is the excitement of when one of her lovers comes to our place. It is a constantly changing dynamic how they treat her sissy husband whether ignoring him, as a novelty, something different or engaging me as their cuckold slut and cumdump. Something to be humiliated and degraded in front of his wife and providing 2 more holes for his cock and face as target for his cum

 

[Dinges69]

I have been a cuck now for about 5 years. In the beginning progressing step by step into the lifestyle was a very exciting and intense period with constantly new experiences. The first dates of my wife I was waiting at home feeling very nervous because I didn't know what was going on and my imagination was going wild. But with time comes experience and after 5 years there are not that many new situations anymore. I notice that things that use to be very exciting and very wild are now completely normal to me. Like the fact that my wife is having sex with other men feels like this is absolutly normal.

My question to the more experienced cucks is: how are you dealing with getting used to being a cuck and do you shift into new to get your fullfilment as a cuck?

We're only having it this way for three years now. Only 2 lovers (first one only once, second one since then) and I must say 'till now it still excites me to see her (on camera) fucking with her lover. Last 3 times she was not able to make some footage, but tells it all and mr lover is never boring or makes it feel normal, he always likes to try something new. Or it is her, coz when together it also never had been boring or just normal.

 

[Nick1477]

I have been a cuck now for about 5 years. In the beginning progressing step by step into the lifestyle was a very exciting and intense period with constantly new experiences. The first dates of my wife I was waiting at home feeling very nervous because I didn't know what was going on and my imagination was going wild. But with time comes experience and after 5 years there are not that many new situations anymore. I notice that things that use to be very exciting and very wild are now completely normal to me. Like the fact that my wife is having sex with other men feels like this is absolutly normal.

My question to the more experienced cucks is: how are you dealing with getting used to being a cuck and do you shift into new to get your fullfilment as a cuck?

That is exactly how I've changed in 4 years of sharing my wife. Maybe it's because for the last year it's been virtually the same guy every week with just a few exceptions I'm not sure. When I started sharing her I'd be more nervous or excited than her especially if I was driving her. If watching, when his cock was cumming in her mouth I would nearly cum myself it was such an amazing turn on.
Now after 4 years it just seems run of the mill stuff completely normal. Don't get me wrong I still like to see her fucking and sucking but it's nowhere near as exciting as it used to be.
Every Thursday she goes off to meet him, sometimes I tag along but if I don't it doesn't bother me, I know exactly what they'll be doing. What feels strange is if she ever has to miss a week because her putting her stockings and suspenders on and no panties under her dress every Thursday has become the norm in our house.

 

[Funtofukurwife]

Hey when you first share your wife it's the new sex that gets you excited beyond every thing else that you've known your getting to share with another man the thing that makes you feel so good by cumming and how it feels in her mouth and how she looks they get to experience how wild she gets all this while your there or when she tells you you get the excitement that another man knows how turned on she can get and how wild she gets when turned on by making him feel so good she makes him cum my wife an I had our 1st friend coming over for 10 yrs and I knew the dynamics would change like the rules at first were condoms, no cumming in mouth or pussy cuz he needed condom if she didn't like something she'd let you know we'll she didn't like her head being pushed on your cock when giving bj but she hardly went down far enough to really enjoy it so he would put his hand on her head and she would push it off well he did it so often she just let him and then me to where she got comfortable being all the guys way down on your cock and it feels amazing oh and when we first started she just was sucking him the first 3days then I brought up that he wants to feel her pussy around his cock so and so the next time after I fucked her I let him and I got so excited my cock got so fat she had a hard time putting it in her mouth and I couldn't watch them to long i was to excited and needed my dick back in her pussy I had to learn to calm down and enjoy watching her pleasure then after that he would sometimes be the one to go into the bed room and start things off and I knew at some point they might want to just be the two of them so I told my friend that I was OK with him inviting her to his place just as long as I was told and we all were on the same page and by this time there were no more rules condoms lasted a month and idk when she started swallowing for him but I do remember the first time he came in her she told me about it kinda supris ed like and dumb me asks how she knew women can feel it splash in side them and eventually everything became normal him flirting with her all 3 of us in bed and how v ever they would fuck was just hot but I seen it all before so when she asked me if I could handle just them to fucking I was like ya what do I need to wonder about you doing I've seen the two of them do every sexual act that we knew of and like I told him I go as long as you tell me ahead of time i'm good with it. So having a hotwife lifestyle things are all ways changing you just have to be ok with that

 

[Slimcock]

Hey when you first share your wife it's the new sex that gets you excited beyond every thing else that you've known your getting to share with another man the thing that makes you feel so good by cumming and how it feels in her mouth and how she looks they get to experience how wild she gets all this while your there or when she tells you you get the excitement that another man knows how turned on she can get and how wild she gets when turned on by making him feel so good she makes him cum my wife an I had our 1st friend coming over for 10 yrs and I knew the dynamics would change like the rules at first were condoms, no cumming in mouth or pussy cuz he needed condom if she didn't like something she'd let you know we'll she didn't like her head being pushed on your cock when giving bj but she hardly went down far enough to really enjoy it so he would put his hand on her head and she would push it off well he did it so often she just let him and then me to where she got comfortable being all the guys way down on your cock and it feels amazing oh and when we first started she just was sucking him the first 3days then I brought up that he wants to feel her pussy around his cock so and so the next time after I fucked her I let him and I got so excited my cock got so fat she had a hard time putting it in her mouth and I couldn't watch them to long i was to excited and needed my dick back in her pussy I had to learn to calm down and enjoy watching her pleasure then after that he would sometimes be the one to go into the bed room and start things off and I knew at some point they might want to just be the two of them so I told my friend that I was OK with him inviting her to his place just as long as I was told and we all were on the same page and by this time there were no more rules condoms lasted a month and idk when she started swallowing for him but I do remember the first time he came in her she told me about it kinda supris ed like and dumb me asks how she knew women can feel it splash in side them and eventually everything became normal him flirting with her all 3 of us in bed and how v ever they would fuck was just hot but I seen it all before so when she asked me if I could handle just them to fucking I was like ya what do I need to wonder about you doing I've seen the two of them do every sexual act that we knew of and like I told him I go as long as you tell me ahead of time i'm good with it. So having a hotwife lifestyle things are all ways changing you just have to be ok with that

Good for your wife and you. Sounds amazing. Is he bigger than you?

 

[stubbyhubby]

Lisa started fucking other guys 4 months after we got married. That was over 33 years ago. There is no doubt that some parts become "normal" or standard. That is to be expected. Just like the first time you drove a car vs the normalcy of driving now.

For us, the saying "Variety is the spice of life" is a big part of it for us/her. She has four regulars that keep it normal, but she changes things up all the time. She fucks random guys 2-4 times per week meaning she gets variety and I have no clue who may have fucked my wife that day. She goes on work trips and fucks guys there. She goes on dates (yes, people see my wife out with other men) and then goes home with them or brings them home. For both of us, her fucking the same guy all of the time would be boring and more like a relationship.

 

[caribvistors]

When I discovered that my wife was into an intimate relationship with her married older boss after we had been married for 5 years. That revelation caused quite a few conflicting emotions and long, deep conversations. We finally reach an agreement that she could continue their affair as long as she shared all the details. That "contract" with my wife made me into a full fledged chuck. Their special work arrangement ended about 2 months later.

Over the years she has enjoyed other men, a couple for just 1 night stands, whereas also had 2 very long term relationship. Her intimate involvement with her long term boyfriends endured for 10 years and the other for over 20 years, on/off.. One was never aware that I knew every detail of their involvement. The longest lover ultimately found out that I knew about their relationship after about 12 years. I think by that time he was relieved that I wouldn't be hunting for him if I found out about their assignation.

My wife shared an emotional attachment with her longest lover, that was reciprocated, but I never felt our martial bond was ever threatened.

The agnst that we all experience when our wife is out on a date with another man, like other strong emotions, diminishes with repetition and you no longer get the intense gut wrenching feelings that occurred when this journey started. It just become another part of your shared social life. Most folks looking in to a chuck marriage do not understand how both parties can derive different satisfactions from the agreed arrangement.

 

[Robert Smith]

We are closer to stag/vixen but I still get excited when it is regular MFM sex but over the years we did progressively expand to smore adventuresome tryst

 

[Iio fun]

We always seek new bulls, different nationalities, different ages, sometimes she choose someone i hate just to increase the humiliation or choose a total jerk. This way you keep the fun. Ofcourse there will be risks but we are ok with it now after almost 7 years in this life style.

 

[JMNBABE]

I have been a cuck now for about 5 years. In the beginning progressing step by step into the lifestyle was a very exciting and intense period with constantly new experiences. The first dates of my wife I was waiting at home feeling very nervous because I didn't know what was going on and my imagination was going wild. But with time comes experience and after 5 years there are not that many new situations anymore. I notice that things that use to be very exciting and very wild are now completely normal to me. Like the fact that my wife is having sex with other men feels like this is absolutly normal.

My question to the more experienced cucks is: how are you dealing with getting used to being a cuck and do you shift into new to get your fullfilment as a cuck?

ANYTHING we do, including skydiving, parasailing, cliff climbing, etc can become mundane after a while.....wild and crazy sex lifestyles can also. And this isn't necessarily a lifestyle we live forever either, it might be time for the two of you to discuss your needs from this and reassess.....our participation is "spotty" with the exception of her long term affair with her Boss/Lover which lasted years but those situations are RARE in this lifestyle. The other relationships were usually 6 month to a year, ended friendly when wives started asking uncomfortable questions about overtime or frequent business trips. And there would eperiods of "downtime" in between when things would go back to "just us".
I was more turned on by HER excitement regarding the relationships than I was my own desires or needs from what she was doing....I got my "fix" from sharing and hearing about HER excitement. In all of those relationships, the guys did NOT know I was aware, they assumed she needed "more" than she got at home and they delivered "more". Made otherwise boring business trips a LOT more fun and exciting too.

Probably need more info on the relationship between the two of you to really formulate an answer....do you still discuss her dates? Did you ever discuss them early on? Has her response to you post-dates changed from then to now?
Early on, everything is new and exciting and the communication between the tywo of you can be fun, urgent, sexy and HOT....is your response to her coming home from a date less animiated now that it was 5 years ago? Do you show the same eagerness to hear about her date and the outcome of it?

ALL of that can change the dynamic of this lifestyle.....we went thru a bad period of our marriage where honestly, I couldn't have cared less when or IF she came home, and really didin't care if the marriage survived. I showed no interest in what she had done while gone (business trips where most of her affairs took place) and my distance regarding that pushed her away, and I read her reticence to initiate and discuss things with me as her pushing me away.......but in most of her affairs, if I am not showing an active excited interest in what she has been up to she is not very good at initiating the discussion with me.....

Knowing how she meets the men she dates would help too.......I kind of get the feel that these are guys she meets on the internet and it's likely understood initially that it is a "sex date" from the outset..........how does that take place? How does she vet them, know she is meeting who they CLAIM to be, etc?

Drop a note back if inclided to answer any of the questions, and we can kick it around some...........CW