Do you belong to one? Do you go often? Did it change things for you as a couple? Were your experiences positive or negative?
Been to several as used to be a regular at a club in PA. It was great fun.Do you belong to one? Do you go often? Did it change things for you as a couple? Were your experiences positive or negative?
You said "used" to be. Why don't you go any more?Been to several as used to be a regular at a club in PA. It was great fun.
You mentioned "awkward at first". How did you find the "club"? What was your wife's reaction after going?We tried a few clubs and events early on
Definitely enjoyable for the most part although we were awkward at first lol.
But we met some nice couples and had a few meet ups
You said you haven't attended a "formal event" in a while. Is it because you have made your connections and are satisfied with circle of friends you have now? It seems like the kind of scene that loses something after the initial thrill has worn off. Pure conjecture on my part.KK and I've visited, and experienced various swinger venues since we started doing the hot wife thing. We haven't attended a formal event in several years however.
Our first forays were looking for less logistically complicated ways to find sex partners for KK, in what we felt like were reasonably safe venues. We've also used them for gangbang purposes - though more common in Europe/the UK, many host what are sometimes known as "greedy girl" events, designed to allow a woman to experience a gangbang in a controlled setting.
Early in our hot wife adventure, we used swinger venues to make things a little easier and more predictable - for example, avoiding the no-show/flake scenario that many of us have experienced. For the most part, our experiences were positive. Neither of us were particularly fond of some venue/group rules, for example mandatory condom use. Expectations are also a little different - if you're attending for hot wife / cuckold action, some swinger clubs aren't the best answer, because they are truly oriented toward partner swapping - if your wife isn't keen on the idea of you doing another woman, or that's not your interest, hot wifing/cuckolding is a little orthogonal to the swinger expectation of equal sharing.
The positives include a pretty much guaranteed outcome, wrt. sex - unless there's no suitable guy that your wife's interested in... Other factors include the "look before you buy" aspect, in that nudity allows your wife to see the goods before engaging.
We've been doing the hot wife thing for more than twenty years now - we've figured out what works for us, and what doesn't. Neither of us are swingers, at least in the colloquial sense, so there's some inbuilt disingenuousness associated with visiting swinger clubs, or being part of private swinger circles - that's not really our interest.You said you haven't attended a "formal event" in a while. Is it because you have made your connections and are satisfied with circle of friends you have now? It seems like the kind of scene that loses something after the initial thrill has worn off. Pure conjecture on my part.
If KK is hankering for a "controlled gangbang" is this the solution for you guys? I understand arranging one on your own can be problematic.
At that time I was married to another who enjoyed them. She passed away. I'm remarried but we have basically aged out of traditional couples swinging. Older folks like us focus more on house parties where birds of a feather tend to flock together.You said "used" to be. Why don't you go any more?
Older is where I'm at too. Sorry about your wife's passing. What a stroke of luck remarrying into a situation where you can still have your fun. Do you have a specific circle of friends? How often do you get together?At that time I was married to another who enjoyed them. She passed away. I'm remarried but we have basically aged out of traditional couples swinging. Older folks like us focus more on house parties where birds of a feather tend to flock together.
We have a couple we play with maybe twice a month. We also know a couple who hosts parties quarterly. Then you throw in a single guy for her once or twice a month and that's pretty much it. Sexually, I would happy to just be monogamous but she still needs her variety. My greatest pleasure now is sloppy seconds with her.Older is where I'm at too. Sorry about your wife's passing. What a stroke of luck remarrying into a situation where you can still have your fun. Do you have a specific circle of friends? How often do you get together?
Well back then internet was just rolling outYou mentioned "awkward at first". How did you find the "club"? What was your wife's reaction after going?
We went to one near Harrisburg once. Maybe you fucked my wife there?Been to several as used to be a regular at a club in PA. It was great fun.
We went to the Cottage just outside of Gettysburg.We went to one near Harrisburg once. Maybe you fucked my wife there?
Otherwise, we really enjoy visiting sex clubs in Europe. Different vibe than in the US.
Why was it closed? Was there some kind of negative publicity?We were members of one here in NC. Unfortunately it had to close down to relocate. Ince it reopens, we'll be going back. We had a blast going every time.
Hard to say. We just enjoy the environment in the clubs in Europe more. We've been to clubs in Germany (several), Netherlands, Hungary, and Portugal. Maybe it's because we are Americans. Or maybe because May is Asian and American.What is different to Europe versus US? We go to clubs in Europe but haven’t gone yet to one in the US.
But sexier? More/less direct?Nope. It closed because the new owners of the property didn't approve of the premise of the club so they told them they wouldn't be renewing their lease. So they are working on purchasing their own property and reopening.
Well someone said they preferred European clubs to Us ones and I only know European ones. So compared to the US.Compared to?