Hello all. I am looking for some advice, and not the usual “this is your life now, you deserve this” bullshit. I’m genuinely curious what you guys think.
If you know our story at all, you know that we have been in the lifestyle for about three years now, and in the beginning, it was amazing. I would watch. I would reclaim. It was hot and it was perfect.
She wanted to try playing solo, which was against our rules originally, but inlet her because I knew she really wanted to try it. She loved it more than me watching so I let her play solo some. Then she wanted to try bareback. Against our rules but she loved it.
I was still involved. Got to clean up. Got to reclaim. But for the past year, I have basically become a nonentity. Our sex life is still okay. But she goes on solo dates only. She plays without asking or bringing anything up to me before hand.
Sometimes when she comes home, I’ll still reclaim her. But that has become secondary now. I know that things evolve. And I asked her that if this is the direction, maybe she could actually cuck me. Cage, humiliation, pics, etc sometimes.
She doesn’t want to. I have met her on everything she has wanted to try and she hasn’t met me on anything I was curious about.
Caging: did it once. Doesn’t care to try again. Makes it clear that it’s just for me.
Dirty talk: feels awkward. Doesn’t want to try.
Humiliation: feels awkward. Doesn’t want to try.
Pics and vids: “oh we forgot”
Cleanup: “that’s just gross”
Pegging: “eww. Hell no” when I just want to try it once to see.
I think it may be time for me to pull the plug on all of this. It’s not about us anymore like it started. I’ve met her more than halfway on basically everything, becoming more dominant, leaning into impact play (both things I don’t really care for but I do enthusiastically because she loves them). I don’t know.
What do you guys think?
If you know our story at all, you know that we have been in the lifestyle for about three years now, and in the beginning, it was amazing. I would watch. I would reclaim. It was hot and it was perfect.
She wanted to try playing solo, which was against our rules originally, but inlet her because I knew she really wanted to try it. She loved it more than me watching so I let her play solo some. Then she wanted to try bareback. Against our rules but she loved it.
I was still involved. Got to clean up. Got to reclaim. But for the past year, I have basically become a nonentity. Our sex life is still okay. But she goes on solo dates only. She plays without asking or bringing anything up to me before hand.
Sometimes when she comes home, I’ll still reclaim her. But that has become secondary now. I know that things evolve. And I asked her that if this is the direction, maybe she could actually cuck me. Cage, humiliation, pics, etc sometimes.
She doesn’t want to. I have met her on everything she has wanted to try and she hasn’t met me on anything I was curious about.
Caging: did it once. Doesn’t care to try again. Makes it clear that it’s just for me.
Dirty talk: feels awkward. Doesn’t want to try.
Humiliation: feels awkward. Doesn’t want to try.
Pics and vids: “oh we forgot”
Cleanup: “that’s just gross”
Pegging: “eww. Hell no” when I just want to try it once to see.
I think it may be time for me to pull the plug on all of this. It’s not about us anymore like it started. I’ve met her more than halfway on basically everything, becoming more dominant, leaning into impact play (both things I don’t really care for but I do enthusiastically because she loves them). I don’t know.
What do you guys think?
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