I get that it is probably pretty difficult to put the genie back in the bottle.
The end for us?
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I don’t really want to. I just want to be a part of it all or have the freedom to explore things that I’m curious about which she doesn’t want any part of.
OK, there is certainly plenty of BS on this forum, but there are also people with experience whom you should listen to. We've tried to tell members on here about the REALITY and possibilities of allowing your wife to become sexually active with others.
The idea that you are going to be able to control your wife's sexual behavior once she's started fucking around with other guys is a bit over optimistic.
Some wives will obey all the rules and quit when asked by their husbands. But....you've been told that some wives are going to "naturally and inevitably" break the "rules" and once "bitten with the extramarital sex bug" will NOT quit. You, as a husband who encouraged this, will have to learn to just deal with it. Seriously, your wife fucks now, other men know she fucks and maybe you don't feel it anymore, but other men just want pussy and love to fuck other men's wives if they are available. You should pursue your own kink with other people because your wife isn't interested in that. Just focus on keeping your marriage and relationship solid and let her have sex as she pleases.
Similar to us really. When we started out in the lifestyle it was a case that I'd always be there watching but although she doesn't go off on her own she openly admits she prefers fucking without me there nowadays. She was fucking her regular guy yesterday and apart from the odd photo I took from the doorway I left them to it. She's fucking twice next week with her regular and one other fairly regular and it will be the same set-up again. It's all recorded anyway so it doesn't really matter. It's still a turn on for me thinking what they're up to.
I think you missed the point where she said I am not allowed to explore my kinks with others at all. That’s kind of the reason we have any issue at all. I love that she is a Hotwife.
Man, this is a gut punch to read through. But situations like this is why we are still in a roleplay cuckold situation and haven't involved others, because you know never know how things will evolve.
If I were the OP in this I'd sit down and lay out everything, all the things she is doing (or not doing) that make you uncomfortable and then listen to what she has to say. If her take is that she isn't uncomfortable at all then you kinda have your answer, its over. She's getting everything she wants but isn't willing to involve her husband at all while placing restrictions on you? In no way is that healthy, relationships are about compromise and give-and-take. If she gets everything out of this and you get nothing, and you are only getting nothing because she doesn't want you to...either she has to change or you owe it to yourself to move on. I hate cliches but life is too short to spend it miserable just because someone else doesn't care.
If I were the OP in this I'd sit down and lay out everything, all the things she is doing (or not doing) that make you uncomfortable and then listen to what she has to say. If her take is that she isn't uncomfortable at all then you kinda have your answer, its over. She's getting everything she wants but isn't willing to involve her husband at all while placing restrictions on you? In no way is that healthy, relationships are about compromise and give-and-take. If she gets everything out of this and you get nothing, and you are only getting nothing because she doesn't want you to...either she has to change or you owe it to yourself to move on. I hate cliches but life is too short to spend it miserable just because someone else doesn't care.
It doesn't mean you can't be into the lifestyle in some way again in the future! I think you two need lots of open communication, and respect for what each other needs.
