UPDATE: Wife [was] a hard 'no' on dildos.

[penc1ld1kt]

I know there's a few thread already on dildos however they seem to focus more on going too big too early rather than not being considered at all.

I bought a couple of sleeves recently, one that makes my 5" x 4" dildo almost identical to mine (5.5" x 4.5") and a second that fits perfectly on mine to take it to 7" x 5.25".

We were playing last night, revisiting a seductive masseuse role play I narrated in a previous thread and I just couldn't get hard enough to penetrate (nerves I think). She had just come hard from vibrator and fingers and I could tell she wanted me inside THIS INSTANT thus I thought it the perfect opportunity to go with the smaller sleeve on the dildo.

She knew I had been tobthe sex toy shop recently so I said "you haven't seen everything I bought". She expressed curiosity but when I said "You know how you always used to ask me to leave my cock with you..." (we had done long distance for a year) she immediately hosed it down to where we had a conversation with her expressing "I just don't want/like dildos". She hadn't even seen them to be worried about size (I had told her ot was same size as me).

I don't want to be pushy but I would love to see her using a dildo (and eventually working up in size) or using the big sleeve on her (which wasn't part of the discussion - I had hoped to pull the bugger sleeve out after she had enjoyed the first).

Anyone got any ideas on whether they think I could pursue it further or if I should just close off this avenue?

 

[NeedaDomInMI]

But she likes yours.

There is a product called clone a Willy. It allows you to make a dildo based from your cock.

 

[penc1ld1kt]

But she likes yours.

There is a product called clone a Willy. It allows you to make a dildo based from your cock.

Thanks NeedaDomInMI however I think the issue is a distaste for a foreign object going in rather than my cock - the dildo/sleeve a forms a very good likeness to me but she didn't even go so far as to look at it.

 

[Charger84]

Try to wormup the dildo. My wife hates the cold dildo.

Thanks NeedaDomInMI however I think the issue is a distaste for a foreign object going in rather than my cock - the dildo/sleeve a forms a very good likeness to me but she didn't even go so far as to look at it.

 

[NeedaDomInMI]

Thanks NeedaDomInMI however I think the issue is a distaste for a foreign object going in rather than my cock - the dildo/sleeve a forms a very good likeness to me but she didn't even go so far as to look at it.

Even if it’s a model based on yours?

I like Charger84’s idea of warming it up.

 

[penc1ld1kt]

Why try a vibrator? No penetration but opens the door for it as she gets used to it? Then she may not hate dildos in the future?

We've been enjoying a vibrator on her clit for many years already - a premature ejaculating pencil dick isn't going to keep a lady happy without one LOL.

The temperature/size/shape/colour/texture etc. isn't the issue; it's more my wife isn't into the idea. We didn't even get to take it out of the drawer. I suspect it's the old societally enforced slut shaming that's behind it but I have come to the conclusion that I am best placed leaving it for now. She knows it's there so may come around to the idea eventually.

She knows I do anal solo and told me I could use it on myself (in a completely amicable way). Perhaps I should pivot toward asking for pegging - another fantasy of mine.

 

[Sixteenshots]

We've been enjoying a vibrator on her clit for many years already - a premature ejaculating pencil dick isn't going to keep a lady happy without one LOL.

The temperature/size/shape/colour/texture etc. isn't the issue; it's more my wife isn't into the idea. We didn't even get to take it out of the drawer. I suspect it's the old societally enforced slut shaming that's behind it but I have come to the conclusion that I am best placed leaving it for now. She knows it's there so may come around to the idea eventually.

She knows I do anal solo and told me I could use it on myself (in a completely amicable way). Perhaps I should pivot toward asking for pegging - another fantasy of mine.

My wife prefers mine over her dildo. It’s not that she won’t play with it, but it’s very rare. We did a DP once with the dildo. We started with anal and added it, which she liked but she told me it was a one time try. We actually talked about our own fantasies today, and it seems she would rather keep her kinkier fantasies to herself. No big deal to me, we still have great sex, but using a dildo every now and then is fun.

 

[penc1ld1kt]

For the record, here's the two of them together. Not quite an exact replica but a reasonable likeness...

 

[Joecde3vfr4]

My wife still doesn’t like or use the dildos I have bought her, she does let me use them on her to play, but she doesn’t use them when she is alone.

I found a great compromise in the Lovense Lush, she uses it every time that she masterbates and absolutely loves it. I like that I can use it inside her when I am inside her, and when I hold on to the tail of the lush next to my cock I can push it deeper inside her than she ever takes her jelly vibe. It’s an amazing toy that allows for a little stretch going in and then some deep play!

 

[Happycouple]

My wife prefers sleeve to dildo.
we use the Tommy Gunn sleeve. We both get to directly experience her fucking a larger dick.
im 7.5” Gunn makes it 9 or more and way thicker
like an awesome condom!

 

[penc1ld1kt]

My wife still doesn’t like or use the dildos I have bought her, she does let me use them on her to play, but she doesn’t use them when she is alone.

I found a great compromise in the Lovense Lush, she uses it every time that she masterbates and absolutely loves it. I like that I can use it inside her when I am inside her, and when I hold on to the tail of the lush next to my cock I can push it deeper inside her than she ever takes her jelly vibe. It’s an amazing toy that allows for a little stretch going in and then some deep play!

Thanks for the suggestion - though my wife doesn't seem to like inserting anything that isn't part of my body. I just remembered asking her if she wanted to try a we-vibe years ago and she wasn't into that either.

My wife prefers sleeve to dildo.
we use the Tommy Gunn sleeve. We both get to directly experience her fucking a larger dick.
im 7.5” Gunn makes it 9 or more and way thicker
like an awesome condom!

I do have a sleeve though embarrassingly it takes my 5.5" x 4.5" to around 7"x5.25" so still smaller than you.

Any advice on how to approach the sleeve conversation?

 

[Happycouple]

Thanks for the suggestion - though my wife doesn't seem to like inserting anything that isn't part of my body. I just remembered asking her if she wanted to try a we-vibe years ago and she wasn't into that either.


I do have a sleeve though embarrassingly it takes my 5.5" x 4.5" to around 7"x5.25" so still smaller than you.

Any advice on how to approach the sleeve conversation?

get it and put it on! Surprise hump her have a sense of humor about it. Make it fun

 

[penc1ld1kt]

Maybe explain to her again why you think she may like it, then say but it’s up you, please think on it, and wait. In a month or so bring it up when your fooling around and she’s excited, ask her, her thoughts, concerns, etc. it may turn out there’s a simple reason but let her think on it, let her discuss it. And ultimately if she doesn’t want to, she doesn’t want too.

I know there’s many a toy or experience my wife was initially against but discussing it, asking her to think about it worked. The magic wand vibrator and he using toys in the cars when we do long trips we’re 2 off the top of my head thar worked this way. Just discussing pros, cons, fears, etc. then being supportive yet encouraging.

So today my wife and I were home and our youngest was distracted by a screen. My wife was lying on the bed complaining of a headache so I joined her for a cuddle. As we were trying to work out what caused the headache it turned out she had had a strong coffee on an empty stomach. I offered to bring her some food. "What do you have?" she asked coyly.

" I have a sausage I can give you and not have to go to the fridge"

"Unwrap it" she replied. I obliged and pulled my modest member out of my gym shorts. She soon had it in her hand getting it hard, I musing about how she only needed one hand to work it.

Our youngest yelled out so I pulled my shorts back up. "It's easy for guys to play with themselves." she stated.

"It's easy for girls too" I replied.

The conversation that ensued had my wife explain that she needed something inside her to come but using her own fingers grossed her out. I raised the dildo again and she said she didn't want to use that on herself so I raised me using it on her which she was definitely considering. I accentuated how much that would turn me on.

She also mentioned that her friend Julie from work has a dildo - a friend reputedly bought it for her when they heard her husband wasn't fucking her due to a porn addiction. I think this indicates she may have been talking about dildos with her friends at work who hopefully gave her positive reports.

Unfortunately we had an appointment so the conversation stopped there- I was about to show her the toy. I did say "I will show you the toy when we get home" and she seemed open enough to that. Life got in the way this afternoon but hopefully in a few hours she's at least looking at it.

I hope to be licking her clit while fucking her with it sometime tonight!

 

[NeedaDomInMI]

So today my wife and I were home and our youngest was distracted by a screen. My wife was lying on the bed complaining of a headache so I joined her for a cuddle. As we were trying to work out what caused the headache it turned out she had had a strong coffee on an empty stomach. I offered to bring her some food. "What do you have?" she asked coyly.

" I have a sausage I can give you and not have to go to the fridge"

"Unwrap it" she replied. I obliged and pulled my modest member out of my gym shorts. She soon had it in her hand getting it hard, I musing about how she only needed one hand to work it.

Our youngest yelled out so I pulled my shorts back up. "It's easy for guys to play with themselves." she stated.

"It's easy for girls too" I replied.

The conversation that ensued had my wife explain that she needed something inside her to come but using her own fingers grossed her out. I raised the dildo again and she said she didn't want to use that on herself so I raised me using it on her which she was definitely considering. I accentuated how much that would turn me on.

She also mentioned that her friend Julie from work has a dildo - a friend reputedly bought it for her when they heard her husband wasn't fucking her due to a porn addiction. I think this indicates she may have been talking about dildos with her friends at work who hopefully gave her positive reports.

Unfortunately we had an appointment so the conversation stopped there- I was about to show her the toy. I did say "I will show you the toy when we get home" and she seemed open enough to that. Life got in the way this afternoon but hopefully in a few hours she's at least looking at it.

I hope to be licking her clit while fucking her with it sometime tonight!

Keep the conversation going!

 

[penc1ld1kt]

Wow, it's been a long time since I visited this thread but in good news: she took it last night

I hadn't mentioned it to her in some time though you may have seen another post where I had used it on myself as she continued to be a hard no. So last night we're fooling around - I had been sucking her nipples then moved down to eat her out while fingering her. Then out of nowhere she says "let's try the dildo".

There was a bit of back and forth as she realised it didn't vibrate so her interest waned slightly. I talked her around to using her pocket rocket on her clit while I used the dildo on her.

I worked it in nice and slow, just the tip at first then going deeper using her moans as a guide. Pretty soon I was sucking on her breasts while working the 5.7" x 4.5" all the way in and out. It felt like her pussy was sucking it in and then pushing it out of her own accord.

It wasn't long before she was gasping and then exploding into orgasm though when she came she pulled the dildo out and I held her as she spasmed, kissing her neck.

Then she wanted me inside so I started fucking her from behind. I was so turned on and it has been a while so it couldn't have been more than 2 minutes before I gasped an apology and came all over her back.

She said the dildo was OK but she didn't like the feeling when she came on it - too rubbery and less yielding than a real cock. That comment was good for my ego as it means she's come on my cock many times and clearly likes the feeling (though she didn't last night given I was such a two-pump-chump).

Anyway, just goes to show that the best way forward when introducing something new in the bedroom is patience and not being pushy. I planted the seed in early December and only now in March the plant has flowered.

 

[Bobbelcher1971]

You can get some pretty good dildos now. Just got one that you can microwave for 30 seconds and it feels almost exactly like a real one... Wife who is not dildo liker was suitably impressed...

 

[penc1ld1kt]

You can get some pretty good dildos now. Just got one that you can microwave for 30 seconds and it feels almost exactly like a real one... Wife who is not dildo liker was suitably impressed...

Yeah I'm looking for a realistic feeling one - dual density seems to be the way to go - soft outer layer and firm inner core. One that vibrates would be handy. I'm leaning toward 'Alan' by Tantus; the male name is also subtly cuck-ish.