What are your most intense moments of this lifestyle?

Kissing is the most intense and pleasureable for me when I see my wife being kissed and kissing back with the hands aaround her BFs neck

There are so many other small moments that make up the intense moments.
* Her getting nervous and trying out dresses before the date.
* Initial meeting and drinks
* Looking at me whilst he is undressing her
* Going down on her back and putting lube in her pussy and helping him with the condom or lube
* Guiding his cock inside her, at this time she looks away from me and starts to enjoy the fucking experience
* When she comes and goes limp
* Trying to avoid any cum from getting into her hair, this is a big no no for her, she will take it in her mouth and drink it, but does not like cum touching her hair or clothes as well
* Kissing after sex and before seconds
* Position swap during sex

Bonus
* Look of content and peace on her face after exhausting sex
* She will clean herself with a hand towel but generally not rush to shower, so I will fuck her when she still has dried cum residue on her skin or pussy area

Bad moments that I dont enjoy
* Changing the bedsheets or general cleanup if there is cum residue on the carpet/bed or duing the dishes after...
you are absolutely right about the cum on hair part (or any fluid on hair :) ) - big no no