Wife knows now, next steps

[Cuckoldcouple99]

The background on this is;

I didn't actually have this fetish until we were fucking around one day and she was talking about past sexual experiences and mentioned her ex boyfriend fucked her while his brother watched. She said the brother got out his dick and she basically showed him her tits while she was being fucked while laying down on her stomach. She said the whole thing didn't last very long but the story has been brought up multiple times in the past and she really enjoys me talking about her fucking other men (and occasionally I can get her to either talk through a story or scenario on her own when we are fucking or she is giving a blowjob.

Anyway bottom line, she gets insanely wet and will get off during these talks, much faster than usual. But actually broaching the subject has resulted in her turning down the idea of doing things in person. She also loves watching cuckold themed porn or swinger type stuff.

Anyway, not sure if this is where it ends or what. Next steps aren't clear because she is a hard no so far on doing any meet up type things, but I feel like she has gotten way more used to the idea over the years. She also is losing weight and is starting to look much healthier and sexy (basically down to 130 pounds after our kids were born and she got heavier).

 

[InvisibleVoyeur]

I know it's not the same, but you can fuck her in front of someone else while they watch. Inviting someone in, even just to watch, can be a big step.

 

[InvisibleVoyeur]

You can even ask for guys that aren't endowed and can act out a "cuck" scenario by berating him. She's still with you, but you get to have the experience. Either that, or you could get a sex toy and she can berate you as she plays with the larger dildo.

 

[Cuckoldcouple99]

That's an interesting idea of just having someone watch us. I may bring that up next time we are getting into it.

 

[InvisibleVoyeur]

That's an interesting idea of just having someone watch us. I may bring that up next time we are getting into it.

I hope it helps!

 

[Phun Times 727]

We went from never having talked about it 6 weeks ago to getting her to agree to MFM . Had to iron out a couple of false starts with wrong people but a week ago we found the right guy. She tested the waters a bit last week with him and we made full use of him this last weekend. I have an ultra hot wife and did not think finding a willing dude would be difficult but way more than I anticipated. I was not good at it, she is much better at finding dudes who want to fuck her (pretty much every guy she meets). I am still blown away that we are where we are so quickly. Don't be discouraged, things can move forward better than you think.

 

[CanadaCpl]

The background on this is;

I didn't actually have this fetish until we were fucking around one day and she was talking about past sexual experiences and mentioned her ex boyfriend fucked her while his brother watched. She said the brother got out his dick and she basically showed him her tits while she was being fucked while laying down on her stomach. She said the whole thing didn't last very long but the story has been brought up multiple times in the past and she really enjoys me talking about her fucking other men (and occasionally I can get her to either talk through a story or scenario on her own when we are fucking or she is giving a blowjob.

Anyway bottom line, she gets insanely wet and will get off during these talks, much faster than usual. But actually broaching the subject has resulted in her turning down the idea of doing things in person. She also loves watching cuckold themed porn or swinger type stuff.

Anyway, not sure if this is where it ends or what. Next steps aren't clear because she is a hard no so far on doing any meet up type things, but I feel like she has gotten way more used to the idea over the years. She also is losing weight and is starting to look much healthier and sexy (basically down to 130 pounds after our kids were born and she got heavier).

Try dressing her up with sexy undergarments under her skirt or dress, and take her to an adult theater, where you can get guys there to sit on each side of her, and grope her for awhile. Who knows, maybe she'd open even play with a few cocks, and they can get finger her to orgasm etc. It would be a great ice breaker, ...at least it was for my wife. It made her feel sexy again, as she thought nobody would ever be interested in her for a a MFM. Just a suggestion I strongly recommend. Keep us posted. Giter' done.

 

[Cuckoldcouple99]

Try dressing her up with sexy undergarments under her skirt or dress, and take her to an adult theater, where you can get guys there to sit on each side of her, and grope her for awhile. Who knows, maybe she'd open even play with a few cocks, and they can get finger her to orgasm etc. It would be a great ice breaker, ...at least it was for my wife. It made her feel sexy again, as she thought nobody would ever be interested in her for a a MFM. Just a suggestion I strongly recommend. Keep us posted. Giter' done.

Where would you even find an adult theater lol? Sorry I am super new to all of this beyond just fantasy.

 

[Cuckoldcouple99]

Well, something really interesting just happened. I had a talk with her the other night about how serious I was about it and while she was reluctant as she always was she did agree to at least play some games with me. Just had her go to the store for some food for the family and told her to keep an eye out for anyone she thought was cute. Ended up telling me about one of our daughter's friends dads who she saw at the store. Get this, He comments on her appearance an says she looks really good.

She said she wasn't sure how to respond to it but the fact that she even told me about this and seemed kind of excited about it was a break from the norm. Not sure how to build on this exactly and I am not sure she likes this guy specifically as I haven't gotten details yet....

Stil....

 

[Cuckoldcouple99]

So an update, she said she most likely would be willing to go to a like low key social swinger type meetup in the summer. Just to see what it's all about. It's funny we ended up having a discussion on the like stakes, she had, I think, an impression that any dive into the hotwife/swinging scene would be opting into an orgy or gangbang or something like that. Kind of wild how her frame of reference was so extreme.

She even said she thought a guy that works on our cars was kind of cute and was willing to play a little game with him (you know just flirt, wear something specific when going to pick up the car). She said it could even be a like invite to the house, again with flirting/drinking/dinner or something being the objective vs jumping right into anything crazy.

Feels like it's evolving!

 

[Phun Times 727]

So an update, she said she most likely would be willing to go to a like low key social swinger type meetup in the summer. Just to see what it's all about. It's funny we ended up having a discussion on the like stakes, she had, I think, an impression that any dive into the hotwife/swinging scene would be opting into an orgy or gangbang or something like that. Kind of wild how her frame of reference was so extreme.

She even said she thought a guy that works on our cars was kind of cute and was willing to play a little game with him (you know just flirt, wear something specific when going to pick up the car). She said it could even be a like invite to the house, again with flirting/drinking/dinner or something being the objective vs jumping right into anything crazy.

Feels like it's evolving!

I found it was easier, at least in our case, to have her find someone. At the end of the dy she needs to be willing to have sex with the person so it seems she should be able to make the selection (also not your fault if it does not work out). Knock on wood but for less than 2 months in we are having fun with him nearly every weekend. Due to him living 90 minutes away weekends are really only practical time we can get together with him unless a holiday or something. It was awkward the frst time but last few times have not been awkward at all, in fact the opposite, feels like we are getting closer and the sex is really good.

 

[SmallHubbyTexas]

I found it was easier, at least in our case, to have her find someone. At the end of the dy she needs to be willing to have sex with the person so it seems she should be able to make the selection (also not your fault if it does not work out). Knock on wood but for less than 2 months in we are having fun with him nearly every weekend. Due to him living 90 minutes away weekends are really only practical time we can get together with him unless a holiday or something. It was awkward the frst time but last few times have not been awkward at all, in fact the opposite, feels like we are getting closer and the sex is really good.

Yes, my wife has picked her lovers. She is the one sleeping with them. The one that made me a cuckold is still with her 5 years later. They are together twice a week and are still enjoying each other.

 

[WNY3somecple]

The background on this is;

I didn't actually have this fetish until we were fucking around one day and she was talking about past sexual experiences and mentioned her ex boyfriend fucked her while his brother watched. She said the brother got out his dick and she basically showed him her tits while she was being fucked while laying down on her stomach. She said the whole thing didn't last very long but the story has been brought up multiple times in the past and she really enjoys me talking about her fucking other men (and occasionally I can get her to either talk through a story or scenario on her own when we are fucking or she is giving a blowjob.

Anyway bottom line, she gets insanely wet and will get off during these talks, much faster than usual. But actually broaching the subject has resulted in her turning down the idea of doing things in person. She also loves watching cuckold themed porn or swinger type stuff.

Anyway, not sure if this is where it ends or what. Next steps aren't clear because she is a hard no so far on doing any meet up type things, but I feel like she has gotten way more used to the idea over the years. She also is losing weight and is starting to look much healthier and sexy (basically down to 130 pounds after our kids were born and she got heavier).

The thing is she may very much enjoy talking, thinking about during sex as a way to add a bit of spice safely but that does not necessarily mean she wants to actually do it.

 

[Tjmill]

Scoring a man might be a nice way for your wife to break into it and boost her ego at the same time. (You could lick the results later when you or she gets home). A threesome is also a good way for both of you.

Now is the time for you both to have your fun. There will be plenty of opportunities not to.

 

[CONST65]

So an update, she said she most likely would be willing to go to a like low key social swinger type meetup in the summer. Just to see what it's all about. It's funny we ended up having a discussion on the like stakes, she had, I think, an impression that any dive into the hotwife/swinging scene would be opting into an orgy or gangbang or something like that. Kind of wild how her frame of reference was so extreme.

She even said she thought a guy that works on our cars was kind of cute and was willing to play a little game with him (you know just flirt, wear something specific when going to pick up the car). She said it could even be a like invite to the house, again with flirting/drinking/dinner or something being the objective vs jumping right into anything crazy.

Feels like it's evolving!

Since she seems willlingHer is something my hotwife does Occasionally even thou shes a hotwife for 5 years she loves to bring her play to . A new level.that works for both of us. She gets dressed up extreme sometimes even a CFM OUTFITshe goes into lounge/ sits alone at a high two person table i come in later but dont sit with her but were i can see if things get out of hand .Time goes on she gets hit on and the guy asks to dance or buy her a drink..She lets the night play out if she is interested in the guy she will.text me to discreetly neet her like on the way to the restroom .She will tell me he asked to.go someplace private if she accepts she will tell me stay here have a few drinks il will be back in a few hours. A few times she has contacted me to.pick.her up.in the am .with all.respect do something like this even if there is no sex just close dancing cuddle and occasional kiss. It could lead to what you both want.Remember slow and stesdy wins tge race GOOD LUCK feel free to ask me anything here or PM me Bob

 

[Garrett]

I know it's not the same, but you can fuck her in front of someone else while they watch. Inviting someone in, even just to watch, can be a big step.

That's my plan.

 

[InvisibleVoyeur]

That's my plan.

Good luck, I'd love to hear how this works out!

 

[majorem]

It seems like for some wives, it is incredibly hard to even admit they are turned on or even curious to try this sort of thing, like it could be a trap and maybe you're just testing them or even if you think you want it, maybe if they do it, you will react badly. On average, women tend to be much more risk-averse than men, so there is this calculation where they weigh all they have to lose, in terms of relationship, family life, etc, with a sexual adventure that, even if they are interested and excited by it, its probably not to the level it excites you.

When my wife finally admitted the fantasy did turn her on, she also expressed that she felt it was weird and also worried that once she started, she might get out of control. So, I think even if there is interest, there are also a lot more hurdles on the female side. Unfortunately, they just are not quite as reckless as us men tend to be lol. I think the key is to take it slow and not get too obsessive about it - have a hot lovemaking episode or event where you play with the fantasy, then give it a rest of a few weeks before you bring it up again.

With my wife, I think she needs me to push for the fantasy if its ever going to happen - she has to feel like I really, for sure, definitely want it and that it's my doing, for her to feel comfortable. At this point, I think it can happen, it just needs to be the right time and right now, with young kids, its pretty hard to find the right time...

 

[cuck52]

The background on this is;

I didn't actually have this fetish until we were fucking around one day and she was talking about past sexual experiences and mentioned her ex boyfriend fucked her while his brother watched. She said the brother got out his dick and she basically showed him her tits while she was being fucked while laying down on her stomach. She said the whole thing didn't last very long but the story has been brought up multiple times in the past and she really enjoys me talking about her fucking other men (and occasionally I can get her to either talk through a story or scenario on her own when we are fucking or she is giving a blowjob.

Anyway bottom line, she gets insanely wet and will get off during these talks, much faster than usual. But actually broaching the subject has resulted in her turning down the idea of doing things in person. She also loves watching cuckold themed porn or swinger type stuff.

Anyway, not sure if this is where it ends or what. Next steps aren't clear because she is a hard no so far on doing any meet up type things, but I feel like she has gotten way more used to the idea over the years. She also is losing weight and is starting to look much healthier and sexy (basically down to 130 pounds after our kids were born and she got heavier).

She's already cheating on you..

 

[anthonytimmermans]

She's already cheating on you..

I don't think that at all. as Majorem explained women need to go through a journey, are very risk averse, but that does not mean that as thigns progress momentum can be build. I would not think she's cheating on him. I think she does not want to cheat on him, is exicited about this new dynamic in their relationship and is exploring it, but also is a bit scared.