Wife wants Stripper for 1st Time

[Redman69]

My wife is in her 40s while Im in my 50s. After a talk about my ED problems, the discussion turned to her ability to enjoy sex with my declining ability. She has only been with one other person beside me and occasionally mentions how she wishes she had more experiences. She seems to enjoy hearing fantasies about her and another guy but has been a bit conservative with regards to these type of ideas. I never push and want her to decide if and how she wants to experience the hotwife lifestyle when and if shes ready.
Well the other day she brought up the idea that she wanted to have this experience but without me there for the encounter. She stated that having me there would be awkward. I understand and frankly, Im ok with her having the experience by herself. Now here is the kicker and wasnt what I was ready to hear. She wants to have sex with a young stripper. While she didnt say, Im thinking thats her trying to avoid having an emotional bond. She doesnt want to do it with anyone we know and hesitant to try a stranger even though we would meet the person first to see if theres a connection.
Im trying to understand the pitfalls from having her first time being with a stripper. We would probably have to have them screened to ensure they are clean. Im thinking this may serve as a springboard for more casual people after this 1st experience.
Any thoughts ideas or concerns for following this method for a first time?
Thanks for the feedback

 

[Ex wife]

I always wanted to do that but didn't have the nerve

 

[Redman69]

I always wanted to do that but didn't have the nerve

Im hoping she keeps her nerves

 

[Lynnandhubby]

How does she intend to find a stripper? If she doesn’t want anyone you know and is reluctant to go with a random stranger, wouldn’t it just be easier to get her a male escort? That way, it will be all about her having a good time.
Lynn x

 

[Redman69]

How does she intend to find a stripper? If she doesn’t want anyone you know and is reluctant to go with a random stranger, wouldn’t it just be easier to get her a male escort? That way, it will be all about her having a good time.
Lynn x

Excellent point and is probably what I need to bring to her attention

 

[Redman69]

It sounds like the wife is changing her preferences regarding the type of guy she would want for the first time. She went from originally wanting a stripper/escort to a random person. We have been discussing this frequently and now she is bringing up the topic with me. I asked her the question of why she would and wouldnt want to have this experience. For wanting to experience, she says she hasent had a lot of experiences with sex with other guys (im her second and the first was only one time). She is interested in the experience with others. On the flip side, she says shes a little scared having sex with a stranger and how this might effect our marriage along with her pissibly getting pregnant (Shes 45 and not on birth control) I explained that you or we could always share text with a potential guy and if wanting, we could meet them in a neutral place. Plus she could always have this person wear a condom. Shes not particulary fond of condoms. That way she could get to know them first. As for our relationship, I would be part of the plan and it wouldnt be cheating. Also, that we could try it once or in the case of cold feet, call it off anytime. Simply, I explained to her, we both need to want this or we dont move forward.
We have discussed this over several years and despite the time, she has opened her thinking a lot more than the past. She still claims it feels weird but seems to be more accepting of the idea. She comes from very conservative upbringing so those feelings are understandable. As many of you have referenced, as well as taught me, its all about taking baby steps, taking it slow and having lots of communication and open discussions. I dont know where this is going for sure, but I believe its heading in the right general direction.

 

[Ex wife]

Husband took me to a male strip show years ago was such a turn on went home had great sex thinking about this one stripper.

 

[Redman69]

Husband took me to a male strip show years ago was such a turn on went home had great sex thinking about this one stripper.

We did something similar. It made for great fantasy role play for several weeks but never went further.

 

[Ex wife]

We did something similar. It made for great fantasy role play for several weeks but never went further.

No nenev

 

[toolman2c]

We did something similar. It made for great fantasy role play for several weeks but never went further.

any updates would b great, I'm very curious how this goes from here, btw, how long have you had the dreaded ED?

 

[Creampielover45]

My wife is in her 40s while Im in my 50s. After a talk about my ED problems, the discussion turned to her ability to enjoy sex with my declining ability. She has only been with one other person beside me and occasionally mentions how she wishes she had more experiences. She seems to enjoy hearing fantasies about her and another guy but has been a bit conservative with regards to these type of ideas. I never push and want her to decide if and how she wants to experience the hotwife lifestyle when and if shes ready.
Well the other day she brought up the idea that she wanted to have this experience but without me there for the encounter. She stated that having me there would be awkward. I understand and frankly, Im ok with her having the experience by herself. Now here is the kicker and wasnt what I was ready to hear. She wants to have sex with a young stripper. While she didnt say, Im thinking thats her trying to avoid having an emotional bond. She doesnt want to do it with anyone we know and hesitant to try a stranger even though we would meet the person first to see if theres a connection.
Im trying to understand the pitfalls from having her first time being with a stripper. We would probably have to have them screened to ensure they are clean. Im thinking this may serve as a springboard for more casual people after this 1st experience.
Any thoughts ideas or concerns for following this method for a first time?
Thanks for the feedback

Send her over.. would love to watch

 

[jw_kk]

In practice, this turns out to be harder than it seems like it should be.

Assuming there’s a venue near you with male dancers, you could visit with your wife - basically be joint spectators, looking for a candidate.

The male escort thing is more tricky, harder to come by in most venues, easier in places like Vegas, Tahoe, some of the resort locations. It is also going to cost you - the higher-end maybe a grand or more…

Screening, if you want a bareback experience is more complicated. Most guys doing this will want condoms. That said, you might find someone with legit test results.

 

[Redman69]

any updates would b great, I'm very curious how this goes from here, btw, how long have you had the dreaded ED?

Im trying not to be pushy and give it a chance to develop. She always enjoys it when I bring up the subject when shes horney. She says that she has been raised to think differently about these types of subjects. I believe I have countered most of her concerns but there are a few that only she can address.
As for the ED, I have had it for about a year now. Its only going to get worse over time. Id rather that Im included in the idea rather than her cheat because of frustration.

 

[Redman69]

In practice, this turns out to be harder than it seems like it should be.

Assuming there’s a venue near you with male dancers, you could visit with your wife - basically be joint spectators, looking for a candidate.

The male escort thing is more tricky, harder to come by in most venues, easier in places like Vegas, Tahoe, some of the resort locations. It is also going to cost you - the higher-end maybe a grand or more…

Screening, if you want a bareback experience is more complicated. Most guys doing this will want condoms. That said, you might find someone with legit test results.

Good informatiin thanks. Ive seen several comments on here regarding how hard it is to find a guys that arent flakey. It would seem the escorts would be a lot easier. In either case Ive forwarded her a few pictures from AM that met her description of what she would like. She said thanks for the pictures but didnt take it further. Like the saying goes, "you can lead a horse to water, but you cant make it drink".

 

[memories]

Good informatiin thanks. Ive seen several comments on here regarding how hard it is to find a guys that arent flakey. It would seem the escorts would be a lot easier. In either case Ive forwarded her a few pictures from AM that met her description of what she would like. She said thanks for the pictures but didnt take it further. Like the saying goes, "you can lead a horse to water, but you cant make it drink".

I talked to my wife about sex is sex, love is love..kind of makes sense...We had great luck with a massage in the islands..Got a foot and ankle rub fist out on the beeach.....she and I talked about how good it felt, so I asked him if he gave pvt massages in the room. Of course he did...gave my wife great massage and great sex two years in a row...did use condoms, dont trust the islands that much..

 

[Garrett]

My wife is in her 40s while Im in my 50s. After a talk about my ED problems, the discussion turned to her ability to enjoy sex with my declining ability. She has only been with one other person beside me and occasionally mentions how she wishes she had more experiences. She seems to enjoy hearing fantasies about her and another guy but has been a bit conservative with regards to these type of ideas. I never push and want her to decide if and how she wants to experience the hotwife lifestyle when and if shes ready.
Well the other day she brought up the idea that she wanted to have this experience but without me there for the encounter. She stated that having me there would be awkward. I understand and frankly, Im ok with her having the experience by herself. Now here is the kicker and wasnt what I was ready to hear. She wants to have sex with a young stripper. While she didnt say, Im thinking thats her trying to avoid having an emotional bond. She doesnt want to do it with anyone we know and hesitant to try a stranger even though we would meet the person first to see if theres a connection.
Im trying to understand the pitfalls from having her first time being with a stripper. We would probably have to have them screened to ensure they are clean. Im thinking this may serve as a springboard for more casual people after this 1st experience.
Any thoughts ideas or concerns for following this method for a first time?
Thanks for the feedback

Any pics?