I've been there many times. The first time she went out of town my neighbor called me Friday afternoon to tell me that my he, his dad and two of his friends were headed to Rocky Point (Mexico) and that she'd be back Sunday, that I had to go pick up my ......, and that he was calling because she was blowing his friend at the moment in the back seat. He then laughed and told me to have a good weekend. It was tough because I was anxious and pissed the entire time. On the other hand I jerked off 10 times that weekend thinking about what she was doing down there which was aided with some texts and photos from the guys (and from her). Since then she has gone to Vegas 3 times, Rocky Point again and San Diego. She went to Rocky Point a third time with them as well but I went to that time. With the exception of San Diego I pretty much found out she was going each time while I was at work on Friday (though she called to tell me the other times at least). Its weird because she is with the same guys at home and everyone knows what the deal is but she knows (they all know) that I still get jealous and anxious and sometimes a bit humiliated about it especially when they kinda go behind my back but they push because they can. I always thought I'd have more control over our lifestyle and I really don't have any and my neighbor and his dad have her doing whatever they want. I've never been left for two weeks either though they've talked about her going back to Nebraska in the summer with Jeffs dad when he lives there, that has yet to happen. Only you and your wife can decide what you are comfortable with so I would just stress communication and talking it through with her and making sure she knows your concerns.