Asking GF to watch porn went wrong!

[Fapster69]

Me and my GF had drinks the other night and were feeling frisky.

I bit the bullet and took this opportunity to ask my GF to watch porn with me. She was confused as to why I wanted to watch it with her so I told her I think it would be hot to watch together!

She said fine whatever (straight away I am like crap this isn't a good start), so I opened pornhub and said to her to pick something to watch.

She said to me, "no I want to see what you pick!"

Obviously I have a hotwife fetish and enjoy interracial(that's why I'm here!) but I'm thinking I need to go in gently and can't put on straight up cuck shit straight away so I scrolled a little bit and found an amateur video of a black guy having sex with a white girl.

I followed advice and was focused more on her pleasure than actually watching the video, she was confused why I picked this video (I just said it was hot) but at this point it was going alright.

Eventually we had sex and then after it she got upset and totally took it all the wrong way and thought she wasn't enough for me anymore, that I was bored of her and I needed to watch porn during sex to be able to get off now! I said she is beautiful, obviously I don't need porn don't be silly I just thought it would be hot!

Basically it couldn't have went any worse and now I think I've killed the fantasy stone dead! I had this vision in my head of how it went and it crashed and burned and couldn't have went any worse if I tried!

The next morning she was a lot better and I reiterated that I definitely don't need it she is amazingly beautiful and we have amazing sex, that I was just trying something different for a change! Later in the day we started getting frisky again and I made a joke about putting porn on and she laughed out loud! We continued and had amazing sex (without watching porn this time! ) then I told here see I don't need to watch it!

Now I'm wondering what I should do next! We have been together for years and me bringing this up to her was incredibly difficult, I wanted to share my fantasy and it went terribly on the night! We are completely fine now though!

 

[TallUKBlonde]

" Later in the day we started getting frisky again and I made a joke about putting porn on and she laughed out loud! We continued and had amazing sex (without watching porn this time! ) then I told here see I don't need to watch it!"

I think it went better than you think. Give it time and every now and then she will relax enough and be secure enough to enjoy watching porn and having even more amazing sex with you. (And then- if some of my past boyfriends are anything to go by- you may start wondering if you are enough for her!! LOL- Only joking!

 

[jw_kk]

Some have deeply embedded sensitivity, which manifests as jealousy and negative reaction, to the thought of their partner having sex with someone else. It's not gender isolated. There are other reasons why negative reactions occur around porn, ranging from early development trauma, abuse or similar factors, to more deeply traumatic experiences - being trafficked, non, or semi-consensual sex work, and so on...

Sometimes these insecurities are simpler in origin, but often they are a complex blend of life experience, culture, and self-assessment. Fears over sexual inadequacy, body image issues, and so on...

There's no easy answer, other than introspection over the event, as well as dialog/discussion. If you try one of these sessions again, let her pick the scene and see if the reaction changes.

 

[Sthwi]

Maybe it would be best to wait it out and see if she mentions watching porn again sometime in the future. You may find that you planted a seed in her imagination. Good luck!

 

[Fapster69]

Maybe it would be best to wait it out and see if she mentions watching porn again sometime in the future. You may find that you planted a seed in her imagination. Good luck!

Funnily enough we were lying in bed the next day and she was scrolling through instagram and this meme appeared on her feed, not even kidding!



I don't know how they do it but our phones are definitely invading our privacy! When I seen it I was like "no fucking way! " but I never said anything about it!

 

[Fapster69]

Maybe it would be best to wait it out and see if she mentions watching porn again sometime in the future. You may find that you planted a seed in her imagination. Good luck!

I doubt she will! We have amazing sex, we were each others first, but she is very sexually shy and never initiates sex! She will brush her ass/hand against me subtly, so much so that I don't even notice when she does it! This is her way of initiating but 10 years later and it's still so subtle I barely notice!

 

[Garrett]

Me and my GF had drinks the other night and were feeling frisky.

I bit the bullet and took this opportunity to ask my GF to watch porn with me. She was confused as to why I wanted to watch it with her so I told her I think it would be hot to watch together!

She said fine whatever (straight away I am like crap this isn't a good start), so I opened pornhub and said to her to pick something to watch.

She said to me, "no I want to see what you pick!"

Obviously I have a hotwife fetish and enjoy interracial(that's why I'm here!) but I'm thinking I need to go in gently and can't put on straight up cuck shit straight away so I scrolled a little bit and found an amateur video of a black guy having sex with a white girl.

I followed advice and was focused more on her pleasure than actually watching the video, she was confused why I picked this video (I just said it was hot) but at this point it was going alright.

Eventually we had sex and then after it she got upset and totally took it all the wrong way and thought she wasn't enough for me anymore, that I was bored of her and I needed to watch porn during sex to be able to get off now! I said she is beautiful, obviously I don't need porn don't be silly I just thought it would be hot!

Basically it couldn't have went any worse and now I think I've killed the fantasy stone dead! I had this vision in my head of how it went and it crashed and burned and couldn't have went any worse if I tried!

The next morning she was a lot better and I reiterated that I definitely don't need it she is amazingly beautiful and we have amazing sex, that I was just trying something different for a change! Later in the day we started getting frisky again and I made a joke about putting porn on and she laughed out loud! We continued and had amazing sex (without watching porn this time! ) then I told here see I don't need to watch it!

Now I'm wondering what I should do next! We have been together for years and me bringing this up to her was incredibly difficult, I wanted to share my fantasy and it went terribly on the night! We are completely fine now though!

You planted the seed. Now watch it grow.

 

[Fapster69]

You planted the seed. Now watch it grow.

I would say I tried to plant it and failed now I am back at square one!

 

[Jamesass]

Me and my GF had drinks the other night and were feeling frisky.

I bit the bullet and took this opportunity to ask my GF to watch porn with me. She was confused as to why I wanted to watch it with her so I told her I think it would be hot to watch together!

She said fine whatever (straight away I am like crap this isn't a good start), so I opened pornhub and said to her to pick something to watch.

She said to me, "no I want to see what you pick!"

Obviously I have a hotwife fetish and enjoy interracial(that's why I'm here!) but I'm thinking I need to go in gently and can't put on straight up cuck shit straight away so I scrolled a little bit and found an amateur video of a black guy having sex with a white girl.

I followed advice and was focused more on her pleasure than actually watching the video, she was confused why I picked this video (I just said it was hot) but at this point it was going alright.

Eventually we had sex and then after it she got upset and totally took it all the wrong way and thought she wasn't enough for me anymore, that I was bored of her and I needed to watch porn during sex to be able to get off now! I said she is beautiful, obviously I don't need porn don't be silly I just thought it would be hot!

Basically it couldn't have went any worse and now I think I've killed the fantasy stone dead! I had this vision in my head of how it went and it crashed and burned and couldn't have went any worse if I tried!

The next morning she was a lot better and I reiterated that I definitely don't need it she is amazingly beautiful and we have amazing sex, that I was just trying something different for a change! Later in the day we started getting frisky again and I made a joke about putting porn on and she laughed out loud! We continued and had amazing sex (without watching porn this time! ) then I told here see I don't need to watch it!

Now I'm wondering what I should do next! We have been together for years and me bringing this up to her was incredibly difficult, I wanted to share my fantasy and it went terribly on the night! We are completely fine now though!

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[Fapster69]

Honestly if you guys are able to help me out you will see the hottest cuck/hotwife content ever!

My GF is 10/10 and deserves to be shared!

 

[Snoopsissy]

I doubt she will! We have amazing sex, we were each others first, but she is very sexually shy and never initiates sex! She will brush her ass/hand against me subtly, so much so that I don't even notice when she does it! This is her way of initiating but 10 years later and it's still so subtle I barely notice!

I agree - I doubt she will mention it - why would you want to look at another woman / people have sex when your married to her ? . Unless they are switched on to sex already this is the way some womens minds work . Again unless she’s switched on and horny person she wont initiate sex either .

 

[majorem]

Honestly if you guys are able to help me out you will see the hottest cuck/hotwife content ever!

My GF is 10/10 and deserves to be shared!

Dude... the struggle is real, I know how you feel. I've made a lot of progress with my wife but it has been very slow; its taken years. You have to introduce stuff, help make things feel more normal and comfortable, then back off and let things chill, give it time to percolate in her mind. Sometimes nothing happens for months, then suddenly there is a significant jump forward (usually during a night of drinking when she's horny and uninhibited).

The worst thing is dealing with all the insecurities. My wife also for a while was even upset about me watching porn to masturbate - I'm like "have I ever not wanted to have sex with you? I watch porn because you only want to have sex like 30% as much as I want it. Then she's worried no one else would find her attractive, which is literally insane since she gets hit on all the time - but no amount of evidence is enough to reassure her and, of course, nothing I say counts because I'm her husband so "I have to say she's hot".The hotter the wife, the more insecure they often seem to be somehow, especially as they get older.

Unlike you, I am very interested in fucking other women but, ironically, contrary to my wife's fears, sharing her is an outlet for sexual adventure that I feel will make it less likely that I cheat on her because, its not so much that I want other women, its that I just want some adventure. Most of all, I'd like to get her out of her rut and for her to feel desirable and sexual again.

 

[NeedaDomInMI]

Maybe preselect a threesome video. Maybe a MFM video. Be certain the female is the center of attention and enjoying herself. Best to be an amateur, homemade video. Bonus points if the woman resembles your gal. Leave it on the screen for her to “catch you.”
Maybe she will watch it and ask questions. Primarily it will be why are you checking out porn like that.

 

[Fapster69]

Maybe preselect a threesome video. Maybe a MFM video. Be certain the female is the center of attention and enjoying herself. Best to be an amateur, homemade video. Bonus points if the woman resembles your gal. Leave it on the screen for her to “catch you.”
Maybe she will watch it and ask questions. Primarily it will be why are you checking out porn like that.

I've got a folder called XXX on my desktop with like 4 cuck videos in it, the girl looks like her! She commented on the folder once and said "you could be a bit more inconspicuous with the name! " but never asked me to open it!

I need to go to the toilet or something when the PC starts up and see if she clicks it when I'm away!

 

[majorem]

I've got a folder called XXX on my desktop with like 4 cuck videos in it, the girl looks like her! She commented on the folder once and said "you could be a bit more inconspicuous with the name! " but never asked me to open it!

I need to go to the toilet or something when the PC starts up and see if she clicks it when I'm away!

I did a thing in the past where I told my wife it would be hot if she masturbated to some porn and then told me which videos she liked. So I set her up with a folder of curated porn, which had some tamer stuff but naturally included a bunch of MFM videos of a type that I thought would be appealing to her. Then I asked her about it when we had sex later and, surprise, her favorite videos where the MFM ones, where a bunch of dudes were "servicing" a woman, who was just carried away in ecstasy and not even caring which cock was in her / getting jizzed all over. I was like "Yesssss".

 

[TallUKBlonde]

My husband casually showed me a few pictures of a girl called Scarlet Red who does actually look quite a lot like me (only younger!).
After a few drinks and a little smoke we watched her in a few videos- very hot, and talking about it being me in the scenarios was very horny and made for incredible sex. We haven't actually gone as far as making those things happen, and we probably never will, but the videos do add a certain something to our sex......

 

[Fl2play]

You need to rehab yourself first, before you lose anymore ground... Shower her with adult toys and lingerie....What she going to do, turn it down?... Rebuild her confidence and your role in the relationship bro.. Take your time, it's worth it!! She will begin to enjoy previously repressed feelings...

 

[Wifehot68]

Dude... the struggle is real, I know how you feel. I've made a lot of progress with my wife but it has been very slow; its taken years. You have to introduce stuff, help make things feel more normal and comfortable, then back off and let things chill, give it time to percolate in her mind. Sometimes nothing happens for months, then suddenly there is a significant jump forward (usually during a night of drinking when she's horny and uninhibited).

The worst thing is dealing with all the insecurities. My wife also for a while was even upset about me watching porn to masturbate - I'm like "have I ever not wanted to have sex with you? I watch porn because you only want to have sex like 30% as much as I want it. Then she's worried no one else would find her attractive, which is literally insane since she gets hit on all the time - but no amount of evidence is enough to reassure her and, of course, nothing I say counts because I'm her husband so I have to say she's hot.The hotter the wife, the more insecure they often seem to be somehow, especially as they get older.

Unlike you, I am very interested in fucking other women but, ironically, contrary to my wife's fears, sharing her is an outlet for sexual adventure that I feel will make it less likely that I cheat on her because, its not so much that I want other women, its that I just want some adventure. Most of all, I'd like to get her out of her rut and for her to feel desirable and sexual again.

Share the same experience … I agree that is mostly insecurity , and they are better at hiding their desire than us, as we are more vocal and straight to what we want… SEX !! I learnt to respect they need time , more than us before jumping into something outside their comfort zone, unlike guys who are more likely to try it especially if there is sex involved …

 

[Snoopsissy]

I've got a folder called XXX on my desktop with like 4 cuck videos in it, the girl looks like her! She commented on the folder once and said "you could be a bit more inconspicuous with the name! " but never asked me to open it!

I need to go to the toilet or something when the PC starts up and see if she clicks it when I'm away!

I used to do something similar with my ex wife - she worked in a bar so came home late - this was years ago - vhs years lol - anyway I’d leave a video in the slot and wait up the stairs and listen - was about 50/50 to hear the video being loaded in lol . At my work there were always videos about between the lads . She actually asked me one night what happened to a particular tape I had gotten - this was a woman fucking herself with a double ended dildo - then

I've got a folder called XXX on my desktop with like 4 cuck videos in it, the girl looks like her! She commented on the folder once and said "you could be a bit more inconspicuous with the name! " but never asked me to open it!

I need to go to the toilet or something when the PC starts up and see if she clicks it when I'm away!

i had something similar with my ex wife - she worked at a bar so mostly I was in bed when she got in . I worked in a large motor dealership so there was always plenty of porn on the go - this was in the days of vhs tapes lol , I’d leave a video in the slot but sort of half in so you could see it - about half of the time I’d listen and hear the tape being loaded in . She actually asked me about one of the tapes I had gotten for a weekend and what happened to it - this particular one had a woman fucking herself with a double ended dildo - then her dog appeared so she sucked that and let it fuck her - two men then appeared and caught her with the dog and fucked her and slapped her around - tried to get it back but no luck - other times she would say have you any dirty tapes - so yes leave one lying around so she will find it - stay out of the way and curiosity will work it’s magic - don’t really mention it and just repeat with a different one but in the same genre lol

 

[Snoopsissy]

Apologies for the double take there - phone feffed up