Benefits having a bull in a marriage?
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Early 50s here, married 30 years. Wife's 2nd marriage my first. Good relationship, (her) kids grown and gone. Sex never a problem but boring. She liked the HBO softcore stuff kinda complaining they didn't show enough(any guys dicks). She'd suggest things, we'd go to adult book store, watch a flick or two. No big deal. One night at the store she leads me to the dildo, viberater section, I'm embarrassed as hell. She says she wants a small vib, she's embarrassed too, we buy it. Next night at home she's messing with it we're both embarrassed, she gets off then we fuck, she's more turned on than I've seen in 20 years. I never asked about the vibe, she never included it again at all. One night I'm sleeping I, kinda wake up hearing the vibe, I look over and she stiff as a board holding it on her clit. She sees me watching and cums HARD, we fucked like crazy for 45 minutes. Next night after 2 glasses of wine I ask her, she says she uses it every day but afraid what I'll think. This was like 6 years ago. Since then she'll occasionally use it while we fool around, she says she likes it more if I'm not there. I just left it alone.
About 3 yrs ago we get into occasional mfm with a guy we know....long boring story on how it started.
I'm an idoit not wanting to know she wanted more sex.
One night semi drunk she starts telling about her past. After her divorce(at 22) she dated a little, I knew that...she tells me while we were dating(fucking) she was seeing 2 other guys, I knew that also. She tells me after we'd have a date, sex date she'd leave, I thought she was picking up her kids at her ex hubby place, come to find out she'd stop by another guys place for more sex. I'm thinking no way. I put it all together how sometimes she call around 11pm asking if she could stop by for sex, I was always like hell yes. Yep I was 2nd guy for the night. And she was always horny as fuck and wet as hell when she did a late night visit.
OK now she's 51 and we're into this mfm with this one guy. We've done it over 80 times over cpl of years, probably more. During covid there were stretches he'd stop by 3 nights a week.
This has really improved our sex like you can't believe.
About 3 yrs ago we get into occasional mfm with a guy we know....long boring story on how it started.
I'm an idoit not wanting to know she wanted more sex.
One night semi drunk she starts telling about her past. After her divorce(at 22) she dated a little, I knew that...she tells me while we were dating(fucking) she was seeing 2 other guys, I knew that also. She tells me after we'd have a date, sex date she'd leave, I thought she was picking up her kids at her ex hubby place, come to find out she'd stop by another guys place for more sex. I'm thinking no way. I put it all together how sometimes she call around 11pm asking if she could stop by for sex, I was always like hell yes. Yep I was 2nd guy for the night. And she was always horny as fuck and wet as hell when she did a late night visit.
OK now she's 51 and we're into this mfm with this one guy. We've done it over 80 times over cpl of years, probably more. During covid there were stretches he'd stop by 3 nights a week.
This has really improved our sex like you can't believe.
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For me, as a wife who has open permission to play with anybody I desire, I think that having other men is overall a benefit to our relationship with my husband and my boyfriend both. While I love them both immensely there are things that other men can do that I enjoy sexually. There is something about a random sex partner where there is no pressure or concern to be a true slut and to be as dirty as I desire. I don't have to worry about what the guy will think of me the next morning or if he will judge me. Not that my husband or boyfriend does, but I always feel more self-conscious when with them.
Is it just the great sex or is there more to it?
I think a big part is the husbands loyal and loving focus on his wife.
Putting her wants first.
Making her pleasure and satisfaction #1 priority over his, including his voyeuristic fantasies of watching his wife become his personal porn star.
I know in my marriage she really embrassed being a Hotwife when I encouraged her to connect with her choice of FWB and enjoy dates alone with him. I didn’t even ask to watch or have video’s or pics just wanted her to go and enjoy herself by herself with him.
Of course I wanted to watch and get video’s and pics but allowing and encouraging her to enjoy her dates just for herself made all the difference.
She seemed to believe me when I said its all about her and that I truly loved her being a Hotwife.
It made her realize how much I love her.
I'd ask my hubs to weight-in too, but for us, hubs was always attentive yet he knew that I desired more of the physical/sexual side of a relationship. Since he lacked certain skills, he became a bit irritable and disconnected, even though i knew that he loved me totally. He seemed to get almost insecure... so worried about me having a sexual affair that eh almost drove me to it! Then, we spoke at great lengths and came to the only obvious conclusion. I took my first Bull and hubs was eventually included. The transformation was amazing! he is even more devoted and generally happier. We are very much in love and committed, even with our new arrangement.
When we did trips to Vegas he would share the driving. We always got two queen beds in the hotel. Sometimes she slept with him and then me . But we both had sex with her. It was hot when she had regular bulls come along. On one trip we had two meet up with us and it was me and two men who were fucking my wife. She was so worn out that weekend. She had 9 loads from three men put in that hot pussy of hers. She was the best slut wife and wife period.
This! Exactly. I did not want to marry a “vanilla” woman who needed to be persuaded to have some fun.
We were lucky enough to meet a local bbc, whom became not just the wifes regular lover, but the 3 of us became good friends, it lasted for over 5 years and only stopped because he returned to Kenya. We all felt from the first social meeting over a few drinks that the dynamics of our sexual relationship was going to change. We had met 3 others since starting down this path,they had all bought good and not so good points, they had sort of opened the door to sexual pleasures that we wanted to experience. We chatted about our feelings and what we wanted from our experiences, the wife said she enjoyed the excitement of meeting strangers and fucking them with me involved but at the same time did not want to work her way through lots of different men. The first time we met for more than a drink we invited him to ours, which was a first but we felt comfortable enough with him, and over the next 5 yrs we had introduced him to family and friends, by saying he had worked with me previously, we went on holidays abroad together, where him and the wife were the couple and i was a friend, he would pop round when i was not there but they would always make sure in one way or another that i was involved \, sometimes vids or pics sent to phone even facetiming me. Watching them fuck and the way she was with him, i did feel momentarily feel some sharp pains of jealousy, but that was instantley distingushed by the lust and site of my wife enjoying herself in wild abandoment, it turned me on so much and felt an overwhelming feeling of elation for her and pride.
Your story is amazing. Would you say your wife is polyamorous? I know my Hotwife has strong feelings for one of her FWB’s. It makes their sex very passionate I feel.
Yes would say she is, She found it hard for a while when her feelings for him grew over the time we all shared but when i assured her that i did not mind her having feelings for him as long as i was not pushed out, it takes a lot of trust and respect in a relationship like this and communication with all involved and it worked for us but a lot of different angles have to be looked at?
I’ve found that some Hotwives really struggle with developing emotional feelings for their FWB’s or Bulls.
I believe its natural for people to develop emotional feelings for sex partners especially those long term relationships.
As a husband I enjoy my wife having emotional connections with her long time FWB’s or Bulls.
She is truly polyamorous. These other men are very close drear friends of both of us now. Very special relationships foresure.
You could have written this for us because it is VERY similar to our story. My wife is a lot younger than me and when she hit her sexual prime, I couldn't give her what she needed and wanted and it caused a great deal of stress on me and I also figured she was going to cheat on me behind my back, which caused more stress. Once we got the usual start up issues solved, I can honestly say it saved our marriage and we are both much happier, communicate more openly and honest and are committed to each other even more. I will
yes many women have trouble separating love and sex and it can be dangerous to a marriage if not talked about open and honestly
Out of all the men my wife had fucked, she had grown attached to one guy. He made her so happy and she had him at the house the most to have sex with her. She would serve me dinner and whisper in my ear when you are done. Come to the room and fuck me. I could smell his cologne as soon as I was in our bed. Did you have your friend over? I did. Was it good? It was. And I need more. I would get so hard knowing that her lover was having my wife earlier. I could see suck marks on her neck from him biting and sucking on her. I slid my cock into her pussy and she was still slippery and wet. Just the way I liked my wife. I would say dirty things to her like...so you were here in my bed fucking like a hot tramp? Yes. You love sharing your pussy with other men don't you? I love it. And I would pump her harder. I could feel her tense up and she would yell for me to fuck her harder as she would cum. That was my signal to pound my wife's pussy as hard as I could and then we would almost cum together. My wife was nasty. The sex she gave me because I let her fuck other men was out of this world. We once met a guy in a restaurant and she wore a short dress with no panties. Just a garter belt and stockings. I had him sit next to her in a booth. And she put his hand on her pussy and right there in the booth he was fingering my wife. We hadn't even ordered our food yet and he made her cum. Seeing her face as she struggled to hold it in from yelling while she bit her lip and came. He then licked his fingers. We skipped dinner and just had a couple of drinks and he followed us home and we both fucked my wife and he had no problem fucking her in front of me while I took pictures.
Having a nasty hot wife was the best. We no longer are in the lifestyle. And I am still with my wife. She was and will always be the best woman for me. Even though she had so many who had fucked her. It was the best time of our lives when I was sharing my wife with others.
Having a nasty hot wife was the best. We no longer are in the lifestyle. And I am still with my wife. She was and will always be the best woman for me. Even though she had so many who had fucked her. It was the best time of our lives when I was sharing my wife with others.
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Up until I met my boyfriend my hookups were all casual. We knew the guy that is my now boyfriend for several years and really liked each other as friends, but once we started having sex I quickly fell in love with him. I still remember being conflicted by my emotions until one night he was over and I was sucking his dick. He had a handful of my hair and as he got close to cumming, he said the words, "I Love You!" I was scared to death but as I kept going, he added, "I know this sounds strange, but I love Andreas too."
Later that same night we were all in bed together and I was full of both my men's cum and we were almost asleep. I whispered, "I love you both so much." I think from that point on we have been open about our love for each other.
Later that same night we were all in bed together and I was full of both my men's cum and we were almost asleep. I whispered, "I love you both so much." I think from that point on we have been open about our love for each other.
Thank you for your compliment! Yes, you both are very lucky to have figured out what it is that you both need in your marriage, just as hubs and I did!
Our marriage has become much happier since my wife fucks other men.🥰
As others slowly began to know about it, some more in detail than others, we began to open up more that we were cuckold couples and that he who was our "secret friend" was our bull that I had sex with. Slowly it also emerged that there were more than just him do, m I had sex with and I was fine. We have never tried to push it down on anyone who does not want to know or know about it
