After much talk , plying porno, talking my way around it till we were in our 50’s - married for 30 years I finally asked , would you enjoy getting fucked by a black man with a bbc ? That’s all it took , in one week we were sharing a bed with a great guy our own age who just happened to have the prettiest 10” black cock you ever sucked on . Nothing happens till you ask or she gets tired of waiting and finds it on her own lol