Hotwife on the fence...Progress?

Apr 30, 2023
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Hello everyone,

Ill start with some background info about us. My wife and I are in our early 30s, we are high school sweethearts and have been together for a little over 15 years. I am latino, 6 ft tall, 210 lbs Athletic. She is a fiery petite Latina, 5 ft 1in tall, 135 lbs, porcelain skin, and an amazingly plump ass. We have always had an incredible sex life, full of passionate and long fucking. I am naturally kinky, and while she does a good job of hiding it...she is also a freak.

Sometime in 2018 I became increasingly interested in swinging, hotwifing, and ethical non-monogamy. One night I forgot to close out a web browser that contained information about swinging, and unsurprisingly she came across it while pay some of out bills. She questioned me immediately and was very upset about it. It turns out that she was mostly upset because she felt that I was hiding and exploring without including her. Over the next 2 or 3 months we explored the topic, including downloading an app called Feeld and opening an account on a swinger site. We connected with a couple our age and immediately hit it off via messaging. After a few weeks of messaging, we invited them out for a night of fun, they bailed at the last min. We delt with 3 different couples that flaked on us over the next few months, because of this my wife gave up on swinging all together.

Fast forward to early 2019, we were out drinking and having a great time, when my wife asked an interesting question. “so, um…what kind of porn do you actually watch? Caught me off guard but I was a bit buzzed and decided to be honest. I told her that I mostly watch hotwife/cuckold/group sex/mfm related porn.

“Hotwife, cuckold…what is that? She asked, with a puzzled look on her face. As I explained it to her, the look on her face changed from confusion to a look of devilish intrigue. “Wait, so the wife gets to enjoy all the dick she wants, and the hubby doesn’t get to play with others. Is this really a thing? And the guys the women get to fuck can have huge dicks and amazing bodies…how does that even work? Isn’t there jealousy? Why would any guys want that?

“WAIT…do you want that?

We had some of the kinkiest most open sex of our lives that night. She asked if I wanted to find a young guy with a big dick for her to enjoy. The next morning, we had a discussion about and I found out that she found the idea extremely hot but that she wasn’t sure if she was ready to actually do it. She was worried about damaging our relationship, insecure with her body, and worried about feeling guilt and shame due to her catholic upbringing. We continued to discuss the idea and role play for a few weeks, before we found out that we were expecting our first child. For the health reasons we decide to shelve the idea, but we continued to joke and tease about hotwifing. She would mention men she found attractive and go as far as telling her sister that if the chance presented itself she would use a hall pass on a famous actor. She even mentioned hotwifing to her sister and asked her what she thought about the idea.

The roleplay, flirting, and teasing has increased quite a bit recently, not sure if it has anything to do with her being 6 months pregnant. Yesterday while driving, we started to joke about it, and she mentioned that she would find it weird to fuck another man while I watched in the corner. I told her she could always explore solo and send me update with pictures and videos. She didn’t respond. Earlier this morning, I needed to use her phone and when I unlocked it I found BBC, Cuckold, Hotwife, Rough sex, and big dick porn.

Am I over thinking here? Or am I actually making progress and if so, what's next?
 
Hello everyone,

Ill start with some background info about us. My wife and I are in our early 30s, we are high school sweethearts and have been together for a little over 15 years. I am latino, 6 ft tall, 210 lbs Athletic. She is a fiery petite Latina, 5 ft 1in tall, 135 lbs, porcelain skin, and an amazingly plump ass. We have always had an incredible sex life, full of passionate and long fucking. I am naturally kinky, and while she does a good job of hiding it...she is also a freak.

Sometime in 2018 I became increasingly interested in swinging, hotwifing, and ethical non-monogamy. One night I forgot to close out a web browser that contained information about swinging, and unsurprisingly she came across it while pay some of out bills. She questioned me immediately and was very upset about it. It turns out that she was mostly upset because she felt that I was hiding and exploring without including her. Over the next 2 or 3 months we explored the topic, including downloading an app called Feeld and opening an account on a swinger site. We connected with a couple our age and immediately hit it off via messaging. After a few weeks of messaging, we invited them out for a night of fun, they bailed at the last min. We delt with 3 different couples that flaked on us over the next few months, because of this my wife gave up on swinging all together.

Fast forward to early 2019, we were out drinking and having a great time, when my wife asked an interesting question. “so, um…what kind of porn do you actually watch? Caught me off guard but I was a bit buzzed and decided to be honest. I told her that I mostly watch hotwife/cuckold/group sex/mfm related porn.

“Hotwife, cuckold…what is that? She asked, with a puzzled look on her face. As I explained it to her, the look on her face changed from confusion to a look of devilish intrigue. “Wait, so the wife gets to enjoy all the dick she wants, and the hubby doesn’t get to play with others. Is this really a thing? And the guys the women get to fuck can have huge dicks and amazing bodies…how does that even work? Isn’t there jealousy? Why would any guys want that?

“WAIT…do you want that?

We had some of the kinkiest most open sex of our lives that night. She asked if I wanted to find a young guy with a big dick for her to enjoy. The next morning, we had a discussion about and I found out that she found the idea extremely hot but that she wasn’t sure if she was ready to actually do it. She was worried about damaging our relationship, insecure with her body, and worried about feeling guilt and shame due to her catholic upbringing. We continued to discuss the idea and role play for a few weeks, before we found out that we were expecting our first child. For the health reasons we decide to shelve the idea, but we continued to joke and tease about hotwifing. She would mention men she found attractive and go as far as telling her sister that if the chance presented itself she would use a hall pass on a famous actor. She even mentioned hotwifing to her sister and asked her what she thought about the idea.

The roleplay, flirting, and teasing has increased quite a bit recently, not sure if it has anything to do with her being 6 months pregnant. Yesterday while driving, we started to joke about it, and she mentioned that she would find it weird to fuck another man while I watched in the corner. I told her she could always explore solo and send me update with pictures and videos. She didn’t respond. Earlier this morning, I needed to use her phone and when I unlocked it I found BBC, Cuckold, Hotwife, Rough sex, and big dick porn.

Am I over thinking here? Or am I actually making progress and if so, what's next?
Just go with the flow, don't tell her you saw that stuff on her phone. Let her take it where she wants to go with it, chances are she'll end up meeting the man she wants as her lover and the fun will begin! Good luck!