Ok so my wife is aware of my desire to share her and things haven’t gone so well in the past but on advice from other members I decided a while ago to back right off and leave a few thoughts spinning in her head - a few weeks back I noticed she went to meet an ex male work colleague but she had on a semi sheer lace black top and a push up bra . She hardly wears this and not whilst out with me , she has been a slut in the past and would love to re awaken this in her , she sometimes lets slip about her past but then won’t give any more details - it’s in her past and why would I want to know what she has done with other men ? . But she knows this turns me on also , in the car today she suddenly started talking about her past again without details but made a point of telling me that the coffee guys workmate wanted her phone no . I never reacted but does anyone suggest how to move things along for her to give him it or do you think she already has and was looking for my reaction ?? Or maybe was him she already met with the push up bra on ?
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I'm currently in the beginning stage of introducing this lifestyle to my new gf. I've made hints. She likes it . But I don't want to force anything because I don't want her to think less of me, she asked me if I want to share her I said yes. And we left it at that. So ill just wait until she's ready. You should do the same. Maybe watch cheating porn together. Or tell her you had a dream she cheated on you and you woke up turn on.
My guess is she gave her number and she's guilty feeling but also turned on the fact she can be in a loving relationship and get bent over by a random dude on the side without any negative impact to your relationship. Just enjoy this time of watching her be mysterious. The best part of this lifestyle is not knowing what your partner is doing or thinking.
My guess is she gave her number and she's guilty feeling but also turned on the fact she can be in a loving relationship and get bent over by a random dude on the side without any negative impact to your relationship. Just enjoy this time of watching her be mysterious. The best part of this lifestyle is not knowing what your partner is doing or thinking.
I'm trying to do the same with mine start small work up to it
Porn is out for starters as she says she has never watched it ! See this is where my mind is all conflicted - my wife states that porn would not do anything for her as why would watching someone else turn her on , she should only be interested in turning her husband on . But this is the same woman who fucked her boss , a different work colleague ‘and her sisters boyfriend ‘ all before I met her. See what I mean guys she just doesn’t fucking add up to me 🤔. I have ex slut now mother fucking Theresa living with me lol . Anyhoo last night in bed she was looking at plunge and balcony bras for a better cleavage ??? . I never asked the obvious question so maybe she has given her number out and is playing bad slut / good nun with me . This guys name popped up out the blue also , never been mentioned before which I thought was strange - why tell me he wanted her no - surely she could have kept that to herself - I’m going to stay schtuum and see if his name pops up again which is a real red flag 🚩. If anyone has a wife like mines and you now share her any help is greatly appreciated - correction above the ex work colleague she fucked was when I was married to her and not only that he turned out to be her true lost love - yes just like in shrek only he wasn’t green , more grey and furry - more like a rat 🐀 in fact - and a false valour claiming mutherfucker at that !!!
Just suprise your wife with some hung dude. Put a blind fold on her . When she feels super full see how she reacts. She doesn't sound that amazing
I think ur wife doesn't want to be shared, but she definitely wants to get fucked by another guy.
Bringing his name up is a way to introduce him to conversation. Next his name cums up more, next she's fucking him.
But she wants it to be her choice, not yours.
U need to assure her that you're completely ok with her fucking other guys.
Encourage her. Be a part of it. She's gonna do it anyway.
Bringing his name up is a way to introduce him to conversation. Next his name cums up more, next she's fucking him.
But she wants it to be her choice, not yours.
U need to assure her that you're completely ok with her fucking other guys.
Encourage her. Be a part of it. She's gonna do it anyway.
In my case it took a long time before she told who she always wanted to fuck and would if she had the chance.
My guess is that you must answer such questions yourself. You did one already — by all means, you can give HIM her phone #. Mind, she’ll know immediately you did it.
Alternatively, keep a few copies of a slip in your wallet when you go out together.
Ex: ‘Thanks for noticing my wife! I’d love to share but she’s reluctant. Text me to lick that problem together!’
WHEN he does, you coordinate plans. Ex: she’s getting groceries and he shows up. She reports to you, and you give him HER take on that encounter. On that basis, you plan their NEXT encounter. So he gets ongoing feedback and coaching from you.
If he continues to ‘bump into her’ every few weeks or so and DOESN’T report that to you, that says she’s accepting of these encounters and DOESN’T want you to know it’s happening. Discus that with him also. If she initiates any contact with her, he should tell you so the conversation continues. Any time an issue arises, you troubleshoot with him. Anytime things go well, you affirm his course of action.
If your wife — who knows of your fetish — returns to this, be crazy horny over it. Give her affirmation! Then report it to HIM.
If while all this is happening, you catch another guy drooling over your wife, give him a copy of the same slip and start the same process while continuing with the first guy. Ditto if a third guy gives her a good eying-over.
Yes I agree with you , I think that too but maybe one could lead to another and as you say it has to be and will be her choice when , I don’t know him at all so she needs to mention him , I’ve tried in a roundabout way but was a dead end and I didn’t push it .
Hopefully slight more encouragement - were away for the weekend - we were both dressed up having a drink / dance which led to a vibe session during which I asked her - if you want to be ridden open your legs - she moaned and opened up - later on I asked if your being ridden already open up - no movement - later - if you have someone in mind or you know they want to fuck you open up - legs went open . On returning home yesterday in bed just climbed on her and fucked her hard - now at any time previously she has always shut down in a big way any mention of her previous men , how many etc - during a laugh / joke conversation she counted the men she has fucked her and came up with 10 , she insisted none were one nighters and she liked them firstly , she then said she will tell me about another 3 with names ( she says I won’t know any of them ) next time she has a drink and probably vibing 👍 she said they may or not be ex work colleagues at her last work ( I know for a fact she had fucked one there and I know she has about 3 guys nos from there still in her phone ) - hopefully she is opening up her barriers and maybe slowly getting there - have been saying things like I’m not judging you ifn fact I approve and encourage you to be a slutty wife - sort of indirectly giving her the green light with the guy mentioned above . She sort of surprised me mentioning any numbers or names .
Any advice on how to go softly softly and encourage my wife into letting her shields down and her slut side back out - maybe I need to encourage her to see this guy that wants her phone no but don’t know him whatsoever and if I mention him it will be too obvious , need to let her be friends with him firstly then I’m sure she will let him fuck her - so how can I play my part to steer her in that direction ? I also do y know anyone that knows him / me so I could pass her no on to him without being rumbled - I’ve checked her phone and she doesn’t have a no with that name in her phone either 🤔
This other guy has said to her ex work colleague that my wife went for a coffee with and had the push up bra etc on . During this coffee she told me that a guy he works beside and she knows of said I want and going to get that little blondes phone no - she hasn’t mentioned it again but I’m positive it was to gauge my interest in it
The lesson here: prepare beforehand. Since she sometimes slips some history, think through a few general responses and be ready when it happens.
After all -- she can’t do much with no reaction. If she WAS testing you, you show her no way forward.
You might have replied, ‘did this come second hand, or did he ask you himself.’ And if she asks ‘why do you want to know that,’ you can say that ‘a man who directly tells a woman what he wants has my respect … that’s how a man’s man will do it.’ And if she comes back, ‘even with a married woman?’ You say, ‘especially with a married woman.’ Or, you may have asked if he’s someone who could catch/hold your interest? If she wants to know why, you point out that you’ll support her whatever she decides.
The point: good replies offered as soon as she speaks might elicit a relevant response. And even if not, you communicated to your wife that you’ve no interest in policing boundaries. She’s an adult, he’s an adult. This much is clear: he talks with his workmate, and everybody knows he’s desirous enough to make a determined attempt to get her phone number. That a manly trait – he’s got balls! Again, you communicate respect toward him, and support for whatever your wife decides.
And if she reacts poorly to any of this? You point out that you support her in whatever she does. If she gets exasperated and asks, ‘don’t you care if he fucks me!?!?’ To which, you may reply ... ‘I’ll love and support you whatever you decide to do.’
‘And what if he actually did?’
‘Then I hope he is really, really good and launches you in orbit; then I’ll reclaim you!’
'And if he's better than you?'
'Then I'll just have to work on upping my game ... won't I ...' [delivered with a smile...].
Edit: the 'little blonde' remark indicates that this guy is making a 'project' of this. He's going to be watching and doing everything he can from his end. You both want the same thing. He is your indispensable ally in this matter. That's a good thing.
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Another thought, Snoopsissy. Have you thought about buying your wife a half or quarter bra? Then don’t forget nipple bands? The effect of both together can be quite remarkable.
Coffee with an ex-coworker, asked for number, mentions his name a few times and is now shopping for cleavage bras? I would say she is up to something. If she asks to see him again, that would be a clear sign. Would she have time to see him without you knowing? Dod she tell you she was shopping for bras?
Well she said it was a co worker she had a coffee with and was a friend of his that said he wanted her no . She chats to her ex worker on phone with me there on occasion but no more as yet coffee s arranged or mentioned . Yes she would have time to do that I think and yes I was present when she was looking for cleavage bras , I never asked why now she wanted those ( she has great tits anyway ) .
I didn’t react on hearing he wanted her no because in the past she has consistently denied wanting any other men or mens attention . But at same time hoping it would get the wheels turning in her mind due to my lack of reaction and yes I agree this guy does want her no , I’ve been joking about it with her and answers are the usual vague ones she gives ,I say maybe you already have his no , she replies maybe you’ll just have to keep guessing . She works part time so does have the means to meet up during the day / chat on the phone with him .
I have no personal way to contact this guy and don’t have the ex workers no either ( but she has that in her phone ) . I’m sure he would message her back something if I sent it to him ( not sure of his marital status but my wife has said previously that 99% of them screw around ) ,any other suggestions short of leaving her no on his car windshield ? Have to watch that as there’s sure to be cameras around . So I think it’s down to her to make the next move if she wants to and I think she does - any tips on how to help that along would be great - don’t know each other socially - not sure how well she even knows this guy ? All her cards are played close to her chest and really hard to read