It's finally happening - advice wanted

[VerityS]

Hi all

Hopefully this is the right place for this.

I’m 32, been married for 11 years, we’ve been together 16 years, 3 kids and I love everything about him but he’s so boring in bed. I’ve only been with one man besides him. We’ve never had sex outside of the bedroom. We only just tried anal sex 2 years ago and although I love it he’s not that interested. I want him to use me, pull my hair, be rough, don’t take no for an answer. I’d do anything for him to one day after I get home from work for him not to allow me in the shower and just take me on the kitchen bench. We’ve discussed this and he says that’s who he is and gave me permission about 5 years ago to seek what I need elsewhere as long as I was discreet. I have never done that.

I’ve found myself watching porn and specifically hotwife and cuckold porn. He knows and says he’s not interested in the cuckold thing but reiterated that I can go on dates or have a boyfriend as long as I’m discreet.

I really really really want to do this but I feel so guilty even thinking about it. Maybe if he wanted to join it would be different but he doesn’t. We’ve discussed swinging both as a couple and separately but he says he’s not interested although he likes that he would be allowed to if he ever changed his mind so I should just go ahead with this.

A few months ago 3 guys move in a few houses down the road one one of them is adorable. We’ve spoken many times, I know he’s single, we flirt and I thought he might be interested but yet again I never acted on it. My husband knows all of this, we have no secrets. So as a New Year’s present my husband went a told this guy all about me and gave him permission to pursue it. I’ve just finished talking to him, he knocked on our door and asked me out for a drink, I said no not knowing what was going on but then he leaned in and kissed me and I kissed back. I have chills. I told him I would think about and then went and told my husband straight away. He told me he was watching, he set it up and he approves and told me to go.

I’m so nervous, it’s tomorrow if I say yes. My husband seems more excited than me. We’ve set boundaries, we have rules, it’s all out in the open but it still feels like I’m going to cheat. He keeps assuring me it’s ok, that he wants this too.

So to any others who have been through this before were you nervous. How did you deal with it? Did you tell your husband every detail when you got home? Is it purely about sex or did you go on dates, like dinner, movies etc?

I’m sitting here typing this and literally shaking both with nervous excitement and worry that things might not change for the better but for the worse between my husband and I.

I’m happy to listen to any advice.

 

[Alan Carol_IN]

Well, did you go through with it?

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

I would have one more serious conversation with your husband. Tell him you are willing to try this, but once you follow through, you cannot take it back. What is done is done! When my wife and I finally took the leap, we agreed she would try it once with the understanding that if either of us didn’t enjoy it, we would stop, no questions asked, but there would be no further consequences. I couldn’t hold it over her head if I got jealous. With that understanding, she gave it a try and we both continue to enjoy her freedom to play.

As long as he doesn’t get jealous, he may be more aggressive fucking you if he knows he needs to compete with other men in your life. However, you do need to make sure he knows you remain his top priority or it can cause a lot of problems.

Best of luck! Keep us posted on how it goes!

 

[VerityS]

Keep us posted on how it goes!

Yes I did end up going. It was everything and more that I hoped for. He went so far above and beyond it was amazing.

He turned up to pick me up in a hired ferrari, when I answered to door with my husband he told me to kiss him goodbye and then he kissed me in front of him. As he lead me to the car he says so I hear you like to be dominated and bent me over the hood, took my panties off and put some vibrating toy in me, then threw my panties to my husband and said we wont be needing these. I wasn’t sure what to do, I was taken by surprise, I was worried because I wore a really short black dress like he asked me to and now I had no underwear and we were going to a restaurant. In the car he rolled my dress up to my waist and put some bar between my knees so I couldn’t shut my legs. Anyone in a tall car driving next to us would have been able to see. Once I got over the embarrassment it was such a turn on.

Just a note, whatever that vibrating toy is I need to get myself one. It was controlled by his phone and he kept playing with it all night. I was on the edge all night.

After dinner we drove to the city and he had booked a suite at a hotel. He had gone to such trouble, there was rose petal’s on the bed, a jacuzzi, and he had a massage table set up. I was so ready for him and I dropped to my knees to give him his turn but he wouldn’t let me, He got me onto the massage table and the massaged me head to toe for an hour, like every single inch of me, every finger, every toe, at that stage he could have done anything he wanted to me. When he got me off the table I literally couldn’t walk, we hadn’t even really done anything yet and I had already orgasmed 4 or 5 times.

Once he got me on the bed he turned. He pulled out a bag that had some BDSM stuff in it, I had never used this but was excited. I started to tell him that I was looking forward to this but he slapped me really hard hard and to me to shut up. He then put a ball gag thing in my mouth. We used ropes and clamps and candle wax, oh anyone can do that to me anytime. Who would have thought? He is so big too, when we did anal sex it was a challenge. He cummed on my face and wouldn’t let me wipe it off until he took a picture and sent it to my husband. Then he licked it off and kissed me with it. That was amazing.

I didn’t want to stay the night so we cleaned up, fucked again in shower and then before we left he told me that we need to stretch my ass for next time so he put that vibrating toy in my pussy again and and big anal plug in my ass that I had to wear home. When we were walking out he pulled my dress up so it was only just covering things and told me if I pull it down he will take it off me. Walking two blocks down to where the car was knowing every single person would have been looking at me was not something I expected I would have liked but I was fully immersed by that stage.

When we got home he walked me to the door and then forced my to my knees and to suck him before he rang the doorbell, so my husband answered the door to see that. They spoke for about 5 minutes and my husband actually pushed my head in a few times.

When he left my husband dragged me inside and pushed me on to the bed and fucked me like he never has before. I almost cried. I loved it. Where has that passion been. I hope it keeps up. The next morning I was doing my yoga and he came in, didn’t say a word, ripped my pants and fucked me. An $80 pair of pants ruined but please keep doing that. I love him so much.

He tells me he thinks it went well and wants me to keep seeing other people whether it be the same person or others. I saw him down talking to my lover (it feels so wrong to say that) today, he won’t tell me what it was about but I can’t wait.

So that was literally my first time ever. What an experience.

I just realized how long this is. Sorry. I was just reliving it as I typed. I hope I did it justice, it was so incredibly good.

 

[GabrielBigHard]

You naughty girl!

 

[2wheel]

Congrats on entering the lifestyle, soon you'll be taking care of his roommates, and congrats on making your husband a cuckold.

 

[arubarua]

Yes I did end up going. It was everything and more that I hoped for. He went so far above and beyond it was amazing.

He turned up to pick me up in a hired ferrari, when I answered to door with my husband he told me to kiss him goodbye and then he kissed me in front of him. As he lead me to the car he says so I hear you like to be dominated and bent me over the hood, took my panties off and put some vibrating toy in me, then threw my panties to my husband and said we wont be needing these. I wasn’t sure what to do, I was taken by surprise, I was worried because I wore a really short black dress like he asked me to and now I had no underwear and we were going to a restaurant. In the car he rolled my dress up to my waist and put some bar between my knees so I couldn’t shut my legs. Anyone in a tall car driving next to us would have been able to see. Once I got over the embarrassment it was such a turn on.

Just a note, whatever that vibrating toy is I need to get myself one. It was controlled by his phone and he kept playing with it all night. I was on the edge all night.

After dinner we drove to the city and he had booked a suite at a hotel. He had gone to such trouble, there was rose petal’s on the bed, a jacuzzi, and he had a massage table set up. I was so ready for him and I dropped to my knees to give him his turn but he wouldn’t let me, He got me onto the massage table and the massaged me head to toe for an hour, like every single inch of me, every finger, every toe, at that stage he could have done anything he wanted to me. When he got me off the table I literally couldn’t walk, we hadn’t even really done anything yet and I had already orgasmed 4 or 5 times.

Once he got me on the bed he turned. He pulled out a bag that had some BDSM stuff in it, I had never used this but was excited. I started to tell him that I was looking forward to this but he slapped me really hard hard and to me to shut up. He then put a ball gag thing in my mouth. We used ropes and clamps and candle wax, oh anyone can do that to me anytime. Who would have thought? He is so big too, when we did anal sex it was a challenge. He cummed on my face and wouldn’t let me wipe it off until he took a picture and sent it to my husband. Then he licked it off and kissed me with it. That was amazing.

I didn’t want to stay the night so we cleaned up, fucked again in shower and then before we left he told me that we need to stretch my ass for next time so he put that vibrating toy in my pussy again and and big anal plug in my ass that I had to wear home. When we were walking out he pulled my dress up so it was only just covering things and told me if I pull it down he will take it off me. Walking two blocks down to where the car was knowing every single person would have been looking at me was not something I expected I would have liked but I was fully immersed by that stage.

When we got home he walked me to the door and then forced my to my knees and to suck him before he rang the doorbell, so my husband answered the door to see that. They spoke for about 5 minutes and my husband actually pushed my head in a few times.

When he left my husband dragged me inside and pushed me on to the bed and fucked me like he never has before. I almost cried. I loved it. Where has that passion been. I hope it keeps up. The next morning I was doing my yoga and he came in, didn’t say a word, ripped my pants and fucked me. An $80 pair of pants ruined but please keep doing that. I love him so much.

He tells me he thinks it went well and wants me to keep seeing other people whether it be the same person or others. I saw him down talking to my lover (it feels so wrong to say that) today, he won’t tell me what it was about but I can’t wait.

So that was literally my first time ever. What an experience.

I just realized how long this is. Sorry. I was just reliving it as I typed. I hope I did it justice, it was so incredibly good.

Wow what a super hot story! Congratulations for both of you!

 

[pervrockcity]

Yes I did end up going. It was everything and more that I hoped for. He went so far above and beyond it was amazing.

He turned up to pick me up in a hired ferrari, when I answered to door with my husband he told me to kiss him goodbye and then he kissed me in front of him. As he lead me to the car he says so I hear you like to be dominated and bent me over the hood, took my panties off and put some vibrating toy in me, then threw my panties to my husband and said we wont be needing these. I wasn’t sure what to do, I was taken by surprise, I was worried because I wore a really short black dress like he asked me to and now I had no underwear and we were going to a restaurant. In the car he rolled my dress up to my waist and put some bar between my knees so I couldn’t shut my legs. Anyone in a tall car driving next to us would have been able to see. Once I got over the embarrassment it was such a turn on.

Just a note, whatever that vibrating toy is I need to get myself one. It was controlled by his phone and he kept playing with it all night. I was on the edge all night.

After dinner we drove to the city and he had booked a suite at a hotel. He had gone to such trouble, there was rose petal’s on the bed, a jacuzzi, and he had a massage table set up. I was so ready for him and I dropped to my knees to give him his turn but he wouldn’t let me, He got me onto the massage table and the massaged me head to toe for an hour, like every single inch of me, every finger, every toe, at that stage he could have done anything he wanted to me. When he got me off the table I literally couldn’t walk, we hadn’t even really done anything yet and I had already orgasmed 4 or 5 times.

Once he got me on the bed he turned. He pulled out a bag that had some BDSM stuff in it, I had never used this but was excited. I started to tell him that I was looking forward to this but he slapped me really hard hard and to me to shut up. He then put a ball gag thing in my mouth. We used ropes and clamps and candle wax, oh anyone can do that to me anytime. Who would have thought? He is so big too, when we did anal sex it was a challenge. He cummed on my face and wouldn’t let me wipe it off until he took a picture and sent it to my husband. Then he licked it off and kissed me with it. That was amazing.

I didn’t want to stay the night so we cleaned up, fucked again in shower and then before we left he told me that we need to stretch my ass for next time so he put that vibrating toy in my pussy again and and big anal plug in my ass that I had to wear home. When we were walking out he pulled my dress up so it was only just covering things and told me if I pull it down he will take it off me. Walking two blocks down to where the car was knowing every single person would have been looking at me was not something I expected I would have liked but I was fully immersed by that stage.

When we got home he walked me to the door and then forced my to my knees and to suck him before he rang the doorbell, so my husband answered the door to see that. They spoke for about 5 minutes and my husband actually pushed my head in a few times.

When he left my husband dragged me inside and pushed me on to the bed and fucked me like he never has before. I almost cried. I loved it. Where has that passion been. I hope it keeps up. The next morning I was doing my yoga and he came in, didn’t say a word, ripped my pants and fucked me. An $80 pair of pants ruined but please keep doing that. I love him so much.

He tells me he thinks it went well and wants me to keep seeing other people whether it be the same person or others. I saw him down talking to my lover (it feels so wrong to say that) today, he won’t tell me what it was about but I can’t wait.

So that was literally my first time ever. What an experience.

I just realized how long this is. Sorry. I was just reliving it as I typed. I hope I did it justice, it was so incredibly good.

What a beautiful AND cock hardening story! Amazing, and glad it all worked out for all parties involved! Definitely keep us updated on any future plans!!

 

[SNJ_Dom]

Yes I did end up going. It was everything and more that I hoped for. He went so far above and beyond it was amazing.

He turned up to pick me up in a hired ferrari, when I answered to door with my husband he told me to kiss him goodbye and then he kissed me in front of him. As he lead me to the car he says so I hear you like to be dominated and bent me over the hood, took my panties off and put some vibrating toy in me, then threw my panties to my husband and said we wont be needing these. I wasn’t sure what to do, I was taken by surprise, I was worried because I wore a really short black dress like he asked me to and now I had no underwear and we were going to a restaurant. In the car he rolled my dress up to my waist and put some bar between my knees so I couldn’t shut my legs. Anyone in a tall car driving next to us would have been able to see. Once I got over the embarrassment it was such a turn on.

Just a note, whatever that vibrating toy is I need to get myself one. It was controlled by his phone and he kept playing with it all night. I was on the edge all night.

After dinner we drove to the city and he had booked a suite at a hotel. He had gone to such trouble, there was rose petal’s on the bed, a jacuzzi, and he had a massage table set up. I was so ready for him and I dropped to my knees to give him his turn but he wouldn’t let me, He got me onto the massage table and the massaged me head to toe for an hour, like every single inch of me, every finger, every toe, at that stage he could have done anything he wanted to me. When he got me off the table I literally couldn’t walk, we hadn’t even really done anything yet and I had already orgasmed 4 or 5 times.

Once he got me on the bed he turned. He pulled out a bag that had some BDSM stuff in it, I had never used this but was excited. I started to tell him that I was looking forward to this but he slapped me really hard hard and to me to shut up. He then put a ball gag thing in my mouth. We used ropes and clamps and candle wax, oh anyone can do that to me anytime. Who would have thought? He is so big too, when we did anal sex it was a challenge. He cummed on my face and wouldn’t let me wipe it off until he took a picture and sent it to my husband. Then he licked it off and kissed me with it. That was amazing.

I didn’t want to stay the night so we cleaned up, fucked again in shower and then before we left he told me that we need to stretch my ass for next time so he put that vibrating toy in my pussy again and and big anal plug in my ass that I had to wear home. When we were walking out he pulled my dress up so it was only just covering things and told me if I pull it down he will take it off me. Walking two blocks down to where the car was knowing every single person would have been looking at me was not something I expected I would have liked but I was fully immersed by that stage.

When we got home he walked me to the door and then forced my to my knees and to suck him before he rang the doorbell, so my husband answered the door to see that. They spoke for about 5 minutes and my husband actually pushed my head in a few times.

When he left my husband dragged me inside and pushed me on to the bed and fucked me like he never has before. I almost cried. I loved it. Where has that passion been. I hope it keeps up. The next morning I was doing my yoga and he came in, didn’t say a word, ripped my pants and fucked me. An $80 pair of pants ruined but please keep doing that. I love him so much.

He tells me he thinks it went well and wants me to keep seeing other people whether it be the same person or others. I saw him down talking to my lover (it feels so wrong to say that) today, he won’t tell me what it was about but I can’t wait.

So that was literally my first time ever. What an experience.

I just realized how long this is. Sorry. I was just reliving it as I typed. I hope I did it justice, it was so incredibly good.

That's a really good story! But I think that's all it is, a story, a fantasy, because let's face it that's so ridiculously over the top and crazy that it's incredulous.

 

[dickhurtz]

good for you. can't wait for the update on date #2.

 

[VixenCoupleTN]

That's a really good story! But I think that's all it is, a story, a fantasy, because let's face it that's so ridiculously over the top and crazy that it's incredulous.

I have been with a lot of guys. never had a story like that.

 

[VerityS]

can't wait for the update on date #2.

We think we're going to take a backward step at least for a while. A lot happened quickly and it got a little out of hand to be honest. Other neighbors are asking about the car and where we went but worse my sister-in-law saw us at dinner and wanted to what was going on. I had to lie and say I was wooing a potential investor for my business. Luckily she only saw us through the window because if she saw what I was wearing there would have been no way to explain it away. She wasn't totally convinced, she thought I was cheating and only accepted it after she spoke to my hubby (her brother). That scare was too much to handle.

We have agreed that I can keep seeing my lover but we just have to be much much much more discreet. I'm not sure I will though because he's young and impetuous and I'm now worried he might want to brag about his 'conquest'. I can seek other lovers if I want but the same rules apply, absolute discretion. I feel much more comfortable in this scenario. We'll see how it goes.

I really enjoyed what happened but I wish it had of been more considered. Looking back it was so close to being a disaster. Even though hubby and I are comfortable with this there is no way I'm coming out to family and friends.

 

[VerityS]

I think that's all it is, a story, a fantasy,

I'm sorry you feel that way.

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

I'm sorry you feel that way.

I have been accused of making up stories, also. Despite the fact that this site exists for people who live outside the vanilla sexual rules of society, we still tend to believe that anyone more “free spirited” than we are must be making stuff up. I only hope you continue to live life by your rules and that you and your hubby stay on the same page. Best of luck!

For me, reading things that I thought were out there has made me comfortable trying things I never thought I would like. (Like silky seconds, MFM, and even licking my wife’s pussy after another man came inside of her). Curiosity is an amazing driver in this lifestyle!

 

[JMNBABE]

"We’ve set boundaries, we have rules".......how many of them were completely ignored once you got started??!! LOL Most of mine disappeared withint minutes of my first date. Including whether to use my diaphragm (all the birth control I use) whihc remained in its case all evening!! J (the wife)

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

"We’ve set boundaries, we have rules".......how many of them were completely ignored once you got started??!! LOL Most of mine disappeared withint minutes of my first date. Including whether to use my diaphragm (all the birth control I use) whihc remained in its case all evening!! J (the wife)

I think that was the hardest lesson my wife and I had to learn. It is very hard to be intimate with someone new and always stick to a script. We talked at great length about what was important to each of us and what rules or boundaries we had. It didn’t take long for nearly every rule or boundary to be either broken or changed. Some created some stress between us, but most were evolutionary and caused no issues.

I do think it remains important to talk with your partner and discuss changes and feelings. Just know that everything will change and it will be okay as long as you keep your partner as a priority in the lifestyle.

 

[JMNBABE]

I think that was the hardest lesson my wife and I had to learn. It is very hard to be intimate with someone new and always stick to a script. We talked at great length about what was important to each of us and what rules or boundaries we had. It didn’t take long for nearly every rule or boundary to be either broken or changed. Some created some stress between us, but most were evolutionary and caused no issues.

I do think it remains important to talk with your partner and discuss changes and feelings. Just know that everything will change and it will be okay as long as you keep your partner as a priority in the lifestyle.

We have pretty much got it down to NO DRUGS, I have a zero tolerance there.........and that has been tested a few times too. Not recently, moreso when she was BBC active and got REALLY involved in the lifestyle. CW

 

[CONST65]

I think that was the hardest lesson my wife and I had to learn. It is very hard to be intimate with someone new and always stick to a script. We talked at great length about what was important to each of us and what rules or boundaries we had. It didn’t take long for nearly every rule or boundary to be either broken or changed. Some created some stress between us, but most were evolutionary and caused no issues.

I do think it remains important to talk with your partner and discuss changes and feelings. Just know that everything will change and it will be okay as long as you keep your partner as a priority in the lifestyle.

You ard so.right communication of each othets wants and needs must be discussed My wife hss bern a hotwife fir 5 yrars it has been very rewarding our sex is betyet her confidence is over the ytop.her outfits her sexual wants at home and outside of out marriage is better ..When she gets dressed for.ome of her fuck dates its always extreme .To enhance things i tell.her you are really going to wear that.out.I get sternly told Yes how do you expe ne to get FUCKED OF I DONT LOOK FUCKABLE . We coukd nevet go back and neither one of ud wiukd ever wsnt to..Feel free to ask anything Bob