My wife orgasms struggle

[layla]

Hello again, my wife lately confessed that she would like to do surgery on her vagina to have better orgasms because she said that she is not finishing all the times we are having sex. I asked her if she thinks that my size matters which I have 7 inches, and she said, no! But then I pushed her and I asked her maybe it’s the size, and she said maybe.. it turns me on to find somebody to fuck her with bigger or try Dildo. She dosent like the idea of threesome but I’m dying of trying it.
what is your opinion in general? Please I need this help..
thanks

 

[Dublinmale]

Not all women will cum for PIV sex, try oral and fingers, lick her out after you cum, spend time on her clit, or finger her after you have cum. Girth more than length is what most need

 

[layla]

Not all women will cum for PIV sex, try oral and fingers, lick her out after you cum, spend time on her clit, or finger her after you have cum. Girth more than length is what most need

Thank you for your reply, I will try

 

[Dublinmale]

When your fingering her spend time on the lips and either side of her clit, ask her what she likes, watch her body language and stop doing what she doesn’t like. Be open about how you want to please her and service her, make it all about her and her needs.
when fam where young, I would run her a bubble bath light some candles and a glass of wine. I would wash her and dry her off, make sure the bedroom was tidy and had her favourite smelly scents in the air. Then I would spend ages eating her fingering her, telling her how much I loved her until she begged me to fuck her. Normally after she came a few times.
Figure out what works for you, but more so for her, women love being desired and wanted.
And not just when you go to bed.
Good luck my friend

 

[layla]

When your fingering her spend time on the lips and either side of her clit, ask her what she likes, watch her body language and stop doing what she doesn’t like. Be open about how you want to please her and service her, make it all about her and her needs.
when fam where young, I would run her a bubble bath light some candles and a glass of wine. I would wash her and dry her off, make sure the bedroom was tidy and had her favourite smelly scents in the air. Then I would spend ages eating her fingering her, telling her how much I loved her until she begged me to fuck her. Normally after she came a few times.
Figure out what works for you, but more so for her, women love being desired and wanted.
And not just when you go to bed.
Good luck my friend

That’s sounds like a plan

 

[layla]

(UPDATE) today my wife told me that many there are other women as well struggling to have orgasm and she told me that there’ s nothing connected to penis size, however I told her we should try toys and dildo and she agreed for first time!! What do you think? I’m excited because I fantasize that it will be another male dick!

 

[coastalkid]

Before she gets her heart set on surgery, get her a Hitachi Magic Wand, the corded, plug-in, old school style. My wife had trouble achieving orgasm when we first got together. She actually took it upon herself to see a sex therapist (on her own) and they suggested the Hitachi. It was a game changer for us. She went from depending on it to eventually learning to orgasm from penetration (yes, on my chubby 5.5 incher).

Your wife sounds like mine regarding the "not a topic to discuss". Since you and I are both here, you probably would like to see your sex life open up to more possibilities, just like I would. I told my wife years ago that I would like her to experience a different (preferrably larger) person. She's still in the "never gonna happen" camp but she has changed from outright rejection to incorporating it into our "dirty talk/fantasy talk" when we have sex. Over time she has changed her mind about the idea that even thinking about it is wrong to realizing that the "fantasy" is acceptable. Years ago her head was in a different place. I like to think I planted a seed and it grew into something but that's just me, ever hopeful!

 

[WNY3somecple]

First most women will not orgasm every time.

Second, is she able to make herself cum? If not, surgery might not be the answer.

 

[layla]

First most women will not orgasm every time.

Second, is she able to make herself cum? If not, surgery might not be the answer.

No she cannot

 

[coastalkid]

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[Creampielover45]

No she cannot

Are you eating her Pussy ?

 

[majorem]

My wife used to orgasm 2-3 times at least when we had sex in our 20s, as we got older it dwindled to 1-2, to now at 40, occasionally she struggles to cum at all from sex. If she's horny and hasn't drank too much, then it can happen quickly still but if she's tired, not particularly horny, hasn't had a lot of foreplay and especially if she's had a few drinks, it can take quite some time or isn't possible without clit stimulation. Often I finish with oral but other times, as recommended above, she needs a vibrator. If you want to give her some extra girth, you could try slipping in a couple fingers with your cock - my wife likes that sometimes.

Recently she was struggling to cum even from oral so I broke out my tablet, which I watch porn on when I masturbate and I coaxed her to find a video to watch - she came in like 2m watching some chick get DPed lol. I think as you get older and life gets more stressful, it can also be hard to silence the stuff going on in your head and get fully into the sex, especially if you're already worried you might not orgasm, which is where the visual stimulation of porn can help.

 

[2wheel]

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[Htwf4fwb]

Hello again, my wife lately confessed that she would like to do surgery on her vagina to have better orgasms because she said that she is not finishing all the times we are having sex. I asked her if she thinks that my size matters which I have 7 inches, and she said, no! But then I pushed her and I asked her maybe it’s the size, and she said maybe.. it turns me on to find somebody to fuck her with bigger or try Dildo. She dosent like the idea of threesome but I’m dying of trying it.
what is your opinion in general? Please I need this help..
thanks

Try a dildo with you wearing a strap on, she fucks another bigger dick, maybe has an orgasm. But def buy the hitachi magic wand, it’s the orgasm maker for me. I love piv sex but I mostly orgasm from my hitachi, using a dildo on myself or my husband fingering me a certain way but the hitachi is the sure fire fastest way. Leave her alone to do it the first few times

 

[coastalkid]

My wife used to orgasm 2-3 times at least when we had sex in our 20s, as we got older it dwindled to 1-2, to now at 40, occasionally she struggles to cum at all from sex. If she's horny and hasn't drank too much, then it can happen quickly still but if she's tired, not particularly horny, hasn't had a lot of foreplay and especially if she's had a few drinks, it can take quite some time or isn't possible without clit stimulation. Often I finish with oral but other times, as recommended above, she needs a vibrator. If you want to give her some extra girth, you could try slipping in a couple fingers with your cock - my wife likes that sometimes.

Recently she was struggling to cum even from oral so I broke out my tablet, which I watch porn on when I masturbate and I coaxed her to find a video to watch - she came in like 2m watching some chick get DPed lol. I think as you get older and life gets more stressful, it can also be hard to silence the stuff going on in your head and get fully into the sex, especially if you're already worried you might not orgasm, which is where the visual stimulation of porn can help.

The part in red really applies to me but not so much in regard to having an orgasm but more about getting excited about unfulfilling sex. As I've gotten older it has become more difficult to set aside all the "everyday life stresses". On top of getting older, routine predictable sex made getting "the big head" reluctant to get into the sex. I've learned in my case the "little head" follows where the "big head" leads.

After a failure to perform and a subsequent breakdown from emotions I told my wife that I needed her to be more engaged and vocal to help me stay excited. My wife thought that sex for me was purely a physical thing. She hadn't considered that I needed some mental stimulation to support my physical stimulation.

We've been together a really long time and I think she just avoids thinking about sex. She's finally coming around to understanding that just because at one time I was always horny and wanted sex doesn't mean I always will. I believe she's begun to realize her aversion to enjoying sex has adversely affected me and while she has succeeded in de-emphasizing the sex, she has discovered she's lost something and seems bittersweet about it. She's really softened her attitude and is motivated to make sex a positive thing for us both.

I've been working hard to suppress my feelings of resentment for all the wasted time because I realize it is neither productive or positive. We're probably better than we've ever been and we have unlimited room for improvement. Yeah, it's hard to have an orgasm sometimes!