Thank you for the responses. The timing is one I stupidly hadn't considered, so I will be more mindful of when I turn up the heat next time.
I like the idea of pretending someone is coming to watch, id have to make sure I don't scare her though!
Her owning the guilty pleasure may also be key. She needs to know its ok,it's for her, for us, as part of our marraige intermacy. I will keep trying the many methods, although I'm away with work for the next few weeks, so it's difficult.
If im allowed, I'd like to journal our progression (or otherwise!) here, if nothing else to get others perspectives?
Thank you everyone that has replied so far, in a world where I sometimes feel its just me with this desired addition to our relationship, it means a lot.
