So close yet so far

SouthBamaCpl

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Hey everyone the husband here. New to this forum. About us, I’m in my upper 30s while my wife is still in her lower 30s. Like some others I’ve seen and talked to on another forum, I’m the only guy my wife has ever been with and like most of you this fantasy is purely driven from the deep love I have for my wife and my desire to see her open up and reach her full sexual potential and pleasure.

Long story short, I first shared this fantasy with my wife about 9 years ago now. She wasn’t mad when I told her but it was an immediate “not happening!”

Slowly, we’ve progressed like a lot of others. We started with watching porn together and then introduced new dildos. Moving from porn to dildos took a couple years but the fantasy talk was still pretty low key because she had to be in a super rare mood to get into it and even then it was just me giving her a scenario, with no talking coming from her other than just being able to feel a response from her body. Which of course would get me really turned on and I would try to keep it going over the next couple of times we had sex but it usually got shut down with her saying “no I just want it to be me and you.” I have no problem with that whatsoever, I’m very into my wife and I like that she still gets off to doing it with me and wants to be with only me.

Now after a couple of kids and several more years of slowly grinding away with the fantasy talk, occasional playing with toys, and most importantly having conversations with her about it which she has always ended with an “it’s fun in fantasy but it will never happen”. I think she is finally starting to loosen up. The past 2 years have been amazing.

It started after a really long night conversation in a hotel without the kids where we were pretty inebriated and feeling open. We talked in depth about the fantasy and I finally got her to admit that she sometimes fantasizes about older men, which I already knew from previous discussions, but also black men which I also already knew but it was incredibly hot having her openly say it.

Now my wife has some amazing curves with great hips, thick sexy thighs, and a butt that I can’t walk past without smacking or grabbing a handful of. She almost always gets looks at the store from black guys especially. I some times like to hang back while she shops just so I can see them looking at her. I always tell her after we get back to the car and she just smirks and says “whatever” but I know she really likes it.

After she told me, I got on a really big kick about watching her with a black man and I even got her a new big black dildo which we played with a bit more often than some of the others. But what really got the ball rolling was one day after I got home from work I just got done putting all my stuff put away and my phone dinged and it was a text from my wife. She was standing right next to me so I figured it was something she just didn’t want the kids to hear. But when I opened the message to a picture of her big black dildo inside her I was blown away. I looked at her and she had a sexy little smirk on her face.

Naturally we could do nothing about it at the moment but the kids definitely went to bed a little early and I went crazy fantasizing about reclaiming her. She didn’t say too much as usual but did respond to a few of my questions like “did he make you cum?” To which she would shyly say “yeah” and stuff like that. But I think what she really liked, aside from the big toy, was the response she got from me with how into it and how into her I was. I feel like that day was a huge step for her and us.

That lead into a brief week long deal with us creating an account on blacktowhite and creating a post telling our journey to that point which I wrote but she approved and even hit the post button. The biggest step though was her allowing me to post a couple pictures that she had sent to me of her in thongs and a little side boob. Of course it had some really good likes and comments and got quite a few private messages which she really enjoyed for a few days and you could see that she got a nice boost of confidence which made me feel good too.

That was really exciting but looking back I probably got more excited than I should have and probably let it get too into my head and we ended up putting the brakes on and we quit responding to people and it slowed down for a while.

It wasn’t long after that, that she sent me a link one day to a new dildo in the same way she sent the other picture. She had been looking at them on her own while I was at work and sent me the dick she wanted. That was incredibly hot to me and we had more great sex that day. This particular one is by far her favorite. It’s not huge but it is a little bigger and has a little bit bigger head which she is really into.

Since she has had this one I’ve gotten quite a few more surprise pictures and she even requests it from time to time when she’s feeling really into it. She’s even started to get more verbal during roleplay, not by much, but I’ll damn sure take it. We even talk about it a little more openly and if I make jokes about her being with another guy she’ll reply jokingly with “I know you’d like that.” Which always gets me going.

But this past Friday was probably one of the hottest sessions we’ve ever had. After I got to work I sent the normal I love you and I hope you have a great day text but then I sent her a challenge to use her toy and think about an older guy or whatever turned her on and to set her phone beside her before she came and record herself cumming to her toy and for her to send it to me. She said she wasn’t in the mood to do it at the moment because the dogs had just pissed her off so I figured nothing was gonna happen. I didn’t get anything during the day while I was at work but after I got home we were sitting on the couch and my phone dings. I open it to see some of the hottest pics of her using her favorite dildo and they even had that quick clip that new phone pictures do which showed her pulling it out which all of us guys that are into this know, seeing her freshly fucked pussy like that Is unfreaking real!

This dildo looks super real and the angles made it look almost like she was actually a hotwife for the first time. Yet again we couldn’t do anything until after bed time but when we got in the bed I went at her like never before. I don’t know what came over me except pure lust for my wife and the thought of finally reclaiming her. I was going so hard that I started to loose breath and my heart was pounding. I kept looking at her face and she had such a huge smile and I knew she was enjoying my reaction too. She was pulling me in with her hands and wrapping her legs tight trying to get me to cum. But if it wasn’t intense enough, in the heat of the moment I asked her, “will you please fuck another man for me?” And she actually said, “Yes!”

I came almost instantly!
I knew that she was playing it out in the heat of the moment and afterward she told that “it was only fantasy” to which I said “I know, I’m fine with it being just fantasy it’s just super fucking hot.” She smiled and we kissed some more before getting up.

But the speed that she responded to the question and the way that she responded with a big smile. I know it’s starting to open something big.
 
Good luck on your journey!
I don't have much advice for you. 9 years seems an eternity... but hopefully you get to share her.
I'm in a similar spot but I only told my wife 4 months ago.
Hope I see an update to this thread soon saying she's really considering it 😊
 
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Great progress after a long time after she immediately replied with a no. I'm pretty much in the same situation (unfortunately ;))

She started going crazy with dildos. Is there a reason why she changed? Also, have you introduced new things into your sex life or why is it?

I think it's important to go step by step. She revealed that she likes older men. The more you try, the smaller the steps become to a threesome, for example.

For example, I also heard a harsh "no." But after a lot of role playing, different sex toys, sex in public, we are now going back to a swingers club for the second time "without expectations". She now said that sex with a couple could be an option. We also started wathcing porn with big black cocks and gangbangs which she never liked before. Going step by step and doing more and more exciting things can be so important and makes it more enjoyable to take the next steps.

Some times a no is just a now for a moment.
 
Good luck on your journey!
I don't have much advice for you. 9 years seems an eternity... but hopefully you get to share her.
I'm in a similar spot but I only told my wife 4 months ago.
Hope I see an update to this thread soon saying she's really considering it 😊
It does seem like an eternity and it’s tough trying not to overplay it but still keep it going. But honestly I’m just loving watch her slowly evolve and open up. So while I am anxious for it to happen I’m also in no rush. I hope to see an update too lol
 
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Great progress after a long time after she immediately replied with a no. I'm pretty much in the same situation (unfortunately ;))

She started going crazy with dildos. Is there a reason why she changed? Also, have you introduced new things into your sex life or why is it?

I think it's important to go step by step. She revealed that she likes older men. The more you try, the smaller the steps become to a threesome, for example.

For example, I also heard a harsh "no." But after a lot of role playing, different sex toys, sex in public, we are now going back to a swingers club for the second time "without expectations". She now said that sex with a couple could be an option. We also started wathcing porn with big black cocks and gangbangs which she never liked before. Going step by step and doing more and more exciting things can be so important and makes it more enjoyable to take the next steps.

Some times a no is just a now for a moment.
Oh yeah it sounds like y’all are almost there. I hope y’all both get what you want.

To be honest I’m not really sure what changed other than just communication. Being open about what I want for her and her feeling comfortable enough to share her fantasies and push her boundaries past her normal shy and conservative nature.

We do play with the bbc fantasy sometimes but the one that I think is most common is the older white guy which has been a fantasy of hers forever. So the more we play with that the more open she has been to playing along during roleplay.

I still don’t have any expectations about it ever happening but like I told someone else, I’m just enjoying the ride.
 
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Hey everyone the husband here. New to this forum. About us, I’m in my upper 30s while my wife is still in her lower 30s. Like some others I’ve seen and talked to on another forum, I’m the only guy my wife has ever been with and like most of you this fantasy is purely driven from the deep love I have for my wife and my desire to see her open up and reach her full sexual potential and pleasure.

Long story short, I first shared this fantasy with my wife about 9 years ago now. She wasn’t mad when I told her but it was an immediate “not happening!”

Slowly, we’ve progressed like a lot of others. We started with watching porn together and then introduced new dildos. Moving from porn to dildos took a couple years but the fantasy talk was still pretty low key because she had to be in a super rare mood to get into it and even then it was just me giving her a scenario, with no talking coming from her other than just being able to feel a response from her body. Which of course would get me really turned on and I would try to keep it going over the next couple of times we had sex but it usually got shut down with her saying “no I just want it to be me and you.” I have no problem with that whatsoever, I’m very into my wife and I like that she still gets off to doing it with me and wants to be with only me.

Now after a couple of kids and several more years of slowly grinding away with the fantasy talk, occasional playing with toys, and most importantly having conversations with her about it which she has always ended with an “it’s fun in fantasy but it will never happen”. I think she is finally starting to loosen up. The past 2 years have been amazing.

It started after a really long night conversation in a hotel without the kids where we were pretty inebriated and feeling open. We talked in depth about the fantasy and I finally got her to admit that she sometimes fantasizes about older men, which I already knew from previous discussions, but also black men which I also already knew but it was incredibly hot having her openly say it.

Now my wife has some amazing curves with great hips, thick sexy thighs, and a butt that I can’t walk past without smacking or grabbing a handful of. She almost always gets looks at the store from black guys especially. I some times like to hang back while she shops just so I can see them looking at her. I always tell her after we get back to the car and she just smirks and says “whatever” but I know she really likes it.

After she told me, I got on a really big kick about watching her with a black man and I even got her a new big black dildo which we played with a bit more often than some of the others. But what really got the ball rolling was one day after I got home from work I just got done putting all my stuff put away and my phone dinged and it was a text from my wife. She was standing right next to me so I figured it was something she just didn’t want the kids to hear. But when I opened the message to a picture of her big black dildo inside her I was blown away. I looked at her and she had a sexy little smirk on her face.

Naturally we could do nothing about it at the moment but the kids definitely went to bed a little early and I went crazy fantasizing about reclaiming her. She didn’t say too much as usual but did respond to a few of my questions like “did he make you cum?” To which she would shyly say “yeah” and stuff like that. But I think what she really liked, aside from the big toy, was the response she got from me with how into it and how into her I was. I feel like that day was a huge step for her and us.

That lead into a brief week long deal with us creating an account on blacktowhite and creating a post telling our journey to that point which I wrote but she approved and even hit the post button. The biggest step though was her allowing me to post a couple pictures that she had sent to me of her in thongs and a little side boob. Of course it had some really good likes and comments and got quite a few private messages which she really enjoyed for a few days and you could see that she got a nice boost of confidence which made me feel good too.

That was really exciting but looking back I probably got more excited than I should have and probably let it get too into my head and we ended up putting the brakes on and we quit responding to people and it slowed down for a while.

It wasn’t long after that, that she sent me a link one day to a new dildo in the same way she sent the other picture. She had been looking at them on her own while I was at work and sent me the dick she wanted. That was incredibly hot to me and we had more great sex that day. This particular one is by far her favorite. It’s not huge but it is a little bigger and has a little bit bigger head which she is really into.

Since she has had this one I’ve gotten quite a few more surprise pictures and she even requests it from time to time when she’s feeling really into it. She’s even started to get more verbal during roleplay, not by much, but I’ll damn sure take it. We even talk about it a little more openly and if I make jokes about her being with another guy she’ll reply jokingly with “I know you’d like that.” Which always gets me going.

But this past Friday was probably one of the hottest sessions we’ve ever had. After I got to work I sent the normal I love you and I hope you have a great day text but then I sent her a challenge to use her toy and think about an older guy or whatever turned her on and to set her phone beside her before she came and record herself cumming to her toy and for her to send it to me. She said she wasn’t in the mood to do it at the moment because the dogs had just pissed her off so I figured nothing was gonna happen. I didn’t get anything during the day while I was at work but after I got home we were sitting on the couch and my phone dings. I open it to see some of the hottest pics of her using her favorite dildo and they even had that quick clip that new phone pictures do which showed her pulling it out which all of us guys that are into this know, seeing her freshly fucked pussy like that Is unfreaking real!

This dildo looks super real and the angles made it look almost like she was actually a hotwife for the first time. Yet again we couldn’t do anything until after bed time but when we got in the bed I went at her like never before. I don’t know what came over me except pure lust for my wife and the thought of finally reclaiming her. I was going so hard that I started to loose breath and my heart was pounding. I kept looking at her face and she had such a huge smile and I knew she was enjoying my reaction too. She was pulling me in with her hands and wrapping her legs tight trying to get me to cum. But if it wasn’t intense enough, in the heat of the moment I asked her, “will you please fuck another man for me?” And she actually said, “Yes!”

I came almost instantly!
I knew that she was playing it out in the heat of the moment and afterward she told that “it was only fantasy” to which I said “I know, I’m fine with it being just fantasy it’s just super fucking hot.” She smiled and we kissed some more before getting up.

But the speed that she responded to the question and the way that she responded with a big smile. I know it’s starting to open something big.
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