Why is it so hard to find a good bull
- Thread starter Wifelovermd
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Wow! I can’t imagine you’d have even the slightest bit of trouble finding a guy with how absolutely sexy she is?? I sure wish I lived closer!
We started playing in 2008 and found that it was relatively easy to find guys on swingers websites for my wife to have fun with. However we have noticed that it is becoming g increasingly difficult. Even taking covid out, we have found that over the last 3 or 4 yrs a significant number of guys talk a good job but as soon as you say let’s meet they run for the hills!!! It’s a shame and so frustrating.
Big reason for Lifestyle Clubs.......Clubs allow a controlled amount of single gentlemen in per couples. They pay top dollar to be there and are looking for a good time. Just a little attention from a hot wife and game on. If your lady wants something different...Mocha Night. Usually on a Friday night, once a month. Those nights are off the hook for fun. Everyone at ease and in a party mood. Whatever you arrange for later meets will be so much more enjoyable. One of the biggest problems couples encounter AFTER they met a single guy. Having him show up. Constant last minute cancelations with or without a phone call. You can invite three to your house and maybe have one show up. We found them to be wanna b's or married guys running around behind their wives back. But who said life is easy...............
Well, takes a bit of patience, ask your wife what "kind" would she like, similar to someone in your circle. Also this forum is a good placec to start looking
I get that the Bulls are just as frustrated as the cucks. My personal story as a cuck is that I've managed to be in contact with 4 local guys (not easy in my neck of the woods to find Bulls) that i have laid out my plans for them to meet my wife. I don't promise anything and ask that they respect her and her wishes. After all 4 of them going silent on me just before the meet up is about to happen, I've grown quite discouraged. I think that is the nature of the beast here in the wild wild west. I'll keep trying but my hopes have seriously faded.
It's very easy to find guys!
Just let her go out to bars and clubs, get picked up for casual sex, then she can decide who she might want to see again as a regular. This has worked for me. Swingers websites can also be good but just watch out for the time wasters and fantasists, it can get very frustrating. They can be a lot of hassle so we don't bother with them now.
The direct pick up is much more reliable, you get to see the person first (no 20 yo pics) and know if you're attracted to him, if not you can just say you're not interested and wait for the next guy to hit on you.
The cons with this - you really need to be willing to fuck a guy you only just met; you can't always tell how big his cock is so you might be disappointed now and then xx
Just let her go out to bars and clubs, get picked up for casual sex, then she can decide who she might want to see again as a regular. This has worked for me. Swingers websites can also be good but just watch out for the time wasters and fantasists, it can get very frustrating. They can be a lot of hassle so we don't bother with them now.
The direct pick up is much more reliable, you get to see the person first (no 20 yo pics) and know if you're attracted to him, if not you can just say you're not interested and wait for the next guy to hit on you.
The cons with this - you really need to be willing to fuck a guy you only just met; you can't always tell how big his cock is so you might be disappointed now and then xx
hotwife_4_fun
Well-Known Member
90% are married men who can not get away-- 100% of those 90% are just living the on-line fantasy and will never really meet anyone. The remainders are so clueless and imbecilic their last resort is hoping the woman are on here lined up waiting like a meat market. then there is the 0.00001% that are true and real. Good luck and have fun when you meet him.
hotwife_4_fun
Well-Known Member
My wife does go out to places with the intention of attracting attention, with the intention of bringing titilating stories back home to me, but they're not the typical meat markets where she could pick up a guy, nor does she feel comfortable in those types of places. She goes to the local indian casino and bars and restaurants that are more "family" oriented. We're more "homebody" types, so I guess she's have to step out of her comfort zone and that means I would have to talk her into going to those types of places.
I guess I was suffering under the "hotwife dynamic", where like minded people can get together, all parties understanding the "rules" and norms of the fetish and acting accordingly. Shows what I know. lol
Seriously though, she's never participated in the one night stand phenomena. Her lack of confidence would probably lead to some pretty high stress levels, but I do understand your point.
I can see that does make it more difficult. In that case the swingers sites might be your best bet - you can advertise for exactly what you are looking for, just be prepared to have to weed out some timewasters. The good things about swingers sites are : there will be a lot of guys looking, so as a couple you are at an advantage and can pick and choose; you can search by area and therefore you're not wasting time chatting to someone who is too far away.
Best of luck xx
What about a older guy we can do the job and if you don’t want anymore to do with us after a while. thats ok we will just walk away .Sig
Demented_Donny
Male
my wife finds them my simply living a life as a single woman sexually. she goes to bars and clubs all the time. meets new people etc. she also is the one that chooses who she is with. I have nothing to do with it. although my wife is more of a slutwife than a hotwife.
