Wife scared to play for real

[brian4144]

Need advice on if my wife will ever be ready.

My wife is always at her most horny when we roleplay cuckold or hotwife fantasies. She has said she would like to do it for real but was not ready for the big step. Then she bonded with one of my friends who she is really attracted to and was up for it but since then has pulled back from doing it for real.

My question is has anyone else had a similar experience, then for the wife to go through with it?

My wife is stunning by the way and my friend is 100% up for it.

 

[Blxx]

She may just be reluctant to take that step as you can’t undo it. Talk to her and ask what her concern is? Validate her feelings. Maybe telling her you are concerned about some stuff there too but you can both do this together and get through it together.

Most of all don’t push her let her decide ask her think on it, encourage her to talk to you about. Maybe a baby step like just kissing would help move forward?

 

[brian4144]

She may just be reluctant to take that step as you can’t undo it. Talk to her and ask what her concern is? Validate her feelings. Maybe telling her you are concerned about some stuff there too but you can both do this together and get through it together.

Most of all don’t push her let her decide ask her think on it, encourage her to talk to you about. Maybe a baby step like just kissing would help move forward?

Hi I've tried all that this fantasy is year 12 for us lol she never rules it out, but when she gets close she get scared and pulls away. She is shy sexually

 

[Blxx]

Hi I've tried all that this fantasy is year 12 for us lol she never rules it out, but when she gets close she get scared and pulls away. She is shy sexually

12 years long time! I’m on 5 maybe but part was pandemic time so we couldn’t go out. I assume alcohol is involved?

Are you looking for a 3some or him alone with her? Cuck?

 

[brian4144]

12 years long time! I’m on 5 maybe but part was pandemic time so we couldn’t go out. I assume alcohol is involved?

Are you looking for a 3some or him alone with her? Cuck?

Alcohol doesn't have to be involved for her to get horny over these fantasies.

Either way for me but she wants me to be there to watch her.

 

[Blxx]

Alcohol doesn't have to be involved for her to get horny over these fantasies.

Either way for me but she wants me to be there to watch her.

When you talk to her what’s her excuse/reasoning/logic/fear/feelings for backing out?

 

[brian4144]

When you talk to her what’s her excuse/reasoning/logic/fear/feelings for backing out?

Shes not great at communicating she said it would be so horny but feels she would be not just mine anymore, like cheating. I've reassured her and said it would be an experience for us as a couple

 

[Teddy Long]

Is that her in the profile picture

 

[Blxx]

Shes not great at communicating she said it would be so horny but feels she would be not just mine anymore, like cheating. I've reassured her and said it would be an experience for us as a couple

Yea I hear ya on the communication thing. My wife and her friends think they are great at it but all they do is talk, no real communication, volume on quality.

So you have to do sone fishing to draw her out. But I’m sure you explained it’s not cheating as you are aware and approve. It’s just sex. Like using toys for her to get off?

 

[Sixteenshots]

Shes not great at communicating she said it would be so horny but feels she would be not just mine anymore, like cheating. I've reassured her and said it would be an experience for us as a couple

My wife is the exact same way. Going on 9 years of this fantasy for me. My wife has no desire to participate in it. It goes against her morals, and she also worries that if she did it, there would be emotional attachment. She is also shy sexually and she doesn’t communicate very well. It seems backwards compared to how the beginning of our marriage was.

The only advice I can give is reassure her. I’ve also heard positive reinforcement as far as sex talk goes. Going on 10 years of marriage, we’ve both opened up about darker fantasies not related to this LS, but being older things have changed in our marriage too. Open communication and constant reassurance helps. There’s a book out there that’s called The Faithful Hotwife that’s on Amazon that has helped a lot of couples on getting started.

 

[brian4144]

My wife is the exact same way. Going on 9 years of this fantasy for me. My wife has no desire to participate in it. It goes against her morals, and she also worries that if she did it, there would be emotional attachment. She is also shy sexually and she doesn’t communicate very well. It seems backwards compared to how the beginning of our marriage was.

The only advice I can give is reassure her. I’ve also heard positive reinforcement as far as sex talk goes. Going on 10 years of marriage, we’ve both opened up about darker fantasies not related to this LS, but being older things have changed in our marriage too. Open communication and constant reassurance helps. There’s a book out there that’s called The Faithful Hotwife that’s on Amazon that has helped a lot of couples on getting started.

I will certainly look at the book you are talking about, when was the closest she got to furfilling your fantasy and is there close to you she is attracted too? I'm also intrigued to the darker fantasies you have enlighten me?

 

[brian4144]

Yea I hear ya on the communication thing. My wife and her friends think they are great at it but all they do is talk, no real communication, volume on quality.

So you have to do sone fishing to draw her out. But I’m sure you explained it’s not cheating as you are aware and approve. It’s just sex. Like using toys for her to get off?

100% I said those exact things but I think it's a morality thing for her and I can't get her over the line.

 

[brian4144]

Is that her in the profile picture

Yes a cartoon version lol

 

[Blxx]

100% I said those exact things but I think it's a morality thing for her and I can't get her over the line.

Might not be something she wants to pursue beyond fantasy? I’m guessing that’s ultimately where I end up as well. Can’t force it.

 

[brian4144]

Might not be something she wants to pursue beyond fantasy? I’m guessing that’s ultimately where I end up as well. Can’t force it.

I know I never would but she has been so close.

 

[Teddy Long]

Can we see a picture of her.

 

[Blxx]

I know I never would but she has been so close.

Understandable. Maybe just keep putting here in situations where she can meet people over and over till she finds one she just can’t say no to? I’m assuming in 12 years you are already doing that. But maybe keep it up. Ask her afterwards which guys she’d have fucked from that place while having sex

 

[Sixteenshots]

I will certainly look at the book you are talking about, when was the closest she got to furfilling your fantasy and is there close to you she is attracted too? I'm also intrigued to the darker fantasies you have enlighten me?

There never was a close spot unfortunately. She’s always gone back and forth saying maybe someday over the period a few years. She’d talk sexy in bed and that’s it. Now it’s completely off for her. It has a lot to do with her slut phase during/after high school before me.

As far as darker fantasies, mine is more about her dominating me more. Which is ironic because of my past. But hers are taboo and it’s not something she wants to do, just something she watches on PH. She’s kind of private on that, which is whatever. It’s a hot thing to watch, but in reality we wouldn’t do it. As far as mine, she hasn’t really done much to dominate me. A few slaps here or there during sex. Not that I want her to get crazy and peg me. Just more assertiveness and taking charge with some redirection.

 

[brian4144]

Can we see a picture of her.

 

[brian4144]

Understandable. Maybe just keep putting here in situations where she can meet people over and over till she finds one she just can’t say no to? I’m assuming in 12 years you are already doing that. But maybe keep it up. Ask her afterwards which guys she’d have fucked from that place while having sex

She loves the cuckold,hotwife porn. Only people she has been exposed to is my friends, she likes one of them and he knows but she says she not ready.