Wife scared to play for real

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There never was a close spot unfortunately. She’s always gone back and forth saying maybe someday over the period a few years. She’d talk sexy in bed and that’s it. Now it’s completely off for her. It has a lot to do with her slut phase during/after high school before me.

As far as darker fantasies, mine is more about her dominating me more. Which is ironic because of my past. But hers are taboo and it’s not something she wants to do, just something she watches on PH. She’s kind of private on that, which is whatever. It’s a hot thing to watch, but in reality we wouldn’t do it. As far as mine, she hasn’t really done much to dominate me. A few slaps here or there during sex. Not that I want her to get crazy and peg me. Just more assertiveness and taking charge with some redirection.
It great having a naughty wife, but it's not good that she doesn't have the courage to see it through. I know if one of my friends walked in during sex she would probably let him get involved. But it's creating that situation that is most difficult.
 
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She may just be reluctant to take that step as you can’t undo it. Talk to her and ask what her concern is? Validate her feelings. Maybe telling her you are concerned about some stuff there too but you can both do this together and get through it together.

Most of all don’t push her let her decide ask her think on it, encourage her to talk to you about. Maybe a baby step like just kissing would help move forward?
start licking your cum from her pussy after you have fucked her - then on the sixth time you are licking her pussy clean - say I will lick others cum from your pussy if you will fuck other cocks - that is how much I want you to enjoy yourself.
 

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start licking your cum from her pussy after you have fucked her - then on the sixth time you are licking her pussy clean - say I will lick others cum from your pussy if you will fuck other cocks - that is how much I want you to enjoy yourself.
I've said and tried all those things, I need a new angle, I've explained that it would be an amazing experience between us, she agrees it would be amazing be she is so prudy, even tho her mind is so dirty.
 
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It great having a naughty wife, but it's not good that she doesn't have the courage to see it through. I know if one of my friends walked in during sex she would probably let him get involved. But it's creating that situation that is most difficult.
My friends would never walk in because I’d never let them lol. That’s off limits. We’ve talked about different situations like how you see someone who is attractive in the mall, but she says it’s a passing thought. I was surprised that she never wanted to act on that. She can be naughty if she wants to be, but she’s very vanilla now.
 
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Blxx

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My friends would never walk in because I’d never let them lol. That’s off limits. We’ve talked about different situations like how you see someone who is attractive in the mall, but she says it’s a passing thought. I was surprised that she never wanted to act on that. She can be naughty if she wants to be, but she’s very vanilla now.
All you can do is wait until she’s ready. It may be she never is.
 
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My wife is the same…don’t think you can follow what these guys are telling you, everybody is different.
Yeah I got that, some good advice tho, but I was hoping someone had a success story about the wife reluctant for years then eventually got the courage to go for it and loved it. Haven't had one of them stories yet lol
 

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My friends would never walk in because I’d never let them lol. That’s off limits. We’ve talked about different situations like how you see someone who is attractive in the mall, but she says it’s a passing thought. I was surprised that she never wanted to act on that. She can be naughty if she wants to be, but she’s very vanilla now.
Yeah she is the same, and I thought women where supposed to get more horny as they get older?lol well she is only 36
 

Blxx

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You could be right but I live in hope lol
Yea sometimes that’s all we can do, be supportive and encouraging but she’s not ready for that step, you still have an incredible wife! I’m in the same boat. Not 12 years yet but mine probably won’t happen either but we still get to enjoy the fantasy!
 

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Yea sometimes that’s all we can do, be supportive and encouraging but she’s not ready for that step, you still have an incredible wife! I’m in the same boat. Not 12 years yet but mine probably won’t happen either but we still get to enjoy the fantasy!
We definitely do(y)(y)
 
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Lots of suggestions but it's clear the physical boundary is strongly in place. That said the physical can at times slowly be reduced by blurring the lines.
Have you both played on cam, there are plenty of forums/sites this can be done on. Doing this allows her to be physically disconnected but also allowed to enjoy others and slowly allow you to let her control the speed and exposure.. and she gets to see you enjoying others enjoying her - win win?
Pitch the though as if she enjoys being watched explicitly over time she may open up to someone being in the room.
She will need to set the limits and you need to step lightly knowing when to accept or push.
 
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Lots of suggestions but it's clear the physical boundary is strongly in place. That said the physical can at times slowly be reduced by blurring the lines.
Have you both played on cam, there are plenty of forums/sites this can be done on. Doing this allows her to be physically disconnected but also allowed to enjoy others and slowly allow you to let her control the speed and exposure.. and she gets to see you enjoying others enjoying her - win win?
Pitch the though as if she enjoys being watched explicitly over time she may open up to someone being in the room.
She will need to set the limits and you need to step lightly knowing when to accept or push.
Lots of good ideas in there will certainly take them on board, good idea to have someone watch us before me watching her. As for online watching is definitely a no no for her lol
 
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New2devon

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Lots of good ideas in there will certainly take them on board, good idea to have someone watch us before me watching her. As for online watching is definitely a no no for her lol
Mmm I can see you dilemma if your lady is reluctant to play incognito online she is less likely to play in the same room. Would she be willing to watch without a camera on her? Slowly building up the confidence and heighten her enjoyment?