Advice Needed - Exploring my bi side

[Bicuck4bbc2]

I'm looking for some advice/perspective. I'm sure I'll hear a few "just do it" but I'm hoping for something a bit more in depth than that.

Here's the background. I've been bicurious since my college days. I never did anything about it. The wife and I have been together for almost 25 years and she's known about my curiosity since our early dating years. We've never done any swinging or cuckolding but it's usually part of our fantasy dirty talk in bed and definitely plays into our pegging sessions.

This past weekend after a few drinks we got onto the topic but this time was different because we weren't in bed. When we are going at it we're normally talking about having a guy fuck me while I'm fucking her. But in this conversation she said she wouldn't want to be there but is open to me exploring without her. She even suggested that I check out a gay bar and see what my reaction is in a real world scenario rather than just fantasy.

My question to the other bi guys here is what is the risk I'm not seeing here? Has anyone done this and how did it impact your relationship with your wife? While I've fantasized about this a lot, I'm worried that going through with it would change our dynamics even if she says she wants me to explore. I could really use some perspective from others that may have gone down this road.

Thanks!

 

[nicebiguy]

I'm looking for some advice/perspective. I'm sure I'll hear a few "just do it" but I'm hoping for something a bit more in depth than that.

Here's the background. I've been bicurious since my college days. I never did anything about it. The wife and I have been together for almost 25 years and she's known about my curiosity since our early dating years. We've never done any swinging or cuckolding but it's usually part of our fantasy dirty talk in bed and definitely plays into our pegging sessions.

This past weekend after a few drinks we got onto the topic but this time was different because we weren't in bed. When we are going at it we're normally talking about having a guy fuck me while I'm fucking her. But in this conversation she said she wouldn't want to be there but is open to me exploring without her. She even suggested that I check out a gay bar and see what my reaction is in a real world scenario rather than just fantasy.

My question to the other bi guys here is what is the risk I'm not seeing here? Has anyone done this and how did it impact your relationship with your wife? While I've fantasized about this a lot, I'm worried that going through with it would change our dynamics even if she says she wants me to explore. I could really use some perspective from others that may have gone down this road.

Thanks!

I think you're really lucky to have a wife who's interested in this and is willing to let you explore. First thing for me is to find a guy whom I'm attracted to, then get to know him and talk about what you both want. I suspect once you suck your 1st cock, like so many others you'll be hooked. After sucking my gay friends big cock after a few times I was hooked. Best thing Ive ever done. Go for it.

 

[dickhurtz]

wife & I were talking about how much she liked sucking dicks. i told her that, after watching her, i was curious about it. all she said was, "can i watch"?

unfortunately, we never got to share the experience.

 

[nicebiguy]

wife & I were talking about how much she liked sucking dicks. i told her that, after watching her, i was curious about it. all she said was, "can i watch"?

unfortunately, we never got to share the experience.

That's a shame. Why didn't you pursue it ?
'

 

[nicebiguy]

I'm looking for some advice/perspective. I'm sure I'll hear a few "just do it" but I'm hoping for something a bit more in depth than that.

Here's the background. I've been bicurious since my college days. I never did anything about it. The wife and I have been together for almost 25 years and she's known about my curiosity since our early dating years. We've never done any swinging or cuckolding but it's usually part of our fantasy dirty talk in bed and definitely plays into our pegging sessions.

This past weekend after a few drinks we got onto the topic but this time was different because we weren't in bed. When we are going at it we're normally talking about having a guy fuck me while I'm fucking her. But in this conversation she said she wouldn't want to be there but is open to me exploring without her. She even suggested that I check out a gay bar and see what my reaction is in a real world scenario rather than just fantasy.

My question to the other bi guys here is what is the risk I'm not seeing here? Has anyone done this and how did it impact your relationship with your wife? While I've fantasized about this a lot, I'm worried that going through with it would change our dynamics even if she says she wants me to explore. I could really use some perspective from others that may have gone down this road.

Thanks!

You really don't know what your wifes reaction will be. When I told my hot gf I was sucking my friends big cock she got a little jealous and later wanted to fuck him. As far as risk goes I guess there are some, the biggest concern I had was STDs, otherwise it was what I consider a nice and helpful situation helping me explore other aspects of sex.

 

[robbiewillsucku]

it is alot more fun if you suck cocks together. one of the best thing is hearing my woman say - suck his cock for me while she pushed my head towards his cock - I have been sucking cocks ever since.

 

[nicebiguy]

it is alot more fun if you suck cocks together. one of the best thing is hearing my woman say - suck his cock for me while she pushed my head towards his cock - I have been sucking cocks ever since.

I feel the same way, but I was more comfortable meeting him 1st to see how I felt about it.

 

[robbiewillsucku]

I feel the same way, but I was more comfortable meeting him 1st to see how I felt about it.

if you have been licking your cum from her pussy after you fuck her then it is easier to lick others cum from her pussy.

 

[jw_kk]

Once you start to indulge your bi fantasies, it can be hard to stop. Just like a hot wife can enter that 'frenzy' mode of newfound freedom to enjoy her sexuality, untethered from traditional relationships, you might find bi / gay sex addictive. In some ways, it can be easier/lower effort to find willing bi partners than either women or couples. That makes it easier to over-indulge...

 

[nicebiguy]

Once you start to indulge your bi fantasies, it can be hard to stop. Just like a hot wife can enter that 'frenzy' mode of newfound freedom to enjoy her sexuality, untethered from traditional relationships, you might find bi / gay sex addictive. In some ways, it can be easier/lower effort to find willing bi partners than either women or couples. That makes it easier to over-indulge...

Who would want to stop? Over indulge, addictive? Thats like saying don't breathe too much. If eating smelly pussy and sucking big cocks is addictive then that's great, IMO.

 

[dickhurtz]

That's a shame. Why didn't you pursue it ?
'

her health issues & she passed on2/1/21.

 

[hotratz]

her health issues & she passed on2/1/21.

Sorry for your loss.

 

[2wheel]

For years I had been encouraging my late wife to take a lover, a sex partner. A person or persons to satisfy her sexual needs and desires. She has absolutely refused. Early on this quest I setup an AFF profile for her, gave her CL links, got her condoms and her favorite lube and an extra (for travel) dildo. Even setup a private massage for her hoping she would accept his 'extra'.

After years and a lot of discussion she has finally agreed to an MMF. But she is definitely giving me the slow roll. Each time I say let's look at ads for a candidate she says OK but then begs off for various reasons. Only once have I been able to get her to the computer. We started looking at 'men seeking a couple' then she said let's look at 'men seeking a female'. Candidly my plan is to let her and him have at it and try to move out of the action.

She does understands that I MUST be present, she doesn't want to be watched that's why the MMF. As an aside one of her fantasy's and her turns on's has always been being to be watched. OK so things change, I got it.

Each ad we looked at had an issue; too young, too old, too big, too small. Then she threw me off by saying why don't we look at 'men seeking men'. WTF. She said she would be interested in watching me with another man. I think she did this as a tit-for-tat expecting me to resist thereby justifying her past resistance. BUT 2 can play that game. I asked her is she was sure, by asking her how she'd feel about me after watching me on my hands and knees sucking another cock. She mirrored what I always have told her 'it's only sex'.

I agreed. At that computer session, with us both at the computer I set up a 'play date' 2 days hence with a guy visiting a nearby tourist area. I think she was a little surprised, that I would actually do it and so soon. I told her, why wait?

I did follow through with the M2M thing.

So I found a guy on CL. We went to his motel. He & I stripped as she sat in the chair fully clothed. He laid on the bed and I got between his legs on my knees and took him in my mouth. Within moments he was hard. Surprisingly she got up and rubbed my dick. He was about to cum but wanted to wait so I let up for a moment. Then went back to his cock. He asked her to rub his cock. She complied. She was jerking the shaft while the head was in my mouth. Then he announced his was gonna cum, she didn't let up, neither did I. She jerked him to completion into my mouth and I took his entire load. When done I tried to kiss her with some cum on my lips, she turned away.

He quickly got up and dressed. I followed suit and we left.

On the way home I asked her if she liked it, she said not really. She didn't ask if I did, so I told her to ask me, she did and I told her it was great, I loved it, it was fun, that cum wasn't so bad.


We never spoke about it.

Disclaimer - I had sucked a lot of guys before that time and since. She never knew. Cock & cum can be very addictive.
Current GF has no idea.
Current LF knows and has joined in with me. But mostly I suck cock without LF.

 

[marx]

For years I had been encouraging my late wife to take a lover, a sex partner. A person or persons to satisfy her sexual needs and desires. She has absolutely refused. Early on this quest I setup an AFF profile for her, gave her CL links, got her condoms and her favorite lube and an extra (for travel) dildo. Even setup a private massage for her hoping she would accept his 'extra'.

After years and a lot of discussion she has finally agreed to an MMF. But she is definitely giving me the slow roll. Each time I say let's look at ads for a candidate she says OK but then begs off for various reasons. Only once have I been able to get her to the computer. We started looking at 'men seeking a couple' then she said let's look at 'men seeking a female'. Candidly my plan is to let her and him have at it and try to move out of the action.

She does understands that I MUST be present, she doesn't want to be watched that's why the MMF. As an aside one of her fantasy's and her turns on's has always been being to be watched. OK so things change, I got it.

Each ad we looked at had an issue; too young, too old, too big, too small. Then she threw me off by saying why don't we look at 'men seeking men'. WTF. She said she would be interested in watching me with another man. I think she did this as a tit-for-tat expecting me to resist thereby justifying her past resistance. BUT 2 can play that game. I asked her is she was sure, by asking her how she'd feel about me after watching me on my hands and knees sucking another cock. She mirrored what I always have told her 'it's only sex'.

I agreed. At that computer session, with us both at the computer I set up a 'play date' 2 days hence with a guy visiting a nearby tourist area. I think she was a little surprised, that I would actually do it and so soon. I told her, why wait?

I did follow through with the M2M thing.

So I found a guy on CL. We went to his motel. He & I stripped as she sat in the chair fully clothed. He laid on the bed and I got between his legs on my knees and took him in my mouth. Within moments he was hard. Surprisingly she got up and rubbed my dick. He was about to cum but wanted to wait so I let up for a moment. Then went back to his cock. He asked her to rub his cock. She complied. She was jerking the shaft while the head was in my mouth. Then he announced his was gonna cum, she didn't let up, neither did I. She jerked him to completion into my mouth and I took his entire load. When done I tried to kiss her with some cum on my lips, she turned away.

He quickly got up and dressed. I followed suit and we left.

On the way home I asked her if she liked it, she said not really. She didn't ask if I did, so I told her to ask me, she did and I told her it was great, I loved it, it was fun, that cum wasn't so bad.


We never spoke about it.

Disclaimer - I had sucked a lot of guys before that time and since. She never knew. Cock & cum can be very addictive.
Current GF has no idea.
Current LF knows and has joined in with me. But mostly I suck cock without LF.

Hot

 

[dickhurtz]

Sorry for your loss.

thank you.

 

[Helovestobcaged]

I'm looking for some advice/perspective. I'm sure I'll hear a few "just do it" but I'm hoping for something a bit more in depth than that.

Here's the background. I've been bicurious since my college days. I never did anything about it. The wife and I have been together for almost 25 years and she's known about my curiosity since our early dating years. We've never done any swinging or cuckolding but it's usually part of our fantasy dirty talk in bed and definitely plays into our pegging sessions.

This past weekend after a few drinks we got onto the topic but this time was different because we weren't in bed. When we are going at it we're normally talking about having a guy fuck me while I'm fucking her. But in this conversation she said she wouldn't want to be there but is open to me exploring without her. She even suggested that I check out a gay bar and see what my reaction is in a real world scenario rather than just fantasy.

My question to the other bi guys here is what is the risk I'm not seeing here? Has anyone done this and how did it impact your relationship with your wife? While I've fantasized about this a lot, I'm worried that going through with it would change our dynamics even if she says she wants me to explore. I could really use some perspective from others that may have gone down this road.

Thanks!

I have been working with my husband since we got married. The way I see it, it's only made us stronger. I started off slow by buying him a cage, made him wear it for three days including our wedding day. That night I bought an anal training kit, and things just kept getting spicy. I was very nervous at the beginning didn't want to make him feel bad about it or regret it later, we tried pegging, I bought him a pair of sexy panties. As he became more open to the idea and he started doing his own exploring on forums it really has been a good thing in our life. It's been so hot to me watching him turn into such a good cuck.

 

[nicebiguy]

I have been working with my husband since we got married. The way I see it, it's only made us stronger. I started off slow by buying him a cage, made him wear it for three days including our wedding day. That night I bought an anal training kit, and things just kept getting spicy. I was very nervous at the beginning didn't want to make him feel bad about it or regret it later, we tried pegging, I bought him a pair of sexy panties. As he became more open to the idea and he started doing his own exploring on forums it really has been a good thing in our life. It's been so hot to me watching him turn into such a good cuck.

What a lucky couple to have found each other. I found being caged and unable to cum makes me more submissive, horny and eager to please, also brings my fem side to the surface.

 

[Bdriver]

I'm looking for some advice/perspective. I'm sure I'll hear a few "just do it" but I'm hoping for something a bit more in depth than that.

Here's the background. I've been bicurious since my college days. I never did anything about it. The wife and I have been together for almost 25 years and she's known about my curiosity since our early dating years. We've never done any swinging or cuckolding but it's usually part of our fantasy dirty talk in bed and definitely plays into our pegging sessions.

This past weekend after a few drinks we got onto the topic but this time was different because we weren't in bed. When we are going at it we're normally talking about having a guy fuck me while I'm fucking her. But in this conversation she said she wouldn't want to be there but is open to me exploring without her. She even suggested that I check out a gay bar and see what my reaction is in a real world scenario rather than just fantasy.

My question to the other bi guys here is what is the risk I'm not seeing here? Has anyone done this and how did it impact your relationship with your wife? While I've fantasized about this a lot, I'm worried that going through with it would change our dynamics even if she says she wants me to explore. I could really use some perspective from others that may have gone down this road.

Thanks!

It's always risky when you are considering changes to the sexual boundaries with you and your spouse. But, it's not uncommon for couples to make changes to spice things up. Especially after many years of marriage.

In my opinion, your wife revealed something very significant about herself. It sounds like she is aware of your bi-sexual desires and she may be ok with it. But to minimize the risk, the two of you need to talk about it as openly as possible. That is the only way you will find out what her expectations and tolerances are. Women vary greatly on this issue.

I have a buddy that is married and bi. His wife is very much ok with that, but would rather not know nor see him doing sexual things with another man. According to him, her exact words were: "I would feel less threatened with you having sex with another man, than with another woman".

I got very lucky with my wife. At least, in my opinion. As we started dating and getting to know each other, she admitted to me that she actually got into gay male porn. I found that very intriguing because I was bi. I wanted her to know that I was bi, but I just didn't have the nerve to reveal that to her. But I finally did.

Long story short, my wife and I have had an open marriage since before we got married. She is allowed to fuck any guy she wants, whenever she wants, and as much as she wants.

I am the classic cock sucking cuckold. She, not only, loves watching me suck her bull's cock, she expects me to.

 

[nicebiguy]

It's always risky when you are considering changes to the sexual boundaries with you and your spouse. But, it's not uncommon for couples to make changes to spice things up. Especially after many years of marriage.

In my opinion, your wife revealed something very significant about herself. It sounds like she is aware of your bi-sexual desires and she may be ok with it. But to minimize the risk, the two of you need to talk about it as openly as possible. That is the only way you will find out what her expectations and tolerances are. Women vary greatly on this issue.

I have a buddy that is married and bi. His wife is very much ok with that, but would rather not know nor see him doing sexual things with another man. According to him, her exact words were: "I would feel less threatened with you having sex with another man, than with another woman".

I got very lucky with my wife. At least, in my opinion. As we started dating and getting to know each other, she admitted to me that she actually got into gay male porn. I found that very intriguing because I was bi. I wanted her to know that I was bi, but I just didn't have the nerve to reveal that to her. But I finally did.

Long story short, my wife and I have had an open marriage since before we got married. She is allowed to fuck any guy she wants, whenever she wants, and as much as she wants.

I am the classic cock sucking cuckold. She, not only, loves watching me suck her bull's cock, she expec

 

[robbiewillsucku]

Better if she tells you to find a cock and suck his cock then come home and tell me the details. Tell her you need to be told to suck a cock cause it is part of being a submissive sissy.