I have been living with my kink more than ten years. At the beginning I struggled with the fact that it gets me horny thinking about my wife having sex with someone else. I overcame that struggle after some time and accepted it for what it is.
We are still yet to find a guy for her, but as me and my wife evolved, I realized that it excites me heavily also to be submissive to her. What's driving me extremely though is humiliation. I love when she is comparing me to other men sexually, denying me and allowing other men do things I am not allowed, basically treating them as better men sexually. And this is what is causing me a major issues at times.
This will sound stereotypical, but my job, my looks etc always required me to be THE man and I honestly felt good about being confident, strong man. But this strong man within me is punishing and judging me very harshly for getting off on idea of being humiliated and treated as less of a man. Sometimes, especially when we have been playing our roles intensely - her being dominant, me denied etc - I am struggling with my self esteem and feel awkward and bit nervous even during social events for example.
This way I am looking for kind of support and advice. I know many of you are not psychologists, but I bet there is plenty of men who are confident, enjoy humiliation and are not pretending to be full time sissies. How did you find a peace between the two personalities, when and how you allow them to express and how are you navigating in the lifestyle? I learned long ago this kink is not on/off thing for us often and it's inevitably soaking outside bedroom too because of the whole nature of the fetish so how to cope? To put it in perspective, I also have a bit of boot fetish, I love women in boots, but it's more straightforward -fet horny, grt off, done, forget until next time. With cuckold lifestyle, at least the one I find the most fulfilling it's never ending practice of trying to understand each other and accomodating our roles.
We are still yet to find a guy for her, but as me and my wife evolved, I realized that it excites me heavily also to be submissive to her. What's driving me extremely though is humiliation. I love when she is comparing me to other men sexually, denying me and allowing other men do things I am not allowed, basically treating them as better men sexually. And this is what is causing me a major issues at times.
This will sound stereotypical, but my job, my looks etc always required me to be THE man and I honestly felt good about being confident, strong man. But this strong man within me is punishing and judging me very harshly for getting off on idea of being humiliated and treated as less of a man. Sometimes, especially when we have been playing our roles intensely - her being dominant, me denied etc - I am struggling with my self esteem and feel awkward and bit nervous even during social events for example.
This way I am looking for kind of support and advice. I know many of you are not psychologists, but I bet there is plenty of men who are confident, enjoy humiliation and are not pretending to be full time sissies. How did you find a peace between the two personalities, when and how you allow them to express and how are you navigating in the lifestyle? I learned long ago this kink is not on/off thing for us often and it's inevitably soaking outside bedroom too because of the whole nature of the fetish so how to cope? To put it in perspective, I also have a bit of boot fetish, I love women in boots, but it's more straightforward -fet horny, grt off, done, forget until next time. With cuckold lifestyle, at least the one I find the most fulfilling it's never ending practice of trying to understand each other and accomodating our roles.