I need advice and potentially resources. However, I think significant context is needed
So me (M25) and my gf (F23) and I will send twitter porn back and forth when we are in the mood. We have been dating for just over a year and we are incredibly sexually compatible. She's very submissive and the chemistry in the bedroom is insane. She took my virginity and our first time, was an impromptu lovemaking in the living room of my apartment while my roommates were not home. We have been fairly open with each other, but for me this is my first relationship that I am sexually active in and for her tends to be VERY shy.
I had hinted early on that I wanted to try a MMF threesome and got a interested but not enthusiastic agreement from her. I internalized this. I am not a cuckold but I love the idea of sharing her. For me, I have no desire to be humiliated or degraded, but I see it as an opportunity to degrade her. To objectify her. This was where a lot of my nerve came from. I love her and I don't view her as an object, but in the bedroom its hot. But today I was feeling extra horny. I had bookmarked a video that had a woman with 4 men around her. She was taking one of them in her while holding two in her hands. Eventually the one guy in her stops and lets the 4th guy have a turn. They were all very hung and I couldn't stop imagining my gf in that position.
I sent this to her while admittedly shaking. I didn't want to spook her because non-monogamy and that sort of encounter can be very taboo in certain relationships. However, after I sent the video, she messaged me back asking If I was into that sort of thing. I told her that I was but that I understood if she was not. To my relief, it turns out she loved that Idea.
This set off a discussion about gangbang situations and also more intimate situations with just one other man. I asked her why she liked it and she shared a very similar answer to why I find it so attractive. She said she likes the idea of feeling so degraded and used like a toy. We also discussed limits and concerns. She had concerns with finding sexual partners who she feels safe and comfortable with, how we would go about that and such. This was a concern I also shared. I also explained that I only wanted to share her in the bedroom and I wanted to remain exclusive as a romantic couple. I also explained that I wanted to always be with her whenever she was with another man and only with a man that I had met and felt comfortable with her. She acknowledged and agreed to these concerns.
Here is where I ask for help: Knowing the full context with out interests and concerns...For those of you who have shared a partner, what are some pieces of advice that I should discuss or kept in mind? What are things that need to be considered? Also what are some resources we can use to find men who would be interested in this? I am hesitant to have a shared account on something like Tinder or Bumble, because our community is small enough where we would certainly be seen by people who we know. Are there sites online? What are some tips for finding these partners? What are some red flags to watch out for?
So me (M25) and my gf (F23) and I will send twitter porn back and forth when we are in the mood. We have been dating for just over a year and we are incredibly sexually compatible. She's very submissive and the chemistry in the bedroom is insane. She took my virginity and our first time, was an impromptu lovemaking in the living room of my apartment while my roommates were not home. We have been fairly open with each other, but for me this is my first relationship that I am sexually active in and for her tends to be VERY shy.
I had hinted early on that I wanted to try a MMF threesome and got a interested but not enthusiastic agreement from her. I internalized this. I am not a cuckold but I love the idea of sharing her. For me, I have no desire to be humiliated or degraded, but I see it as an opportunity to degrade her. To objectify her. This was where a lot of my nerve came from. I love her and I don't view her as an object, but in the bedroom its hot. But today I was feeling extra horny. I had bookmarked a video that had a woman with 4 men around her. She was taking one of them in her while holding two in her hands. Eventually the one guy in her stops and lets the 4th guy have a turn. They were all very hung and I couldn't stop imagining my gf in that position.
I sent this to her while admittedly shaking. I didn't want to spook her because non-monogamy and that sort of encounter can be very taboo in certain relationships. However, after I sent the video, she messaged me back asking If I was into that sort of thing. I told her that I was but that I understood if she was not. To my relief, it turns out she loved that Idea.
This set off a discussion about gangbang situations and also more intimate situations with just one other man. I asked her why she liked it and she shared a very similar answer to why I find it so attractive. She said she likes the idea of feeling so degraded and used like a toy. We also discussed limits and concerns. She had concerns with finding sexual partners who she feels safe and comfortable with, how we would go about that and such. This was a concern I also shared. I also explained that I only wanted to share her in the bedroom and I wanted to remain exclusive as a romantic couple. I also explained that I wanted to always be with her whenever she was with another man and only with a man that I had met and felt comfortable with her. She acknowledged and agreed to these concerns.
Here is where I ask for help: Knowing the full context with out interests and concerns...For those of you who have shared a partner, what are some pieces of advice that I should discuss or kept in mind? What are things that need to be considered? Also what are some resources we can use to find men who would be interested in this? I am hesitant to have a shared account on something like Tinder or Bumble, because our community is small enough where we would certainly be seen by people who we know. Are there sites online? What are some tips for finding these partners? What are some red flags to watch out for?
