So we have been married 11 years. Both 39 and have an almost dead headroom. I need some help and guidance on how to bring it back to life and bring up cuckolding
Completely new with a vanilla wife. How do i Star the subject
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Same problem here.. our sex is good but she won't agree to wife sharing. Tried talking to her so many times ..
I want to long term follow ur progress, her getting poor sex at home Will push her into a new extra cock with time, are you sure your ready 2b 2nd choice?? color me anxious to learn her progress.. DM me plz
orbitxxx
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When you wake up in the morning, tell her that you had a wet dream about her being fucked by another man while you watched and you loved it.
She will probably tell you that you are mad, but I bet the next time you fuck her you will feel the different.
You just need to "plant the seed" and let it grow..
She will probably tell you that you are mad, but I bet the next time you fuck her you will feel the different.
You just need to "plant the seed" and let it grow..
Might give this a go this weekend. That’s a good idea
orbitxxx
Male
Then let us know how it went 😁
That's how I opened the door. It's been one good thing after another since. Just don't push, and give her time and enjoy the ride. Nothing like seeing other men stare at your wife's tits in public and you notice she notices it too. Get her dressing sexy and feeling sexy. And she will take care of the rest.
Just make sure your prepared for where it leads to! My (soon to be ex) husband spent ages talking me into this, but once I started, and got more comfortable with myself enjoying the attention, I became a bit more confident, started telling him how I felt about other men, his friends etc, and even plucked up the courage to tell him I was attracted to his dad, and had been for a long time! I think that one hit him hard, and I don't think he thought anything would come of it, but it didn't take long from me telling him to me getting in bed with his dad! And so began the end of our marriage!
Yes, that is the best strategy: plant seeds, work to expand her mind with fantasies, go slowly. The great thing about telling your dreams (even if they are made up) is that you are not responsible for the dream. Moreover, you can let her play psychoanalyst. Remember, if all dreams are symbols, your dream of another man fucking her is NOT "about" another man fucking her. The more you reveal about your emotional response to witnessing the lovemaking act the better. Talk about great emotional conflicts, as jealousy and arousal mixed and competed in your mind and heart and penis.
In fact, last night I dreamt that my wife was being fucked while fore and middle fingers squeezed her cliteral hood. It was a great dream, as I felt his stroking cock through her skin. I told her about my dream first thing upon awakening. I described how my fingers could feel her gripping on to his retracking shaft and then the his downward thrusts expanding her vagina and thereby bunching up her labia's skin, as if he was either very thick or insufficient lube was used. She frowned when said that last item, so I added that it must have been his impressive girth, as she was enjoying the fucking so much. Her frown was replaced with a smile. Believe me, this dream will come in our pillow talk this weekend, when my cock is deep inside her.
Btw, read https://www.wifewantstoplay.com/threads/the-first-step-towards-sharing-your-wife.16505/
I totally agree that you need to plant the seed. The dream is a great idea. Avoid terms like cuckolding, stag / vixen, bulls, BBC. You might consider terms like boyfriend or lover. It’s ok to suggest he had a large cock.
orbitxxx
Male
In my case it worked pretty well.
My wife used to be very vanilla too, to the point that we never used any kind of toys or anything to fancy from normal sex. (We are married for 20 years)
One night I was actually dreaming about her getting fucked by some other man while I was sitting at a distance watching.
I think she noticed something because in morning when I wake up, she asked me what happened during the night that my cock was hard and I did a lot of dirty talking and some weird noises 😂.
I did tell her the truth, and slowly she got interested in all my other fantasy's that I never told her about.
I can tell you she's a complete different beast now, 😁 since that "incident" I have now a shoe box full of dildos/toys and we are making videos for our OF page, (something that I never imagined possible with her)...
Communication is king in sex matter...
you gotta take one step at a time...........be patient..........it will happen
First things first, why in your opinion is it a dead bedroom? What do you think her answer would be and have you discussed this issue with her?
Does the lack of sex concern you and do you want to have more sex with your wife as an outcome or do you want a hot wife situation or a cuckold situation with denial of some sort?
Have you discussed kinks with each other in the past?
Does the lack of sex concern you and do you want to have more sex with your wife as an outcome or do you want a hot wife situation or a cuckold situation with denial of some sort?
Have you discussed kinks with each other in the past?
Start watching porn with her, regular at first, maybe with more than one cock and you comment on the cocks and have her comment also. Additionally, after watching porn, then reference the cocks she saw instead of your own, asking her who she would like to fuck as you fuck or as you eat her.
We have sex maybe once a month. Pretty straight and boring. I’ve put out hints on open relationships or swings and she always shuts those done. Even said it would t have to be open on my end.
What if she doesn’t respond or comment? What if she doesn’t enjoy the porn?
Okay, so basically you two have been together for 11 years, your bedroom has died due to interest levels dropping from both of you.
You want to suggest some kind of open marriage in regards to sexual exploration?
In short to me that sounds like you’re preparing for a divorce without realizing it.
Why did you marry her, what do you still enjoy about her? Why not just get divorced and go date other people?
More brought up open marriage to see what her interest level was. I’m still very into her, and she knows this. She just doesn’t have a high sex drive anymore
There are lots of reasons sex drives slow down. Are you sure hers has slowed down or that’s just a reason she is giving you that may be hiding something else?
Would you say that you have a great marriage and that opening up would make it better?
It sounds like you’re looking to be swingers and you want to explore a bit of a cuckold fetish you have more so than just cuckolding.
I don’t know your wife but many women whose husbands confront them about an open marriage that can be linked in their minds back to their lower sex drive might find that worrisome or threatening. The manner of your approach and the understanding of your goals will be very important. High levels of communication are important in this situation more than normal.
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