Not Sure How to Proceed

[rgrant8787]

Hi,

I've really been into the idea of sharing my wife. The thought of her getting filled from both ends is such an excitement. We've been married for 15 years and I know she was pretty wild sexually before we were together. She's been in a MFF before, a drunken night.

Our sex life is good. She's been receptive to try things. We play with toys and she's always has multiple o's during those time. We have several, the suction cup is my favorite. Her riding that, while my cock is soooo hot. I've told her several times I love hearing her moan with pleasure with while she gets fucked and sucks me.

The deal is I've mentioned 3way several times through the years and its always been a hard no. She's told me that she knows that if we do 1, I'll want it all the time. Which I don't necessarily disagree. I can have an addictive personality. I know I have to continue build her trust and make sure that if we do this, we set parameters we both agree on.

I would like to specifically express the idea of what I envision for a 3rd. I just don't know how with that hard no. Any suggestions?

 

[toolman2c]

Hi,

I've really been into the idea of sharing my wife. The thought of her getting filled from both ends is such an excitement. We've been married for 15 years and I know she was pretty wild sexually before we were together. She's been in a MFF before, a drunken night.

Our sex life is good. She's been receptive to try things. We play with toys and she's always has multiple o's during those time. We have several, the suction cup is my favorite. Her riding that, while my cock is soooo hot. I've told her several times I love hearing her moan with pleasure with while she gets fucked and sucks me.

The deal is I've mentioned 3way several times through the years and its always been a hard no. She's told me that she knows that if we do 1, I'll want it all the time. Which I don't necessarily disagree. I can have an addictive personality. I know I have to continue build her trust and make sure that if we do this, we set parameters we both agree on.

I would like to specifically express the idea of what I envision for a 3rd. I just don't know how with that hard no. Any suggestions?

That sounds like a Big step for you, use caution as u drop hints it try to have "the talk"..good luck

 

[NeedaDomInMI]

Hi,

I've really been into the idea of sharing my wife. The thought of her getting filled from both ends is such an excitement. We've been married for 15 years and I know she was pretty wild sexually before we were together. She's been in a MFF before, a drunken night.

Our sex life is good. She's been receptive to try things. We play with toys and she's always has multiple o's during those time. We have several, the suction cup is my favorite. Her riding that, while my cock is soooo hot. I've told her several times I love hearing her moan with pleasure with while she gets fucked and sucks me.

The deal is I've mentioned 3way several times through the years and its always been a hard no. She's told me that she knows that if we do 1, I'll want it all the time. Which I don't necessarily disagree. I can have an addictive personality. I know I have to continue build her trust and make sure that if we do this, we set parameters we both agree on.

I would like to specifically express the idea of what I envision for a 3rd. I just don't know how with that hard no. Any suggestions?

Would she be willing to watch porn with you? If so, maybe start to slip a threesome in there where the wife takes another man’s cock.

 

[rgrant8787]

Would she be willing to watch porn with you? If so, maybe start to slip a threesome in there where the wife takes another man’s cock.

We've watched porn together in the past but haven't in quite sometime. I know she watches on her own on the rare occassion that we've gone a couple weeks without sex. I've tried to get to share specifics about she likes but she won't say. Thanks for the suggestion, i'll give that a try.

 

[godsgifttowomen]

Hi,

I've really been into the idea of sharing my wife. The thought of her getting filled from both ends is such an excitement. We've been married for 15 years and I know she was pretty wild sexually before we were together. She's been in a MFF before, a drunken night.

Our sex life is good. She's been receptive to try things. We play with toys and she's always has multiple o's during those time. We have several, the suction cup is my favorite. Her riding that, while my cock is soooo hot. I've told her several times I love hearing her moan with pleasure with while she gets fucked and sucks me.

The deal is I've mentioned 3way several times through the years and its always been a hard no. She's told me that she knows that if we do 1, I'll want it all the time. Which I don't necessarily disagree. I can have an addictive personality. I know I have to continue build her trust and make sure that if we do this, we set parameters we both agree on.

I would like to specifically express the idea of what I envision for a 3rd. I just don't know how with that hard no. Any suggestions?

So idk your relationship with your wife and what your interpersonal dynamics are, but you might be primed for a FLR depending on how you operate. If you hand over her to making the decisions of what she wants to do at her discretion without you pressuring her - willing to allow her to choose and then being rewarded for it - you might have a better job at opening her up. If you're naturally more Dominant, or can be really pushy; learn some self control. Personal take is a Dom should be able to wield that presence with intention and let it take over, but not without control over themselves. That said, everyones different.

 

[Phun Times 727]

Hi,

I've really been into the idea of sharing my wife. The thought of her getting filled from both ends is such an excitement. We've been married for 15 years and I know she was pretty wild sexually before we were together. She's been in a MFF before, a drunken night.

Our sex life is good. She's been receptive to try things. We play with toys and she's always has multiple o's during those time. We have several, the suction cup is my favorite. Her riding that, while my cock is soooo hot. I've told her several times I love hearing her moan with pleasure with while she gets fucked and sucks me.

The deal is I've mentioned 3way several times through the years and its always been a hard no. She's told me that she knows that if we do 1, I'll want it all the time. Which I don't necessarily disagree. I can have an addictive personality. I know I have to continue build her trust and make sure that if we do this, we set parameters we both agree on.

I would like to specifically express the idea of what I envision for a 3rd. I just don't know how with that hard no. Any suggestions?

Are we married to the same woman? That is my story exactly to the last line, with the exception being I broke down her resistance and we have been in a MFM for a couple months worth of weekends.

 

[rgrant8787]

So idk your relationship with your wife and what your interpersonal dynamics are, but you might be primed for a FLR depending on how you operate. If you hand over her to making the decisions of what she wants to do at her discretion without you pressuring her - willing to allow her to choose and then being rewarded for it - you might have a better job at opening her up. If you're naturally more Dominant, or can be really pushy; learn some self control. Personal take is a Dom should be able to wield that presence with intention and let it take over, but not without control over themselves. That said, everyones different.

So our dynamic is split pretty evenly. We each do our own things on a daily basis while evenly spliting the chores, etc. In the bedroom she enjoys being the submissive. Me on the other hand, I could go either way. I've actually suggested she take a more dominant role and she doesn't seem very interested. Things like more postions on top, using restraints normally for her on me, etc. I've even shown her and suggested the Amazon position. No movement. Granted almost all of tge suhgestions have been while shes not in the mood or we are just starting. When we've been foreplaying all day long, teasing and or have had a few drinks she is usually more agreeable then. I feel like trying your suggestion might work. I also think this is just going to be a slow play.

 

[rgrant8787]

Are we married to the same woman? That is my story exactly to the last line, with the exception being I broke down her resistance and we have been in a MFM for a couple months worth of weekends.

Oh Phun Times, please do tell how you eased her resistance? How long did it take? What worked, what didn't?

 

[godsgifttowomen]

So our dynamic is split pretty evenly. We each do our own things on a daily basis while evenly spliting the chores, etc. In the bedroom she enjoys being the submissive. Me on the other hand, I could go either way. I've actually suggested she take a more dominant role and she doesn't seem very interested. Things like more postions on top, using restraints normally for her on me, etc. I've even shown her and suggested the Amazon position. No movement. Granted almost all of tge suhgestions have been while shes not in the mood or we are just starting. When we've been foreplaying all day long, teasing and or have had a few drinks she is usually more agreeable then. I feel like trying your suggestion might work. I also think this is just going to be a slow play.

Personal take would be warm her up before you suggest. Broad strokes of the lifestyle seems its often a cuck wanting to feel less, or a husband who puts his wifes pleasure first. You sound more like the latter. Turn the focus of what you want onto her, without pushing it. Tend to her pleasure as your main objective everytime and then lead her in the direction you want. If she isn't down, just let her do her thing and enjoy herself. Should this become a transgressive pattern, discuss it with her outside of bed and how you need your needs met in the same way you've been focusing on her. Better yet, tell her from the jump you want to focus on her so shes aware of the change. This isn't a set up for emotional blackmail and shouldn't cause resentment should it be ineffective - this is your effort as her husband to make her your priority. Your conversation should be an honest moment between a husband and wife leveling with each other. That said; I'm a stranger on the internet, not a therapist. It's theoretical suggestions for a strategy based on only the information I sniped from your post.

If she's not particularly Dominant, she may be better at teasing. If you can get her to play long and become a regular part of play it is priming her for accepting it as a reality which is all role play really is - a new experience in a safe, familiar form with someone she trusts. If you want, DM me for other suggestions. Usually pretty good at cookin up ideas but not knowing either of you and your relationship, theres only so much I can observe of how you two operate.

 

[majorem]

The deal is I've mentioned 3way several times through the years and its always been a hard no. She's told me that she knows that if we do 1, I'll want it all the time.

Lol, just respond "Well I already want it all the time, so the only thing that would change is you can tell me you already did it and to stfu about it now"

 

[rgrant8787]

Would she be willing to watch porn with you? If so, maybe start to slip a threesome in there where the wife takes another man’s cock.

We've watched porn together in the past but inconsistently. Maybe increasing this together will help.