Us...we are into mfm fun with a guy we know. We've done it many, many times with him, we're comfy together, we can relax and enjoy a few hours of sex. We take turns with my wife, I like watching them, he likes watching us, wife likes being watched. It's a fun night. None of our friends know we do this and we don't want them to find out. We do this at our home usually, we've been to his place three times. Our friend is white, younger, 33. We're mid 50s.
This is just extra fun for us, we're not swingers at all. We did hook up with a guy out of town once and a different guy three times. Neither were what we were looking for.
The sex is great, wife enjoys more than she'll admit but the nasty/kink, can't tell anyone aspect is a BIG part of it too.
We're not very experienced with all this, we have kinda had pillow talk about a black guy.
Our questions are... this is for COUPLES...not asking about a wife that visits a guy/bull then comes home to hubby.
The guy you see...black ? Older ? Younger? Gentlemen type? Bad boy type?
How often with him ? How many times? Where...motel? Home?
Does husband only watch? Does she kiss the bull? Condoms?
How did you find the bull ?
Safe to say the bull being black is a big part of the fun?
Men/bulls feel free to chim in.
We will have more questions I'm sure
Thanks
Hi. First of all I would like to say Your relationship is unique. It's not the same as anyone elses. So your journey will be different from everyone elses. That said it can be a great journey if you don't rush in. Rushing makes people make terrible decisions and gets them hurt.
The ground rules for a bull have to be discussed by not only you and your wife, but any bull you think or wish to join in the fun. So to answer your questions I will say it this way.
A guy is more than his cock. Whether he is a dominant person or someone who is a Bull just for you both. We treat the guy who is our Bull first and foremost with respect. He respects us, so we have a level of trust with each other that allows us to relax and have fun knowing we are suitable-compatible and comfortable in each others company.
We met ours on Black2White. We chatted there, then when we felt comfy we messaged for a while. Once we knew he was safe and could be trusted, we entered a proof of purpose stage for want of a better explanation. Why is this important to your questions? Well we wouldn't enter into any Bull situation without getting to know the person first. One thing that was mentioned to the "soon to be Bull"was that has the safety of wife was paramount. Nothing came above that. And that should be your guiding rule. Pillow talk is fine if you are not going to meet. But if you do!
Our bull is a combination of a few things. He can be rough, dominant, verbaly nasty, play the cuckold relationship or being gentle and wanting a relaxed evening. He is a well spoken CEO of his own company. So he knows how to play the power game so visits weekly. Also he is 10 years younger than our ages. But he is just one of three guys. Call him number one. Number two is a guy who is fun relaxed and loves being with an older woman, doesn't want the bull-cuckold stuff. Just a great time with a woman who is fun funny and great in bed. Oh and did we mention a huge ego boost being that he is thirty years younger. Again we met on B2W where we were members for years.
Number three is our threesum guy who joins our Bull from time to time, he enjoys taking on an older couple for fun. For us it is also that he has a larger cock which adds into the steriotypical description of a BBC. That and the fact he plays up to that for added spice between us. Yet the respect with all three is always there, no matter what theme meeting we have.
We meet them at our home mainly, personal choice and more comfy lol. But we have done car parks, with Wife hubby and bull, and wife bull alone. The hubby watches, sometimes isn't allowed to watch, our bull skips work when in the area for a quickie, where a power fuck is the order of the day. No condoms used. Again its the trust thing. Something that is built up. Until then we always start with condoms with a new guy. Though kissing is always encouraged, hot contrast of the skin colours during the kiss is exotic, erotic and fun.
I know this wasn't exactly the Q&A you sought. But this way we hope you have an idea about things. Plus if you have questions as you say We hope we can give you a more personal depiction of what can be a great and enjoyable experience.
Daphne.
