Hi everyone, newbies here. Hubby is white guy in his 40s, wife is Asian in her 20s. We are both excited about trying a hotwife experience and after talking about it for a while we are getting close to making it happen. Question for you pros of the lifestyle…
For our first time, we like the idea of watching her first get hit on at a hotel bar and then going up to our room with the lucky guy that passes her tests. However, a) this strategy leaves a lot to chance and b) we over-analyze everything. Safety is our #1 concern, both overall and with STIs. So there are clear benefits to vetting the guy first. But it seems naughtier and hotter in some ways than to meet someone on a site like this and plan everything in advance. An added benefit of this approach is that it seems easy to adjust and call it off at any point (well up until a certain point of course!) vs feeling bad that we wasted someone’s time. I don’t expect either of us will chicken out but who knows. We are both as nervous as we are excited about trying this.
Any advice for us? It’s much appreciated!
C & E
For our first time, we like the idea of watching her first get hit on at a hotel bar and then going up to our room with the lucky guy that passes her tests. However, a) this strategy leaves a lot to chance and b) we over-analyze everything. Safety is our #1 concern, both overall and with STIs. So there are clear benefits to vetting the guy first. But it seems naughtier and hotter in some ways than to meet someone on a site like this and plan everything in advance. An added benefit of this approach is that it seems easy to adjust and call it off at any point (well up until a certain point of course!) vs feeling bad that we wasted someone’s time. I don’t expect either of us will chicken out but who knows. We are both as nervous as we are excited about trying this.
Any advice for us? It’s much appreciated!
C & E