Hotwives, How long did it take your husband to convince you to try the lifestyle?

How long did it take your husband to convince you to become a hotwife? Are you glad you tried it? Any regrets? I have been trying to convince my wife for about a year and a half now. She says she has interest and wants to try it, but always has an excuse not to, such as might affect our marriage, don't want to try it too close to home, want to lose 5 or 10 lbs. Any advice to help me, or to help her get over the hump?
 
My hubs created this account and he finally got me on here. WOW! Very interesting to say the least. I think about strange dick from time to time but never had anyone but my hubs since we married (almost 27 years). I'm 5'4" 125 lbs fit MILF (his description). He's good size for me, nearly 7 inches and some thickness... that's what I really like over length. I have a couple of toys that we use occasionally. OMG. He's over my shoulder watching what I'm typing with a giant hard dick! Anyway, I have this fantasy. I want to try a new dick and my hubs wants me to (in real life he does also). I have a thing for fit, black men but not too dark. Shemar Moore from Criminal Minds and SWAT does it for me!!!! I just can't make myself go for it in real life. My hubs wants me to. I feel like if I did it would be cheating and I'm not sure I could watch him banging another woman... although in my fantasies it's fucking hot! I think there would be "buyers remorse" of sorts. I don't know. ADVICE IS WELCOMED!!!!!
ps I MIGHT let hubs post a pic or two, just not showing my face. I'm in the higher ranks of my profession and cannot afford to have anyone see me. I'm a freak but appear to be very vanilla in public.
 
I have a thing for fit, black men but not too dark. Shemar Moore from Criminal Minds and SWAT does it for me!!!! I just can't make myself go for it in real life.
When you were younger and unattached this would be the perfect time to explore. I don't want to mess with people's marriages so trying to interest younger, single women in the lifestyle. If you feel like giving a female perspective that would be welcome, sorry I don't have any wisdom to impart. Glad you are able to be open and have some sexy fun with your husband even if nothing else happens for real.
 
When you were younger and unattached this would be the perfect time to explore. I don't want to mess with people's marriages so trying to interest younger, single women in the lifestyle. If you feel like giving a female perspective that would be welcome, sorry I don't have any wisdom to impart. Glad you are able to be open and have some sexy fun with your husband even if nothing else happens for real.
Me and my wife don’t have tags names etc she just loves getting fuked and I enjoy watching it
 
My hubs created this account and he finally got me on here. WOW! Very interesting to say the least. I think about strange dick from time to time but never had anyone but my hubs since we married (almost 27 years). I'm 5'4" 125 lbs fit MILF (his description). He's good size for me, nearly 7 inches and some thickness... that's what I really like over length. I have a couple of toys that we use occasionally. OMG. He's over my shoulder watching what I'm typing with a giant hard dick! Anyway, I have this fantasy. I want to try a new dick and my hubs wants me to (in real life he does also). I have a thing for fit, black men but not too dark. Shemar Moore from Criminal Minds and SWAT does it for me!!!! I just can't make myself go for it in real life. My hubs wants me to. I feel like if I did it would be cheating and I'm not sure I could watch him banging another woman... although in my fantasies it's fucking hot! I think there would be "buyers remorse" of sorts. I don't know. ADVICE IS WELCOMED!!!!!
ps I MIGHT let hubs post a pic or two, just not showing my face. I'm in the higher ranks of my profession and cannot afford to have anyone see me. I'm a freak but appear to be very vanilla in public.
Because he wants you to fuck other men doesn't mean he wants to fuck other women.
 
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want to lose 5 or 10 lbs.

This tickled me, I have said this same thing so many times over the years. It has not ever stopped me from getting what I want, but I do tell hubs this a lot when he suggests we go out.

For us, it was not my husband's idea that led to our activity in the lifestyle, it was me. Not that he was not open to it, but I was the one who had the fantasy and made it a reality for the first time.
 
My hubs created this account and he finally got me on here. WOW! Very interesting to say the least. I think about strange dick from time to time but never had anyone but my hubs since we married (almost 27 years). I'm 5'4" 125 lbs fit MILF (his description). He's good size for me, nearly 7 inches and some thickness... that's what I really like over length. I have a couple of toys that we use occasionally. OMG. He's over my shoulder watching what I'm typing with a giant hard dick! Anyway, I have this fantasy. I want to try a new dick and my hubs wants me to (in real life he does also). I have a thing for fit, black men but not too dark. Shemar Moore from Criminal Minds and SWAT does it for me!!!! I just can't make myself go for it in real life. My hubs wants me to. I feel like if I did it would be cheating and I'm not sure I could watch him banging another woman... although in my fantasies it's fucking hot! I think there would be "buyers remorse" of sorts. I don't know. ADVICE IS WELCOMED!!!!!
ps I MIGHT let hubs post a pic or two, just not showing my face. I'm in the higher ranks of my profession and cannot afford to have anyone see me. I'm a freak but appear to be very vanilla in public.
i really enjoy input from the wives. thank you
 
11 years total, 9 years of married, very glad I tried, no regrets, it can definitely effect your marriage but only if one of you can’t handle it in reality is what she is saying and she means you. So you have to prove somehow to her that she can have sex with other men and you will be so cool with it, like it never happened. You throw that in her face once you screwed that up so bad and maybe ruin your marriage. That’s our fear, we are not afraid to fuck another man, nervous yes, not scared, scared to lose our marriage, scared to lose you and that is a good sign, means she loves you. So you need to prove that when you go down this path it’s going to be a fun walk in the park and you will be there for her and that she is not going to have to hold you up in any way, this is your idea after all. You must convince her there will be no emotional break downs after on your end and I believe that is the key to getting what you want. Definitely discreet, lifestyle online it is expected and often mentioned in profiles. Obviously swingers know this taboo is not socially acceptable it’s just that we can get over that part of it. 😉 and I want to lose ten lbs too! lol but the good news is rather good looking men will fuck fat ugly not nice women so a respectable wife with a few extra lbs is attractive to a lot of men and she will have quite a selection to choose from
Thanks for the advice!
 
i think you are assuming a lot here. im not sure about this site but it is "wife wants to play" not hubby wants to convince wife to play. Im sure many of us..(ME!)..were players and used to varied cock well before we were on here or got a hubby to agree. Since my 1st 2 hubs were boring and not adventurous, I ..adventured without them ..a lot! I met present hubby when I had at least 8 other fuckbuddys and more random.. yup i was married. I fucked him the first nite I met him..so when we got married ..it was understood. Hes a stag and almost always....:):) is involved or procuring. He also knows im a DVP queen!! But my point is..not all of us needed.."convincing":)
 
How long did it take your husband to convince you to become a hotwife? Are you glad you tried it? Any regrets? I have been trying to convince my wife for about a year and a half now. She says she has interest and wants to try it, but always has an excuse not to, such as might affect our marriage, don't want to try it too close to home, want to lose 5 or 10 lbs. Any advice to help me, or to help her get over the hump?
Not long after i caught him watching ir porn in my panties lol