11 years total, 9 years of married, very glad I tried, no regrets, it can definitely effect your marriage but only if one of you can’t handle it in reality is what she is saying and she means you. So you have to prove somehow to her that she can have sex with other men and you will be so cool with it, like it never happened. You throw that in her face once you screwed that up so bad and maybe ruin your marriage. That’s our fear, we are not afraid to fuck another man, nervous yes, not scared, scared to lose our marriage, scared to lose you and that is a good sign, means she loves you. So you need to prove that when you go down this path it’s going to be a fun walk in the park and you will be there for her and that she is not going to have to hold you up in any way, this is your idea after all. You must convince her there will be no emotional break downs after on your end and I believe that is the key to getting what you want. Definitely discreet, lifestyle online it is expected and often mentioned in profiles. Obviously swingers know this taboo is not socially acceptable it’s just that we can get over that part of it. 😉 and I want to lose ten lbs too! lol but the good news is rather good looking men will fuck fat ugly not nice women so a respectable wife with a few extra lbs is attractive to a lot of men and she will have quite a selection to choose from