My wife knows my kink, she was reluctant but has embraced it more. Role play in the room, toys that we use or makes me watch. She said she wants to give this to me, I feel bad because I’m not sure if she wants it or is doing it for me. She said that if she did she wanted it to be a guy she’s already hooked up with in the past. I’m not sure how I feel at that, I’m excited but confused as well. I’m just trying to see how to navigate this.
My wife is coming around her stipulation.
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Well, if it's just a fuck. Should it matter, who it is fucking your wife ? I figure you both, will be getting something out of this. I'd love to see your wife. Age, please ?
I get that it just sex, like part me feels conflicted but I also got super hard
The way I'd look at it is, if her choice was strictly just a fuck buddy from the past that she wasn't emotionally attached to, it would probably be ok. If it was an ex-boyfriend or ex-husband, it would be a hard NO. It's not worth the risk getting involved with an ex.
You will probably experience your fantasy, as your wife has internalized what you've shared with her, and has a guy in mind. Take your time and don't push her, let her be the one to suggest moving forward. If you bring it up at every opportunity, she'll resent it. Most wives wouldn't initially admit to having a guy in mind, but if it's someone she already knows it's easier for her to be comfortable with reaching out for him. You didn't say if he's married - a married BF may take longer for your wife to bed simply due to scheduling challenges.
Idk if she has a certain guy or is just stating one she has only done hook ups with. She seemed little overwhelm in thought so i told her im going to lay of the topic and when shes ready to continue talks or proceed more or any certain things on topic she can bring it up.
rockyrude
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It definitely sounds like she already has a guy in mind and that is half the battle my friend. Personally, for myself I wanted it to be a new cock for her she’d never experienced, but maybe that’s just me.
I agree I expressed, someone neutral and new. She said she worried of the unknown variables, and how sometimes new ppl can be fun and exciting. That she would rather it be someone she knows she has absolutely no interest in anything with.
rockyrude
Male
I got lucky I got my wife when she was a virgin when we were in high school so I was able to be her only one until I chose a guy to slide into her for the first time. It took about 4 months of talking and chatting with guys until I found the perfect guy for her. Patience is key 🔑
Yea, I’m not trying to pushy working on her time and comfort
When my wife finally agreed she insisted on him being someone she did not know and be from out of town. Luckily I found a guy
I suggested that but, she feel opposite about it being a stranger. She feels if it’s a old fuck buddy she’s not adding to her number and not a complete stranger
rockyrude
Male
That’s understandable and the main thing is just go with what she wants and comfortable with. She’s already been with him so he must satisfy her which can be an issue finding randoms that don’t cum as soon as they stick it in. My wife’s 2nd I picked didn’t get 2 min past the blow job.
What is supposed to happen? Are you waiting at home for her while she's with this guy? Are you watching? Are you expecting photos or video if you're not there? Have you talked about what if she likes it and wants more? Does she even know that you've got the jitters even though you've wanted it?
The thing is is that you are right there! Your wife sounds like she has wrapped her head around the idea. Guys all over (me included) would beg to be in your place. The tricky part is moving forward together. Ultimately both of you should be satisfied with the whole experience.
What do you think made her more receptive to the idea? When did she admit that she wanted to "give you this"?
The thing is is that you are right there! Your wife sounds like she has wrapped her head around the idea. Guys all over (me included) would beg to be in your place. The tricky part is moving forward together. Ultimately both of you should be satisfied with the whole experience.
What do you think made her more receptive to the idea? When did she admit that she wanted to "give you this"?
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