Hi all, I've been reading lots of the threads in here, and apparently my situation isn't unusual. I'm still posting, hoping that someone will come up with a brilliant idea that would be perfect for us... 
I'll just lay our story out there, sorry about the length of it.
We're both 50, and have both been married before, but has been together now for about 16 years. She first got married at 28, and was on and off single before that. Needless to say, she has quite a lot of experience sexually. As have I. Still, it's obvious to both that none of us have experienced sex as we do together, and although maybe not as frequent as earlier, she still turns me on more than anyone else could, and it is mutual.
However, she is very shy about talking about sex. She claims she has no fantasies or things she wants to experience, and says she's totally happy with what we have. Obviously I'm happy about that, but stilll know that she's wrong - there is so much more out there, and I know that she would love it if she let go and let her inner slut come to show.
A few years back her phone crashed and she asked me to recover it. More than expected got recovered, and I found some messages revealing she had had sex a few times with a business partner from abroad. Back then we had had some family issues that made her kinda sad and vulnerable, and letting go was probably a reaction to it - having a charming french guy wanting her was a bit of a positive happening, I guess. After our serious talk, where we laid it out, we had the craziest sex, and she definitely got confirmed that it turns me on. I have been telling her that her having sex with someone doesn't count as infidelity in my book, as long as she's completely honest with me.
I try pillow talking about it, and we use toys quite a lot. On special occasions we use a huge vibrator on her, making her cum so hard she almost passes out from it. It's definitely different from my 6''. We have watched swinger and mfm porn, and she gets crazy turned on by it. I keep telling her (PS! I'm not nagging about it) that I want her to experience having two guys being all into her pleasure, and have suggested visiting a club - not primarily to have sex with others, but just to feel the tension, having sex with each other.
Note: I guess am not the "classic cuck", wanting to be humiliated and put on the side. I have most experience as bull, but i really wanna share her as well - turns me on like hell! Guess stag would probably be describing.
Last week her previous lover came visiting for work witha (female) collegue. She more or less spent 4 days with them at work, going out afterwards. I told her up front that if she wanted him, all was good, she just had to tell me up front and come straight home to be reclaimed. However, she says "it" is all gone towards him, and that she doesn't want him, but they're still good friends. Fair enough, of course, but she still knew I was at home, horny as hell, and when she got home every night we went totally crazy in bed. If she had any doubts about whether it turns me on, they are all gone now.
Where to go from here? Guess it's difficult to give any advice that hasn't been given in here before, but I wanted to lay it out there. And it was kinda fun writing it as well.
Any advice?
I'll just lay our story out there, sorry about the length of it.We're both 50, and have both been married before, but has been together now for about 16 years. She first got married at 28, and was on and off single before that. Needless to say, she has quite a lot of experience sexually. As have I. Still, it's obvious to both that none of us have experienced sex as we do together, and although maybe not as frequent as earlier, she still turns me on more than anyone else could, and it is mutual.
However, she is very shy about talking about sex. She claims she has no fantasies or things she wants to experience, and says she's totally happy with what we have. Obviously I'm happy about that, but stilll know that she's wrong - there is so much more out there, and I know that she would love it if she let go and let her inner slut come to show.
A few years back her phone crashed and she asked me to recover it. More than expected got recovered, and I found some messages revealing she had had sex a few times with a business partner from abroad. Back then we had had some family issues that made her kinda sad and vulnerable, and letting go was probably a reaction to it - having a charming french guy wanting her was a bit of a positive happening, I guess. After our serious talk, where we laid it out, we had the craziest sex, and she definitely got confirmed that it turns me on. I have been telling her that her having sex with someone doesn't count as infidelity in my book, as long as she's completely honest with me.
I try pillow talking about it, and we use toys quite a lot. On special occasions we use a huge vibrator on her, making her cum so hard she almost passes out from it. It's definitely different from my 6''.
We have watched swinger and mfm porn, and she gets crazy turned on by it. I keep telling her (PS! I'm not nagging about it) that I want her to experience having two guys being all into her pleasure, and have suggested visiting a club - not primarily to have sex with others, but just to feel the tension, having sex with each other.Note: I guess am not the "classic cuck", wanting to be humiliated and put on the side. I have most experience as bull, but i really wanna share her as well - turns me on like hell! Guess stag would probably be describing.
Last week her previous lover came visiting for work witha (female) collegue. She more or less spent 4 days with them at work, going out afterwards. I told her up front that if she wanted him, all was good, she just had to tell me up front and come straight home to be reclaimed. However, she says "it" is all gone towards him, and that she doesn't want him, but they're still good friends. Fair enough, of course, but she still knew I was at home, horny as hell, and when she got home every night we went totally crazy in bed. If she had any doubts about whether it turns me on, they are all gone now.
Where to go from here? Guess it's difficult to give any advice that hasn't been given in here before, but I wanted to lay it out there. And it was kinda fun writing it as well.
Any advice?
