When this came up for us, when she had her first affair, I asked her what SHE would want to do if this happened and eplained I would support her desires. She uses a diaphragm for birth control, and that means there is the option NOT to use it. She HATES condoms, and LOVES to feel guys cum deep inside of her. For her, its not really sex if they don't cum in her and would prefer to forego sex if a guy insists on condoms.
We discussed it in bed, had LOT of fun with it together, and we decided she would talk to her soon to be Lover about this. She has done thsi with many of the guys she had affairs with, and found it can REALLY be a stimulating, fun, sexy HOT conversation!! When guys find out that she harbors pregnancy risk desires, things heat up FAST!!
So this comes down to how you BOTH feel about the possibility. I would hazard a guess that, since it comes up on her part, she does not wish to get on birth control, nor does she desire to use condoms. Quite possibly she finds the possibility of a pregnancy with someone else HOT, as my wife does. In our case, we are quite well able to financially raise and support any pregnancy that would occur, and abortion is NOT an option despite the outcome of the pregnancy (as in, one where I would OBVIOUSLY not be the father). Age comes in to play also, we are at a point where we would want this to happen soon so we are not raising kids in to our late 60;s. That has to be considered also.
Would love to know how this works out for you, but those can be intensely private conversations and it brings a LOT of weirdos on here out of the woodwork......on both sides of the discussion too. Hatred for people who find this exciting (fantasy or reality) is rampant here.
CW and J
