Should I start using condoms?

[Rikx]

Personally i think you should lose ownership of her pussy, thats for her new bf, sheo does t want your dick in there, by the sounds of it she doesnt either, just submit and give it to men who know how to use it

I do not want to lose her but I really do want her to keep seeing him. It turns me on big time that she has sex with him. It's just that I had not expected that I would end up pulling the shortest straw (pun intended)... We used to have pretty good sex before. But when she's with him all she wants is him inside. She can't explain it either, she's just so attracted to him in that way and I have to admit that he is really good with her in bed. If we were to stop having penetrative sex, wouldn't it be weird, that we live together, that we love each other, that we visit friends and family together, that we go on holiday together? How long would that go on like that?

What about oral sex? Is that off the table too? Is it really only handjobs?

 

[Cuckcoupleforfun]

Up to you and your wife. I’ve been in condoms now for 5 years.

 

[Rikx]

There is still a decent proportion of votes for "no need at all" (10, or one third of total). It's not really clear why. One guy seemed upset by my poll and told me to man up outside the bedroom. Not sure what that was about, as all of this is about what happens (or not) in the bedroom. But why do those others vote for me to continue fully owning, reclaiming my girlfriend, filling her up after she's been with her other? When someone else suggested that my dick should be locked up in a cage. That's a wide range of guidance I'm left with here. I know, I should ask her. But don't assume that she's got it all figured out. Love, don't forget that. She loves me, she doesn't want to short change me. It's all very complicated.

 

[Rikx]

Up to you and your wife. I’ve been in condoms now for 5 years.

Would you explain why? At whose initiative? Does it work for you? Why? Thanks.

 

[Cuckcoupleforfun]

Just my sense that her bulls give her the sexual pleasure I can’t. Their sperm should be shot bare in her not me. They are the real men in our relationship at least sexual.
Both of our initiative. It works very well for us both.

 

[Rikx]

Just my sense that her bulls give her the sexual pleasure I can’t. Their sperm should be shot bare in her not me. They are the real men in our relationship at least sexual.
Both of our initiative. It works very well for us both.

Wow, so for five years your wife has been your wife but she has had other men's cum in her only and none of yours? How do you keep that up? Don't you want to grab her, take her and cum in her yourself? Didn't that happen?

 

[Cuckcoupleforfun]

Wow, so for five years your wife has been your wife but she has had other men's cum in her only and none of yours? How do you keep that up? Don't you want to grab her, take her and cum in her yourself? Didn't that happen?

Commitment on both our ends

 

[Rikx]

Commitment on both our ends

Respect!

May I add, how do you do it?

 

[Cuckcoupleforfun]

Respect!

May I add, how do you do it?

Put a condom on

 

[Siesta Swingers]

I would like to know what I should do. My girlfriend has a lover on the side. She has sex with him 2 times per week and it is quite obvious she prefers to do it with him. We also still have sex but I am beginning to accept that perhaps I need to surrender a privilege. She has denied me a couple of times after she let him have her but I am not ready to be denied for a long time. What is the middle ground? The idea has come to mind that I should perhaps start wearing condoms. Should I and what is the reasoning behind this? She's taking the pill so technically there is no need. Would it lessen the feeling of sloppy seconds? Would it help me to last longer? I can't get myself to try it even a single time so I think I need to raise the subject with her. What do I tell her?

My opinion.
Its important for me to feel connected to my Hotwife. When she’s alone with her FWB for overnights or extended play-weeks I enjoy being locked in chastity and give her the key.
She teases me with pics, videos of her being fucked which keeps me connected to her and I feel involved just not ignored while she’s fucking other men. The teasing denial is amazing!
Now when her play date ends and she returns, the cage comes off and we reclaim our passion for each other and its amazing ! No condoms nothing banned.
Thats how I keep sane and let her enjoy her other men.

 

[Rikx]

Put a condom on

Don't you mind, you go through all that to have her as your gf or wife, so that you can have her all the way, but then you end up being denied that, as in for ever. You end up using a condom when you could have her in full. How fair is that?

 

[Rikx]

My opinion.
Its important for me to feel connected to my Hotwife. When she’s alone with her FWB for overnights or extended play-weeks I enjoy being locked in chastity and give her the key.
She teases me with pics, videos of her being fucked which keeps me connected to her and I feel involved just not ignored while she’s fucking other men. The teasing denial is amazing!
Now when her play date ends and she returns, the cage comes off and we reclaim our passion for each other and its amazing ! No condoms nothing banned.
Thats how I keep sane and let her enjoy her other men.

Good for you! I totally agree how important it is to uphold intimacy and love while playing. it's just that I find it so hard to not do it with her, not even once. I just can't restrain myself. She lets me have her too and it is so nice to reconnect. But there's also intimacy in not doing it. I get it, but it is so very hard.

 

[Rikx]

You don’t ctually get too choose, her lover and her do.

Actually...., in my situation I disagree. Frankly speaking, I don't even care that much about him. What she wants/needs is paramount, but that's not so simple either. In the end, it is about her and me, our love relationship.

 

[Siesta Swingers]

Good for you! I totally agree how important it is to uphold intimacy and love while playing. it's just that I find it so hard to not do it with her, not even once. I just can't restrain myself. She lets me have her too and it is so nice to reconnect. But there's also intimacy in not doing it. I get it, but it is so very hard.

Yes exactly. I try to get hard knowing she’s enjoying getting fucked balls deep by a younger, hung, stud. The cage around my dick makes it unpleasant and impossible to get fully hard and that just heightens the pleasure and erotic pain for me.

 

[mipete]

All in the life has risks. You can avoid anal sex if you are scaried from some sicks.
But intercourse must be bareback always, life must to be enjoyed.
Only if you are a cuck is a good idea wear condoms to avoid make pregnant your wife from Weaker genes, male bulls must to fuck bareback and creampie always.

 

[msrochellek]

I would like to know what I should do. My girlfriend has a lover on the side. She has sex with him 2 times per week and it is quite obvious she prefers to do it with him. We also still have sex but I am beginning to accept that perhaps I need to surrender a privilege. She has denied me a couple of times after she let him have her but I am not ready to be denied for a long time. What is the middle ground? The idea has come to mind that I should perhaps start wearing condoms. Should I and what is the reasoning behind this? She's taking the pill so technically there is no need. Would it lessen the feeling of sloppy seconds? Would it help me to last longer? I can't get myself to try it even a single time so I think I need to raise the subject with her. What do I tell her

If you love her you should tell her if he wants to be exclusive with her lover you will support her 100%. A hand job from her on special occasions such as when she learns she is pregnant with her lover's ...... should be sufficient for you.

 

[droopy1]

It seems to me like you are gradually becoming a full fledged cuckold. This is a process where the middle ground you are looking for will reveal itself sooner or later. It's good that you get off knowing that your gf is fucking another guy. Run with this. You and your gf love each other however she can't get sexual satisfaction from you anymore and prefers the other guy. As a cuckold you need to find other ways to relate to her as she won't take your sexual advances seriously. When I was entering into my cuckold life I had to learn and accept that I must play second fiddle to her lover. I was being replaced sexually and demoted as the man in her life. But we were still in love and I gave her the emotional support that he did not. He was just a piece of meat to her but I was her confidant. We had emotional love they had sexual love. You are at this same crossroad now IMO and you need to let things fall into place. Tell your gf that you will be there for her and that you are happy for her that she has found sexual satisfaction in him. As a cuckold, your sexual pleasures should come from secondary sources like masturbation when she allows it. I sounds extreme but if you are a true cuckold at heart you will understand how erotic this can be. I am not a man in my wife's eyes, she considers me to be inferior and so rejects me sexually. But I learned to accept this and now enjoy immensely my inferior status and submit to her will.

 

[Cuckoldhubby]

I've been a cuckold for a little over 16 years and cut off of PIV sex for 9 years. I am small in the area that counts and I've always cum in a very short time after entering my wife. We started off with me wearing a condom because she truly preferred that her boyfriend was the only man allowed to inseminate her, so I wore one for over a year or so. Then came the day that she asked me if I would be upset if she requested that I no longer have intercourse with her anymore and after some very deep thought I decided that it was probably a good thing anyway because I just annoyed her with my poor performance and abilities. Her lover at the time was quite happy to hear that I wasn't going to fuck his girlfriend anymore lol. Actually it turned out to be a good thing for our marriage, we're so much closer and much more honest with each other. We rarely have arguments and we discuss her love life with her current lover of four years like I'm her best friend rather than a husband. I don't miss being inside of her and actually I can't remember what it felt like to be inside of her, so it's hard to miss what I can't remember lol. She's so happy to be with her lover several times a week and sometimes full weekends, and I'm happy seeing her so in love with him - no I'm not worried that she'll leave, it'll never happen and she's stated that probably a hundred times as she hugs me and kisses me. There's lots more to our story but I thought that I'd give you my opinion of - go with the condom and take it from there. Good luck, enjoy the lifestyle, it's amazing!

 

[droopy1]

I've been a cuckold for a little over 16 years and cut off of PIV sex for 9 years. I am small in the area that counts and I've always cum in a very short time after entering my wife. We started off with me wearing a condom because she truly preferred that her boyfriend was the only man allowed to inseminate her, so I wore one for over a year or so. Then came the day that she asked me if I would be upset if she requested that I no longer have intercourse with her anymore and after some very deep thought I decided that it was probably a good thing anyway because I just annoyed her with my poor performance and abilities. Her lover at the time was quite happy to hear that I wasn't going to fuck his girlfriend anymore lol. Actually it turned out to be a good thing for our marriage, we're so much closer and much more honest with each other. We rarely have arguments and we discuss her love life with her current lover of four years like I'm her best friend rather than a husband. I don't miss being inside of her and actually I can't remember what it felt like to be inside of her, so it's hard to miss what I can't remember lol. She's so happy to be with her lover several times a week and sometimes full weekends, and I'm happy seeing her so in love with him - no I'm not worried that she'll leave, it'll never happen and she's stated that probably a hundred times as she hugs me and kisses me. There's lots more to our story but I thought that I'd give you my opinion of - go with the condom and take it from there. Good luck, enjoy the lifestyle, it's amazing!

I would say that your cuckold relationship with your wife and her boyfriend has matured to a complete success. It's wonderful how you can still hug and kiss and have emotional support for each other while also accepting that you are no longer the man in her life. Just like me and my wife, we relate and talk like we were girlfriends. She doesn't really see me as a guy so this enables us to relate on a female level which is rare for a husband and wife. You and your wife seem to have reached this level as well and she has a man to take care of her sexual and romantic needs. If only more women with weak husbands knew there was a way to get the best of both worlds thru cuckolding and successfully put husband in his place where he too can become fulfilled and happy. No more fighting. The wife is in charge and the husband happily obeys and accepts a life void of PIV. When his male ego is taken away and he is made to realize and accept that he lacks the manhood to sexually please his wife he can then discover his true nature. He learns that for him it's best to be a submissive and compliant lamb and to enjoy watching his wife be fulfilled by a superior male. When he learns that trying to be lover is not in his skillset and gives up fighting it and surrenders he then finds true peace. Congratulations. You said there is a lot more to your store, please share it when you can.

 

[Cuckoldhubby]

I would say that your cuckold relationship with your wife and her boyfriend has matured to a complete success. It's wonderful how you can still hug and kiss and have emotional support for each other while also accepting that you are no longer the man in her life. Just like me and my wife, we relate and talk like we were girlfriends. She doesn't really see me as a guy so this enables us to relate on a female level which is rare for a husband and wife. You and your wife seem to have reached this level as well and she has a man to take care of her sexual and romantic needs. If only more women with weak husbands knew there was a way to get the best of both worlds thru cuckolding and successfully put husband in his place where he too can become fulfilled and happy. No more fighting. The wife is in charge and the husband happily obeys and accepts a life void of PIV. When his male ego is taken away and he is made to realize and accept that he lacks the manhood to sexually please his wife he can then discover his true nature. He learns that for him it's best to be a submissive and compliant lamb and to enjoy watching his wife be fulfilled by a superior male. When he learns that trying to be lover is not in his skillset and gives up fighting it and surrenders he then finds true peace. Congratulations. You said there is a lot more to your store, please share it when you can.

I have posted a fair bit about our story on here in other posts. I agree, I am there for emotional support and advice just like a girlfriend would do. I've given her suggestions on what to wear on their anniversary night, his birthday and more. She wears his ring next to mine and I think it's terrific. The best thing that is going to be happening for us is coming up later this year. We have booked a night with one of the wedding chapels on the Las Vegas strip, they not only do legal marriages but fake ones as well, then provide a fake marriage certificate to the couple. They are very well informed about the cuckold lifestyle and cater to cuckold couples. So my pretty wife is going to have a second husband - we don't care that the certificate is fake, to us it's very real and binding. He will be moving in with us later on in the fall and putting his house up for sale.

I am already getting our downstairs guest room ready for me to move in to it, and I'm happy to do it. I think he's an amazing man, he treats her like the queen she is and as she's told me many times he's the man of her dreams and is so very much in love with him. Every times she's told me that I feel so warm and happy for her - compersion is the word. And speaking of being the "female" friend to her, she even has me wearing panties and her dresses from time to time when we're alone and talking "girl talk" because she says that it just feels right. 16 years ago I wouldn't have believed it if someone told me that I would be allowing my lovely wife to have a lover, never mind marrying him with me giving her away to him and then him moving in, and most certainly wouldn't have believed that I would become a kind of cross dresser and have girl talk with my now "taken" wife.

There are some who don't believe what I tell them about us but I don't care really, I know it's all true and I'm so happy that it is. I'm living the cuckold lifestyle that I'm sure thousands of other cuckolds wish they were living. This all started from my wife cheating on me, something I can tell about at another time.

My best friend and his wife know that I'm a cuckold, but that's also a story for another time lol