What am I...Could use some advice.

[Irishman25]

So I'm 42 and my wife is 41 and we've been married for 17 years living in Florida....Neither one of us has ever cheated in the past. And she is definitely super loyal to me, and our sex life is fine. We were both with roughly 10 people before getting married. But during the pandemic, I started getting the urge to share her....maybe it was the fact that life is so short and fragile that I wanted to have some fun. I shared this with her over some wine one night, and she showed me that it made her pussy wet. We did proceed to have some pretty hot sex while watching a MFM porn and even did a DP with me in her ass while she rode a dildo. Long story short, I've brought it up a few times over the years but she never really seems to bite. She said she isn't ready and will let me know when she is. My wife is a legit 10/10 and any guy would be lucky to fuck her. I'm just not sure where to go from here, I'm not a cuck in a sense of wanting to be humiliated and whatever else comes with that. I'm more of an Alpha who is pretty controlling so my fantasy definitely has me pulling alot of the strings as everything goes through me...she's my wife. So with all that said, I do feel we fit more into a stag/vixen role. But to be fully transparent, my dick is average at best and 95% of the time I don't last very long and the other 5% I'm able to really give it to her. So part of it is that she deserves/wants to really get pounded and I feel I can't deliver. She has always been open about liking to be dominated and I know of 1 ex that use to really fuck her well as she's told me. Also, I'm almost 100% no man could ever take her from me but I'm sure we all feel that way.

So I come here looking for expert advice, I'm trying to not only understand my thoughts and urges but also how you all gauge her response to my fantasy. DM's welcome

Irish

 

[MissMyWife]

I think you should carry on watching the MFM porn making sure it’s the amateur videos and not the humiliation ones.

Make it all about your wife being satisfied and do not mention couples, swinging or another female being involved as she will think you are looking to fuck other woman.

Encourage her to go out with her girlfriends as they will discuss sex and as they’ll receive attention from men, they will put out their own views of their relationships/sexlives.
This will get her thinking of what you have discussed, your fantasy play and the possibilities of it happening.

Holidays or weekends away are a good time to introduce some games for fantasy play.
Get chatting with people around you.
A possible connection could be made to initiate some flirting and more.

Not sure if you have children living at home, big obstacle normally, as the woman often puts them first and holidays are normally with them. We didn’t have our first encounter until our very late 40’s because of this.
So be patient…

 

[Irishman25]

I think you should carry on watching the MFM porn making sure it’s the amateur videos and not the humiliation ones.

Make it all about your wife being satisfied and do not mention couples, swinging or another female being involved as she will think you are looking to fuck other woman.

Encourage her to go out with her girlfriends as they will discuss sex and as they’ll receive attention from men, they will put out their own views of their relationships/sexlives.
This will get her thinking of what you have discussed, your fantasy play and the possibilities of it happening.

Holidays or weekends away are a good time to introduce some games for fantasy play.
Get chatting with people around you.
A possible connection could be made to initiate some flirting and more.

Not sure if you have children living at home, big obstacle normally, as the woman often puts them first and holidays are normally with them. We didn’t have our first encounter until our very late 40’s because of this.
So be patient…

Thanks for the advice, we do have kids and I'm almost certain that does play into her feelings towards this. I also feel it's easier to talk to her when I'm drinking or via text message as stone cold sober face to face conversations about this feel a little akward...is that normal? We also don't really watch porn together, I mean we have...But it's not part of our lives...Which is another thing I'd like to try an introduce more. She's also made comments over the last few weeks like "stop acting like this is what I want or this is for me" and then she'll say "Call it like it is, this is for you...you wanna see someone else fuck your wife" And I'm not sure if she's saying it like it's a turn on for her....or she's disappointed. Either way, these situations are what brought me here...I can't just pull up to a bar with a buddy and hash this out..

 

[antonio13]

I think the fact that this makes her pussy wet is a good sign. I think it at least ok in her fantasy.
Continue watching cuckold, dp, mfm and gangbang porn. I would suggest to let her choose and even watch it alone or while you satisfy her. Be honest and show her how it turns you on.
I think it can be a little bit akward when you think yourself it is something weird and abnormal but once you realize that it is absoultely ok and a lot of couples follow this and it makes them trully happy you reallize there is nothing wrong to discuss and talk about. So as we personally realized that this lifestyile is much more common in our days than someone can think of. So I would even suggest to show her this website or any other discussing the lifestyle, maybe even posting some photos.

 

[Irishman25]

I think the fact that this makes her pussy wet is a good sign. I think it at least ok in her fantasy.
Continue watching cuckold, dp, mfm and gangbang porn. I would suggest to let her choose and even watch it alone or while you satisfy her. Be honest and show her how it turns you on.
I think it can be a little bit akward when you think yourself it is something weird and abnormal but once you realize that it is absoultely ok and a lot of couples follow this and it makes them trully happy you reallize there is nothing wrong to discuss and talk about. So as we personally realized that this lifestyile is much more common in our days than someone can think of. So I would even suggest to show her this website or any other discussing the lifestyle, maybe even posting some photos.

Ya, I know I'm not 100% in tune with the female body. But when I asked her if it turned her on after I told her my fantasy...and instead of just saying yes. She pulled down her pants and showed me that it was dripping into her panties...I thought it was a done deal. She has given me permission to share pics of her, as she said people looking at her and wanting her is something she really likes. But then she did say "looking yes, touching no" But just knowing that she likes to watch or be watched is hot to me. Ya, I forgot that part....She watched a live sex show in Europe years ago...and said she loved it and would like to do that again. She says and does these things so random that it shows she isn't a square.

 

[MissMyWife]

I think you are nearly there. She has a good sex life with you, she likes to watch others and doesn’t mind others seeing her pics which tells me she’s confident and relaxed about sex. The touching will come in the right situation.
Has she posed for you naked or done sexy selfies for you?
If you post pics/vids on here show her the comments.

 

[Irishman25]

I think you are nearly there. She has a good sex life with you, she likes to watch others and doesn’t mind others seeing her pics which tells me she’s confident and relaxed about sex. The touching will come in the right situation.
Has she posed for you naked or done sexy selfies for you?
If you post pics/vids on here show her the comments.

I have posted her some on reddit, fantastic response and I did show her the comments. It was nothing nude though, all fully clothed pics like I've shared here. She's not opposed to letting me take pics of her pussy, she'd just never let her face be in the same pic. And yes, we have a great sex life...we fuck multiple times a week and even though we've been married for 15+ years she is still quick to suck my dick whenever I ask or she senses I need it...which is usually more than once a week.