I'm new to to this lifestyle and my wife and I haven't taken the plunge as of yet. My wife has been gradually warming up to the idea and we are taking it slowly with lots of communication. We are both in our 40s and she has mentioned from time to time how she only had one lover before me and wished she had more experiences before we were married. Right now this has been pretty much fantasy talk with me allowing her to bring up the topic. It's taken a while but she is slowly starting to bring up the topic more often. My question is this, when we discuss the topic I mention how I want to be there to watch. She says this would be awkward and doesn't think she could do anything with me in the room. I want to be there to see her enjoy the experience and to insure her safety since I would not want to include friends. We don't usually expand on the topic and usually move on to enjoying the fantasy. Am I being unreasonable to want to be there during her first experience?