How did you meet your other half?

[Matt78]

I have always had a curiosity about being in a cuckold relationship and have tried to encourage ex partners to engage in the lifestyle without success.
I now find myself in a position to start dating again (well I would if it wasn't for the lockdown), and was wondering how each of you met your partners.
Did you know from the outset it would be a cuckold relationship?
Did you meet in a conventional way/website or was it through a more specialised site?
Thank you in advance.

 

[Allen Amboy]

We met in college. She was a nice christian girl and still a virgin. Even though I was always a freak and a pervert I had no intention of converting her.
Over time I got more of an urge to get more out of her sexually so I began asking her to fuck other men for my viewing pleasure. After 10 years she finally gave in and the rest is sexual history.

 

[verkitwme]

College

 

[Matt78]

We met in college. She was a nice christian girl and still a virgin. Even though I was always a freak and a pervert I had no intention of converting her.
Over time I got more of an urge to get more out of her sexually so I began asking her to fuck other men for my viewing pleasure. After 10 years she finally gave in and the rest is sexual history.

The problem I find is that not all women want that, no matter how much persuasion or coaxing.
In the end you find yourself in a relationships where you are not completely happy as I did in my last relationship. Was hoping to find a way to meet like minded women without a 5 year relationship trying to attain the unachievable.
Is she completely in charge of the relationships now or is it more of a hotwife relationships as opposed to cuckold?

 

[Matt78]

College

Did you know when you got together that it would end up a cuck relationships or is it something that happened over time?

 

[verkitwme]

As per defintion (as per Websters) my hubby is a cuckold BUT we just consider me a Hotwife..........
That being said we don't really need labels...

 

[verkitwme]

Did you know when you got together that it would end up a cuck relationships or is it something that happened over time?

It only started 3 years ago after he pestered me for 2 years to do become a hotwife.
Wish I had done it sooner !!

 

[Allen Amboy]

The problem I find is that not all women want that, no matter how much persuasion or coaxing.
In the end you find yourself in a relationships where you are not completely happy as I did in my last relationship. Was hoping to find a way to meet like minded women without a 5 year relationship trying to attain the unachievable.
Is she completely in charge of the relationships now or is it more of a hotwife relationships as opposed to cuckold?

I understand.
Unless you ask before hand or you met at a sex party, strip club or something like that it may hard to find out.
My wife is now completely in charge of her relationship. She and her men decides when and where they will fuck.

 

[Allen Amboy]

As per defintion (as per Websters) my hubby is a cuckold BUT we just consider me a Hotwife..........
That being said we don't really need labels...

True. I’m having trouble keeping up with the definition of all these labels. I’ll tell you what we do and you place your on label.

 

[Matt78]

Yeah in the end it's just labels. What's important is what works for you.
In my case I want her to have complete control of things. It being about what she wants. Obviously you need a strong relationship built on trust for it to be able to work

 

[sam4fun]

Yeah in the end it's just labels. What's important is what works for you.
In my case I want her to have complete control of things. It being about what she wants. Obviously you need a strong relationship built on trust for it to be able to work

It needs trusts and yes you need to make her feel comfortable. SOme senior members have really explaine dit well here. Don't she much of them but yeah @verkitwme is Gem. SO heed her advice

 

[Myhotwife]

We met at a club!

 

[muknw]

College

 

[RedVixen_StagNC]

Met my husband online after my divorce from my first husband. We had many interests in common and we talked about this lifestyle and both agreed we'd enjoy being involved in it.

 

[Robert Smith]

I met Elaine when I was 32 and she was 29. We were both divorced with no kids. After dating for several months I really started liking her. I had done some swinging and wife sharing with my ex wife. I don't think that led to our divorce, but one never knows. I got Elaine to pose for sexy polaroid pics and she didn't seem to object like some women do. For my birthday she surprised me with some lingerie photos done by a professional she had hired. I was more than pleased with that attitude. After about a year I decided to broach the idea of sharing her. Started with sex talk in the bedroom. While having sex she acted willing saying it might be fun, but nothing ever actually happened. I knew for our relationship to go further I was going to have to press the issue to see if she ! was all talk and no action. I kept telling her to pick out some guy she would like to fuck. I didn't care if it was old lover or friend. She said she could not approach someone about having sex with them if she really loved me.

I was at a business seminar and met a guy through a mutual friend. His name was Eric .We all went our for happy hour drinks and I got him aside and asked him if he wanted to have some fun with my girlfriend. I showed him a polaroid photo of her and explained that I wanted to watch her get fucked and participate at the same time. He was willing and I set up a meeting for the following night after our seminar.

When I told Elaine she started getting nervous but agreed to let him come to our house and at least meet him and see if there was any kind of chemistry between us. This is how I introduced Elaine to becoming a Hotwife.

 

[muknw]

We never imagined we would develop this lifestyle, it just happened over the years through a series of occurrences.

 

[RedVixen_StagNC]

We had originally talked about getting into the swinging lifestyle and did attempt it, but we found it so hard finding a compatible couple we both could enjoy meeting with. We found it would be more fun and erotic going this route instead as he does love watching, does get to join occassionally and enjoys the "after party" with me when I am done with a lover or return after a meeting. I've brought home a few ladies we have both had the opportunity to enjoy together. Of course, I've enjoyed them alone as well just with my male lovers.

 

[Robert Smith]

You really need to figure out what you want in the Cuckold lifestyle and communicate this to a lady you are with before wasting 5 years. If you don't ask you will probably never receive. I did a lot of swinging, wife swapping, sexparties with my first wife. The drama amd jealousies associated with that lifestyle probably caused my divorce. I was 31 and knew I was not going to marry another lady until I knew we would be compatible with the sex life I wanted. I guess I am trying to tell you to go for what you want. I see too many men who have never convinced their wife into the lifestyle. Don't let that happen to you

 

[verkitwme]

We never imagined we would develop this lifestyle, it just happened over the years through a series of occurrences.

I would have NEVER in a million years thought we would be in this lifestyle now I can't get enough of it.
As I look down at my hubby cleaning my lovers cum it amazes me how much my life has changed since I became a hotwife.
Certainly not for everyone but I sure love it !!!

 

[Nathaniel]

For us it was through a mutual friend, but she did warn me that she was not marriage type, but i did not listen. We started talking, and she told me that she liked me, but that i had to understand she loves to explore, even though she wanted to "settle down". While we were engaged, she continously met up with her ex, but i innocently consented, to which even her parents were skeptical. And after the wedding, i found out details of her affair with him and chats with other guys while with me. Of course, this only made me feel more attracted to her, though i felt jealousy, and eventually, about two years after i had the courage to tell her that i was aroused to find out she had cheated, and asked her to do it again, to which she was reluctant, i guess thinking i was also cheating or something, and the rest is history, how they say!!