The biggest risk of cuckolding if it doesn’t happen!
DevotedCuck4Her
Couple
Agree with this. But it is a dual-edged sword in that married guys can be unreliable when it comes to meets.
introduce her to a well hung friend, make sure she is aware he is hung, tell your friend she is hot for him and leave them alone tor a few hours, they will fuck for sure
When you agree to become her Cuck your agreeing give her your sexuality unconditionally for her to do as she chooses.
If your willing to put her needs before yours the chances for success are very high.
by agreeing you are indeed giving her you permission to fuck any guy she wants, whenever she wants. however lots of couples agree on rules around who, when, where, sharing details, etc:
I have always said that the lifestyle will make a strong marriage stronger and destroy a weak marriage. Kate and I have been enjoying the hotwife/swinger lifestyle for many years. The couples we have seen break did not have very solid marriages. Hotwifing/swinging will not 'fix' your relationship. Others, like us, have been happily married for many years.
Kate has had boyfriends ask her to leave me for them. Kate always asks the guy if she was with him, would she still be able to have sex with any guy she wants, anytime she wants. The answer has always been no. The guy wants the married woman he has been fucking but does not want her fucking other guys. Kate's interest in fucking multiple men is the only reason that guy ever got to fuck her in the first place.
Kate has had boyfriends ask her to leave me for them. Kate always asks the guy if she was with him, would she still be able to have sex with any guy she wants, anytime she wants. The answer has always been no. The guy wants the married woman he has been fucking but does not want her fucking other guys. Kate's interest in fucking multiple men is the only reason that guy ever got to fuck her in the first place.
There always the risk , but the real cuckolding should make the marriage stronger, no secrets, trust ,full play usually long term bull help in that case, of course the cuckolding is not porn video that you see on the internet and exited for few mins and want to try and your fantasy , cuckolding is much different more intense nothing like the internet videos that want someone to promote something different. In this lifestyle everyone should know their role the focus is always starting on the hotwife > bull > cuck. The bull should know that the couple accept him in their family, the bull that create bad influence on the marriage that could even broke up , he is completely failed and its usually because of the egoistic character , the bull role can be dom, breeder, etc , but he must to know always to be gentleman to. Any many couples should know cuckolding it's not porn videos, once you start it you must be ready for everything and be 1000% sure that you want it both. communication in the couple is the most important part. So my opinion is, cuckolding is not risky, if there is right people included, cuckolding can make the marriage much better, fails is can be only is the couple is not ready and the bull don't know hes part in this lifestyle.
For those of us who are living the lifestyle "Achilles_The_Bull" lays it out for you.
Until you do it there are always risks.
Rules are important. Rules can no rules, but rules can also be who fucks her, when they fuck her, how they her. Is the bull in charge?
Lots of things to iron out.
For me, I just gave my wife permission to so as she please. The bulls are all younger except for one that’s our age.
No jealousy from me. The bulls are just interested in fucking another man’s wife and go back home.
Rules are important. Rules can no rules, but rules can also be who fucks her, when they fuck her, how they her. Is the bull in charge?
Lots of things to iron out.
For me, I just gave my wife permission to so as she please. The bulls are all younger except for one that’s our age.
No jealousy from me. The bulls are just interested in fucking another man’s wife and go back home.
DevotedCuck4Her
Couple
Unfortunately, you have no way of knowing that, until maybe its too late.
Initial intentions can change as feelings begin to develop.
This is why husband and wife need to have ground rules and a common understanding to stop seeing a given bull if things begin to get complicated. Anything else risks the primary relationship.
DevotedCuck4Her
Couple
Well, if you're still cuckolding then that experience is meaningless as it is still a possibility if you continue.
You're talking about the past ("experience"). I'm talking about the future ("the prediction, or possibility of it").
Its like saying "who needs a seatbelt, I've never had a car accident.". The past is irrelevant if you still intend to drive in the future as the future still presents the possibility of it happening.
That is why agreed ground rules are important. They are your seltbelt that minimises the probability of a disaster.
Lol. Funny. The past (and present) gives you a view in to the future. Should I also be worried that another woman may seduce her away from me? It’s certainly possible but based on past experience I’m not concerned.
DevotedCuck4Her
Couple
Should you be worried about her leaving you for another *woman*? Obviously not. Unless her meets were with other women. And she was bi-sexual and able to develop an emotional relationship with another woman. I'm assume that isn;t so. And that she is not seeing other women. Hence your point is irrelevent, a strawman argument. But she is seeing other *men*, right? And she is capable of emotional attachments with *men*, yes?
You are arguing that a situation that is not happening is not a risk. Well, of course. But we are not discussing that; we are discussing her seeing other *men*, aren't we?! And hence the risk in that *specific* scenario, because its, err... relevant!
And "the past (and present) gives you a view to the future"? Where do you purchase this crystal ball, lol?
So would you argue that every couple who is married right now will remain married because they were married in the past and are married now? Clearly that is absurd. People change, circumstances change, better offers become temptations, divorces happen. That is actual reality!!
But does it have to happen to us? Well, we can learn from others and refuse to do so at our peril. There are many stories on here and elsewhere of couples who were as secure as you say you are. And yet the wife still ended up with the bull and leaving the husband. You believing that it does not ever, ever, ever happen does not alter reality.
This is why ground rules that limit emotional intimacy are so important. These are widely documented to reduce the risk. They include full transparency with all communications between wife and bull (or sometimes all communication is only with bull and husband), and/or that the husband is always present, or commonly that the number of meets with a given bull is limited to some maximum (some only having one night stands).
Its pretty obvious to anyone how these things reduce the risk.
No-one is saying that you *personally* have to do them, or anyone has to. I'm just pointing out the wisdom of learning from others, some of whom lost their wives because they were complacent. It does happen. And no, they (obviously!) did not predict it even though they felt secure enough to not consider it a risk!!!
We all choose our level of risk. You have chosen yours (hopefully, as an active choice by agreement). But without sensible ground rules that logically minimise the chances of emotional intimacy, do not fool yourself that you are in reality taking a greater risk that others.
To be clear, we all have to weigh up the risks and decide for ourselves how far we will go to protect the primary relationship in the pursuit of what is a lot of fun.
The level of risk that you choose is nobody else's business. But the reality is that it is clearly a greater risk than others are prepared to take, simply because you choose to not take the same precautions that others do. But no-one is questioning your right to do that. If that's what you want to do, then by all means go ahead. Just as you might decide to not wear a selt-belt because you do not *plan* to have a motor accident. Your choice.
Just don't shoot the messenger for pointing it out to you. No-one is stopping you from doing what you want. We all have the right to act in willful ignorance but must accept whatever consequences come our way as a result of that.
Good luck!
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Look, I’m not gonna spend the rest of my day going back and forth on this. We’ve been in this lifestyle for over 10 years and we‘ve had 12 bulls on and off for most of that time.
I use that experience as a guide. If you or anyone want to worry about what can or may happen that’s your prerogative.
I will not live my life worrying. Doesn‘t mean that she can never leave me for one of her bulls, it just means that at this time I have no reason for concern.
DevotedCuck4Her
Couple
There is no "back and forth" to be had. Where are we in disagreement? This is NOT a thread about YOU. It is about the risks of cuckolding. My points are more general than YOU! You are not the subject of this thread.
When you post about your own experiences, it is in the context of the more general topic of the OP. Hence, while I may respond to your post, I respond within the context of the overall thread. The thread is here to enlighten about the topic in general, which is "The Risks of Cuckolding not "The Risks of Allen Amboy Cuckolding"". It is not here to discuss ONLY our own situation!
Good for you. I merely pointed out that the past does not predict the future. The 13th guy could be her soul mate! Get it now!? My pointing that out as a possibility does not invalidate your experience, but it does invalidate your argument that you try to pose as a 100% safe bet for the future. Regardless of how safe you feel, the things I have suggested reduce the risk further. You do not need to heed them. At NO point have I said you should! But the reality is that they clearly DO reduce the risk, and OTHERS might like to consider them, even if you do not. Because OTHERS will read this thread, NOT just YOU! And these ARE risk reduction strategies that are widely used by others!
Yes,I agree. What are you arguing about here? Did you note read me saying "Just don't shoot the messenger for pointing it out to you. No-one is stopping you from doing what you want." Of course its your prerogative, no-one said otherwise!!! Do you read?
So the question is: why do you get so shirty when someone points out what the risks are, and how to minimise them further? The OP has asked what the risks are. Do I remain silent and not post pertinent points simply because these are risks the YOU personally do not mitigate!?! That's not only absurd, its very ego-centric on your part!
However, this does highlight something relevant. It is interesting that when I DO discuss general points about how to reduce the risks, it seems to hit a raw nerve with you, thus suggesting you feel uncomfortable about others even discussing the points in general terms. You do not need to go on the extreme defense simply because someone is pointing out relevant and specific points to the general theme that you choose to ignore and then get twitchy because, duh, they never entered your head and something inside you gets nervous that maybe, just maybe you're risking your relationship. As I've said MANY times, that's up to you, that is your prerogative.
You wishing to silence valuable discussion simply because it triggers some obvious deep-seated fears of yours, is just ignorance, arrogant and immature. A grown up might simply say "I see your point, but we're willing to take the higher risks. But I can see how others might want to consider it." and leave it at that. But you don't. You actually get angry. You might want to ask yourself why that is so!
Now maybe we can get this thread back on track and freely discuss the topic without you having a further meltdown because someone points out things that you'd rather not hear.
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YOU sir are so correct! My gf/hotwife and I found a very ignorant bull last year. Almost exactly one year. First off, whike he had a constant hardon ( i tinks viagra, maybe not) his cock was little. So little my gf on cam referred to it as Mini Mex hotddog.😜 He also drank a lot when with her.
Then he immediately doesnt want to follow the Condom rule. And he came in her pussy twice.. part of that was her fault. Now of he behaved, he could have been fucking her a year later, but he had to try to steal her, so I made her make a choice, him or me.
Her and I celebrated out two years anniversary on the 5th.
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