Seeking Advice from Experienced Couples – First Steps into the Lifestyle

[Mayem88]

Hi everyone!


Let me introduce myself. I’m a 33-year-old straight man, engaged to my amazing 30-year-old fiancée. She’s bisexual and has some experience in the lifestyle, having been a unicorn in the past. We’ve been reading this forum together for a while now, and while some stories seem genuine, others feel like they might be from fake accounts. That’s why we’re here to seek advice from real, experienced couples.


For some time now, we’ve been fantasizing about her being with other men. Dirty talk about it during sex has been incredibly exciting for both of us, and she genuinely enjoys the idea. We even visited a well-known swingers club in Florida, though it was more of an exploratory visit. We chatted with some couples, but most seemed more interested in involving us rather than just having a casual conversation.


To be clear, we’re not looking for a full swap. Our bond is incredibly strong, and we don’t feel threatened by introducing others into our sex life. For us, any third party would be more like a toy. Of course, we fully respect them as people, but we see their role as purely for pleasure. Once the experience is over, they are simply no longer part of our dynamic, just like a physical toy going back into the drawer.


That said, I do have some doubts. The idea of seeing her with multiple men is intensely arousing, especially if I’m involved, but after I climax, I sometimes feel an instinctive desire to have her all to myself again. Is this a normal reaction? Have others experienced this kind of post-nut clarity?


Another concern is whether this is just an exciting fantasy or something that would genuinely turn us on in real life. How did you know when it was time to take that first step from fantasy to reality?


We also aren’t looking for just any random guy. We want someone who can truly seduce her, someone charismatic, respectful, clean, and discreet. A man who can bring real chemistry rather than just being a warm body.


So, what’s the best way to take the first step? Are dating apps a good option, or would it be better to keep exploring swinger clubs, even though I’m only focused on her and her pleasure and not interested in other women? The challenge with clubs is that they often have very few single men allowed.


Any insights from experienced couples or singles would be greatly appreciated!

 

[CONST65]

Hi everyone!


Let me introduce myself. I’m a 33-year-old straight man, engaged to my amazing 30-year-old fiancée. She’s bisexual and has some experience in the lifestyle, having been a unicorn in the past. We’ve been reading this forum together for a while now, and while some stories seem genuine, others feel like they might be from fake accounts. That’s why we’re here to seek advice from real, experienced couples.


For some time now, we’ve been fantasizing about her being with other men. Dirty talk about it during sex has been incredibly exciting for both of us, and she genuinely enjoys the idea. We even visited a well-known swingers club in Florida, though it was more of an exploratory visit. We chatted with some couples, but most seemed more interested in involving us rather than just having a casual conversation.


To be clear, we’re not looking for a full swap. Our bond is incredibly strong, and we don’t feel threatened by introducing others into our sex life. For us, any third party would be more like a toy. Of course, we fully respect them as people, but we see their role as purely for pleasure. Once the experience is over, they are simply no longer part of our dynamic, just like a physical toy going back into the drawer.


That said, I do have some doubts. The idea of seeing her with multiple men is intensely arousing, especially if I’m involved, but after I climax, I sometimes feel an instinctive desire to have her all to myself again. Is this a normal reaction? Have others experienced this kind of post-nut clarity?


Another concern is whether this is just an exciting fantasy or something that would genuinely turn us on in real life. How did you know when it was time to take that first step from fantasy to reality?


We also aren’t looking for just any random guy. We want someone who can truly seduce her, someone charismatic, respectful, clean, and discreet. A man who can bring real chemistry rather than just being a warm body.


So, what’s the best way to take the first step? Are dating apps a good option, or would it be better to keep exploring swinger clubs, even though I’m only focused on her and her pleasure and not interested in other women? The challenge with clubs is that they often have very few single men allowed.


Any insights from experienced couples or singles would be greatly appreciated!

Have you tried dating sitescand set up profiles How about thr two.of you go.out drees up she sits alone at a high table for two.You sit out of site but close enough incase she needs you Let her get hit on dance.or a drimk.and see.what happens if it works meets you discreetly.and her intensions if she acts. Upon.it you.wait in.the lounge for her retirn.even.if it was only in.a car for a little play or if she wants more room.etc my wife.plays that way when she wants a hotwife pick.up day feel.freev to ask us anything here or Dm. Bob

 

[Fredposer2017]

Hi Sean and Jennifer here.

We even visited a well-known swingers club in Florida, though it was more of an exploratory visit. We chatted with some couples, but most seemed more interested in involving us rather than just having a casual conversation.

Unfortunately this seems to be the norm. Our few attempts in going to those clubs was similar. While we understand the clubs are there for sex but you don't need to rush.

For us, any third party would be more like a toy.

We expressly do MMF, MMMF encounters they are there to get Jennifer hot and orgasmic for me. We are polite and make sure he has enjoyable time and leaves sexually satisfied but he leaves -- alone.

We want someone who can truly seduce her, someone charismatic, respectful, clean, and discreet. A man who can bring real chemistry rather than just being a warm body.

Consider a Male Es cor t. They have qualities you are looking for in an encounter and they know what's expected.

The idea of seeing her with multiple men is intensely arousing, especially if I’m involved, but after I climax, I sometimes feel an instinctive desire to have her all to myself again. Is this a normal reaction? Have others experienced this kind of post-nut clarity?

YES! My desire to reclaim Jennifer (and here wanting to be reclaimed) last for several weeks after our encounter.

Please feel free to send a PM if you want to discuss this at greater length.

Jennifer and Sean ❤️❤️

 

[Mayem88]

Have you tried dating sitescand set up profiles How about thr two.of you go.out drees up she sits alone at a high table for two.You sit out of site but close enough incase she needs you Let her get hit on dance.or a drimk.and see.what happens if it works meets you discreetly.and her intensions if she acts. Upon.it you.wait in.the lounge for her retirn.even.if it was only in.a car for a little play or if she wants more room.etc my wife.plays that way when she wants a hotwife pick.up day feel.freev to ask us anything here or Dm. Bob

This could definitely work but I also feel like this kind of approach might work better after a while, once we gain more experience. Guys are already hitting on her even when I’m right next to her.

The question is, how do we make it clear that we’re interested in including him in a threesome? Should we be upfront about it from the start, or would that be too weird, especially if I’m not right there?

How did you start?

 

[Mayem88]

Hi Sean and Jennifer here.

We even visited a well-known swingers club in Florida, though it was more of an exploratory visit. We chatted with some couples, but most seemed more interested in involving us rather than just having a casual conversation.

Unfortunately this seems to be the norm. Our few attempts in going to those clubs was similar. While we understand the clubs are there for sex but you don't need to rush.

For us, any third party would be more like a toy.

We expressly do MMF, MMMF encounters they are there to get Jennifer hot and orgasmic for me. We are polite and make sure he has enjoyable time and leaves sexually satisfied but he leaves -- alone.

We want someone who can truly seduce her, someone charismatic, respectful, clean, and discreet. A man who can bring real chemistry rather than just being a warm body.

Consider a Male Es cor t. They have qualities you are looking for in an encounter and they know what's expected.

The idea of seeing her with multiple men is intensely arousing, especially if I’m involved, but after I climax, I sometimes feel an instinctive desire to have her all to myself again. Is this a normal reaction? Have others experienced this kind of post-nut clarity?

YES! My desire to reclaim Jennifer (and here wanting to be reclaimed) last for several weeks after our encounter.

Pleas feel free to send a PM if you want to discuss this at greater length.

Jennifer and Sean ❤️❤️

Hi Jennifer, hi Sean,

First of all, thanks for sharing and offering your advice! We really appreciate it. It’s reassuring to know that this is just how things work in swinger clubs. We don’t mind at all, and we’re definitely not judging, but since we attended a newbie night, we were expecting a slightly different experience. At least now we know we’re not the only ones who felt this way! 🤣

We’re on the same page as you, we see these kinds of experiences as something occasional, just to add a bit of spice, while still being completely fulfilled with each other (and, of course, reliving the memories later in bed). As for the idea of a male es cor. t, we get why some people go for it, but it’s not really something we’re enthusiastic about.

How did you get started with the life in general?

We’ll definitely reach out to you privately in the next few days. Thanks again for your help!

 

[Fredposer2017]

How did you get started with the life in general?

It began over 30 years ago in Atlanta. Sean and I weren't even engaged yet (but long enough together to be considered a couple). My roommate and best friend parent's had a huge house in Atlanta and she was house sitting while they were away. She threw a huge party and it was there I met Mark -- He was an Army Captain attending Emory for a Master's Degree. Sean could immediately see there was thing between us and he encouraged me to slow dance with him. After a few slow dances (Sean watching the whole time), Sean held me close and whispered "Go for it." I blushed, took a sip from my drink took Sean by the hand and walked over to Mark. I said the the three of us should go somewhere quiet. We sneaked down to a sitting room down the hall and the three of us sat on the sofa with me in the middle. I began kissing Mark and returned an even deeper kiss. Sean was kissing the nape of my neck all the while.

Withing in minutes I was down to my bra and panties and both Sean and Mark were shirtless. My back was to Sean and he unsnapped my bra, Letting my breasts fall free in front of Mark. He began to gently hold my breasts and kiss my nipples. I felt Sean pull my panties off, spread my legs, kneel between them and start licking my pussy. I found myself kneeling in front of them both nude and their cocks rock hard. I took turns sucking on their cocks and it was long before Mark sliding his cock in my pussy. For nearly two hours I always had a cock in my mouth or pussy. When we finished we humidly got dressed and rejoined the party. The next morning in bed with Sean, I mentioned the word that would change or sex life forever. I told Sean: "I want to do that again."

I had just turned 21 when Sean shared me for the first and he has been sharing me ever since.

 

[Funtofukurwife]

Yes the feeling you get after you nut is normal I felt the same way but got so turned on before I nut afterward I would drop hints so my friend would leave and I could reclaim her it took me about a month to get over that feeling and a little longer to get over having to always be involved to now where I can actually sit back and enjoy watching her reactions to her fucking

 

[PaulLani]

Hi everyone!


Let me introduce myself. I’m a 33-year-old straight man, engaged to my amazing 30-year-old fiancée. She’s bisexual and has some experience in the lifestyle, having been a unicorn in the past. We’ve been reading this forum together for a while now, and while some stories seem genuine, others feel like they might be from fake accounts. That’s why we’re here to seek advice from real, experienced couples.


For some time now, we’ve been fantasizing about her being with other men. Dirty talk about it during sex has been incredibly exciting for both of us, and she genuinely enjoys the idea. We even visited a well-known swingers club in Florida, though it was more of an exploratory visit. We chatted with some couples, but most seemed more interested in involving us rather than just having a casual conversation.


To be clear, we’re not looking for a full swap. Our bond is incredibly strong, and we don’t feel threatened by introducing others into our sex life. For us, any third party would be more like a toy. Of course, we fully respect them as people, but we see their role as purely for pleasure. Once the experience is over, they are simply no longer part of our dynamic, just like a physical toy going back into the drawer.


That said, I do have some doubts. The idea of seeing her with multiple men is intensely arousing, especially if I’m involved, but after I climax, I sometimes feel an instinctive desire to have her all to myself again. Is this a normal reaction? Have others experienced this kind of post-nut clarity?


Another concern is whether this is just an exciting fantasy or something that would genuinely turn us on in real life. How did you know when it was time to take that first step from fantasy to reality?


We also aren’t looking for just any random guy. We want someone who can truly seduce her, someone charismatic, respectful, clean, and discreet. A man who can bring real chemistry rather than just being a warm body.


So, what’s the best way to take the first step? Are dating apps a good option, or would it be better to keep exploring swinger clubs, even though I’m only focused on her and her pleasure and not interested in other women? The challenge with clubs is that they often have very few single men allowed.


Any insights from experienced couples or singles would be greatly appreciated!

Hi. I'm the lady of this couple. If you'd like the female perspective, DM us

 

[Mayem88]

Hey everyone, I wanted to share an update after some time. A while ago, I asked for advice on how to start this journey with my wife, and since then, a lot has happened. Things have slowly shifted from fantasy to something much more real, and deeply exciting for both of us.

Not long after our first visit to a swinger resort, we went on a vacation to Mexico. During a reef excursion, we met a couple who seemed easygoing and fun. We were on the same boat, and naturally started talking and joking around. By the end of the trip, the girls exchanged numbers and planned to meet again over the next few days.

A couple of days later, we had dinner together and ended up in a club, drinks flowing and the conversation becoming more relaxed. We learned they were staying at Temptation in Cancun, which they described as a kind of adult playground. That opened the door for us to start talking more openly. We didn’t go into explicit details, but we shared some of our fantasies, and they did too. It turned out they were fairly new to the lifestyle and were more curious about swinging, while we were leaning toward something more like hotwifing and MFM.

Nothing physical happened that night since we had a flight early the next morning, but the encounter left an impression on both of us. It made everything feel more tangible. It was like the first time we could sense this fantasy of ours stepping into real life. A sign that we’re not alone in this, and that there’s a whole world out there filled with open-minded people on their own journeys.

After returning home, I had to go abroad for work. We have a long-distance relationship for now, though I visit often and can work remotely. Despite the distance, our connection has only gotten stronger, especially sexually. Our sexting and video calls have become more intense, and exploring these fantasies together turns both of us on like nothing else.

One night during a particularly hot video call, she was playing with herself while I described a scenario. We were both so into it that we decided to take a step further and try one of the lifestyle apps. After a bit of research, we downloaded 3Fun and created linked profiles. That experience in itself was incredibly fun. We spent time picking pictures, writing our bios, and exploring together. It gave us a chance to talk more openly about what we like, what we want to try, and who we’re looking for.

She’s absolutely stunning, and as expected, we got a wave of attention. That part was a bit overwhelming, especially for her, but also really arousing. We started talking to both singles and couples, focusing on ones that might fit into our dynamic. Some conversations died quickly: too pushy, too fast, or just bad energy. But after some trial and error, we found a few that really clicked.

She’s currently chatting with three different guys. For two of them, we moved the conversation to WhatsApp so she could share things more easily with me. I like staying in the loop, though I prefer not to join the chats myself. At the same time, I started talking to a guy who had been involved in a similar situation in a past relationship. He’s now looking to join couples and seemed genuinely respectful and open.

We really hit it off, and after talking it through together, we decided to share some pictures of her with him. That was something we chose as a couple. The photos weren’t explicit, but they were undeniably hot. She wore a simple pair of tight black panties, and in one shot, she posed from the back with just enough curve and tension to leave plenty to the imagination. In another, she sat back slightly with a top that hinted at her underboobs, teasing but elegant. His reaction was immediate and intense, and that turned both of us on deeply. The idea of another man getting hard looking at her body, it stirred something in me I can’t even fully explain.

Eventually we created a small group chat so she could start interacting with him directly. She likes knowing that he’s seen her, that he wants her, and it excites her just as much as it does me.

As for the other guys, things are going well, though a couple got too pushy with picture requests, which turned her off. She’s more into slow seduction and teasing rather than guys jumping straight into explicit territory. But one of them stands out. He’s bald, muscular, confident, and knows how to build tension. During another video call recently, I asked her to imagine him taking her. I had her look at his pictures while I described what it would be like, what he would do, how it might feel, what I would say or do if I were watching. She was visibly aroused. I could see it in her eyes, in the way she touched herself. We both love to build tension like that, imagining every detail slowly, savoring it.

We actually have many scenarios we love to explore together. Sometimes it’s imagining her in a club, being seduced and taken while I watch from across the room. Sometimes it’s with a neighbor or even a stranger on a flight. The fantasies are endless, and what we enjoy most is taking our time with them. We like layering in the details, crafting the atmosphere, teasing each other until it becomes too much to handle.

This experience has been more than just sexual, it’s been a deep, mutual exploration. We’re still in the early stages, but it already feels like something powerful. And most importantly, we’re doing it together, completely honest and turned on by every step.

Hope this is useful to other couples curious about where to begin. There’s no perfect timeline or one-size-fits-all, but taking small steps, checking in with each other, and staying playful has made this incredibly exciting for us.

I’ll keep you posted as things evolve.

 

[CONST65]

Hey everyone, I wanted to share an update after some time. A while ago, I asked for advice on how to start this journey with my wife, and since then, a lot has happened. Things have slowly shifted from fantasy to something much more real, and deeply exciting for both of us.

Not long after our first visit to a swinger resort, we went on a vacation to Mexico. During a reef excursion, we met a couple who seemed easygoing and fun. We were on the same boat, and naturally started talking and joking around. By the end of the trip, the girls exchanged numbers and planned to meet again over the next few days.

A couple of days later, we had dinner together and ended up in a club, drinks flowing and the conversation becoming more relaxed. We learned they were staying at Temptation in Cancun, which they described as a kind of adult playground. That opened the door for us to start talking more openly. We didn’t go into explicit details, but we shared some of our fantasies, and they did too. It turned out they were fairly new to the lifestyle and were more curious about swinging, while we were leaning toward something more like hotwifing and MFM.

Nothing physical happened that night since we had a flight early the next morning, but the encounter left an impression on both of us. It made everything feel more tangible. It was like the first time we could sense this fantasy of ours stepping into real life. A sign that we’re not alone in this, and that there’s a whole world out there filled with open-minded people on their own journeys.

After returning home, I had to go abroad for work. We have a long-distance relationship for now, though I visit often and can work remotely. Despite the distance, our connection has only gotten stronger, especially sexually. Our sexting and video calls have become more intense, and exploring these fantasies together turns both of us on like nothing else.

One night during a particularly hot video call, she was playing with herself while I described a scenario. We were both so into it that we decided to take a step further and try one of the lifestyle apps. After a bit of research, we downloaded 3Fun and created linked profiles. That experience in itself was incredibly fun. We spent time picking pictures, writing our bios, and exploring together. It gave us a chance to talk more openly about what we like, what we want to try, and who we’re looking for.

She’s absolutely stunning, and as expected, we got a wave of attention. That part was a bit overwhelming, especially for her, but also really arousing. We started talking to both singles and couples, focusing on ones that might fit into our dynamic. Some conversations died quickly: too pushy, too fast, or just bad energy. But after some trial and error, we found a few that really clicked.

She’s currently chatting with three different guys. For two of them, we moved the conversation to WhatsApp so she could share things more easily with me. I like staying in the loop, though I prefer not to join the chats myself. At the same time, I started talking to a guy who had been involved in a similar situation in a past relationship. He’s now looking to join couples and seemed genuinely respectful and open.

We really hit it off, and after talking it through together, we decided to share some pictures of her with him. That was something we chose as a couple. The photos weren’t explicit, but they were undeniably hot. She wore a simple pair of tight black panties, and in one shot, she posed from the back with just enough curve and tension to leave plenty to the imagination. In another, she sat back slightly with a top that hinted at her underboobs, teasing but elegant. His reaction was immediate and intense, and that turned both of us on deeply. The idea of another man getting hard looking at her body, it stirred something in me I can’t even fully explain.

Eventually we created a small group chat so she could start interacting with him directly. She likes knowing that he’s seen her, that he wants her, and it excites her just as much as it does me.

As for the other guys, things are going well, though a couple got too pushy with picture requests, which turned her off. She’s more into slow seduction and teasing rather than guys jumping straight into explicit territory. But one of them stands out. He’s bald, muscular, confident, and knows how to build tension. During another video call recently, I asked her to imagine him taking her. I had her look at his pictures while I described what it would be like, what he would do, how it might feel, what I would say or do if I were watching. She was visibly aroused. I could see it in her eyes, in the way she touched herself. We both love to build tension like that, imagining every detail slowly, savoring it.

We actually have many scenarios we love to explore together. Sometimes it’s imagining her in a club, being seduced and taken while I watch from across the room. Sometimes it’s with a neighbor or even a stranger on a flight. The fantasies are endless, and what we enjoy most is taking our time with them. We like layering in the details, crafting the atmosphere, teasing each other until it becomes too much to handle.

This experience has been more than just sexual, it’s been a deep, mutual exploration. We’re still in the early stages, but it already feels like something powerful. And most importantly, we’re doing it together, completely honest and turned on by every step.

Hope this is useful to other couples curious about where to begin. There’s no perfect timeline or one-size-fits-all, but taking small steps, checking in with each other, and staying playful has made this incredibly exciting for us.

I’ll keep you posted as things evolve.

Watching fron.across the room is great my wife and ia that way for her toget a extreme seduction she hoes in alone dresed extreme sits at a i table for two i time if a guy hits on her andshe likes him .She will text me meet her discreetly and says im going to our room with him stay at the bar i will text you in a while some ti.es sje texts m go home ill text you in the am to pickme up she meet one of her regulars that way that was 3 years ago its been great she does that as well when she wants a hot ine nighter