She's cheated on me

Keep hope alive! We NEVER know what could happen, do we?
Bring up the subject gently & NOT often. Plant the seed, as it were.
Watch porn. Take her out to dive bars for drinks.
Make it common & comfortable for her.
Keep at it. You have nothing to lose....
 
Keep hope alive! We NEVER know what could happen, do we?
Bring up the subject gently & NOT often. Plant the seed, as it were.
Watch porn. Take her out to dive bars for drinks.
Make it common & comfortable for her.
Keep at it. You have nothing to lose....
Exactly! Why quit before you even try. Just read the strategies and you might have great fun with this. I think it's hardest for the husbands once the wife starts playing with other men. It takes lots of patience and the ability to suppress natural feelings of jealousy and others.
 
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Geez, if she's gonna fuck him, she's gonna fuck him.
But the issue isn't hers, it you. What are you NOT doing, to cause her to want to fuck him?
Don't blame her completely. You share the blame.

All thats left is for you to turn her loose and enjoy it, get involved with it.
She's gonna fuck him anyway...
you Don’t seem to understand, she can fuck who she likes, how she wants, but if she wants to do it within a this loving relationship then it has to been in agreement. i do blame her because she had options. Her actions are her responsibility and she accepts that.
 
I joined this site because i was thinking about sharing my wife. This is a recent fantasy for me and one that is not likely to be shared by my wife anyway. I came here to read the how to start forum and chat with people who are living it. After reading this thread and your posts, im definitely thinking it might be left to fantasy. I dont want to highjack this thread or anything, but after reading everything here, i wanted to thank everyone that contributed and wish the op luck with his relationship.
Thank you
 
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you Don’t seem to understand, she can fuck who she likes, how she wants, but if she wants to do it within a this loving relationship then it has to been in agreement. i do blame her because she had options. Her actions are her responsibility and she accepts that.
I agree 100% - any updates on your situation ?👍
 
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Yes he did, although she denied it at first. She said it was over the sofa. I said it didn’t make sense he would have wanted her in our bed, the whole point of coming round. Slowly she relented and admitted it.
Really hard to express my feelings right now, i want to know everything, suspect a lot but it is still hard to deal with the deceit.
 
Everyone has their own opinion on this one, but there is a big difference between cheating and being a hotwife. Cheating is for the benefit one the person cheating and is happening without knowledge or support from both parties in the primary relationship. If she wants to cheat, that is on her. However, if she wants to move forward with hotwifing, then you are a part of the show. That doesn’t mean you get to call the shots or direct what happens. Instead, you both need to talk and figure out if there is a way for you to both get what you need out of the arrangement.

Each couple has their own mix of what works or what doesn’t work for them. My wife likes to play one on one which means I often wait at home for her. However, she is always hot and ready for more when she comes home. For us, the goal is for us both to get the sexual attention we need. She gets to play outside of our marriage because she needs more sex than I do. However, she also agrees that Our relationship and sex takes priority. There have been a couple of times where she didn’t come home after playtime or was worn out from a new friend. However, we always discuss what is working and where we need to evolve so that we are both better off moving forward.

The op needs to figure out what he wants, then discuss with his wife to see if there is a scenario where they can both have their needs met in this lifestyle. I don’t believe you can get their without honesty and communication moving forward.
 
If you're not prepared for it, if it was cheating, not Hotwifing, thats a tough one.
Did she tell you about it? Trying to cuck you with it?
 
you Don’t seem to understand, she can fuck who she likes, how she wants, but if she wants to do it within a this loving relationship then it has to been in agreement. i do blame her because she had options. Her actions are her responsibility and she accepts that.
I THINK they had somewhat of a relationship where she wanted more and he just wanted to fuck. She broke it off (she didnt want to) to get back at him and the fact that she still insists on going to work functions is because they are still fucking OR AT LEAST she still wants to fuck him.
 
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OK, I don't often comment on the threads, but why don't you just enjoy your wife for what she is? Seriously, this isn't a joke, she IS A SLUT! She enjoys fucking and as long as it's not interfering with your relationship, why don't you just enjoy it and thank your lucky stars?? If you only knew how many times over the years Mrs Hotwife was cheating on me and embarrassing me with my friends, etc you would understand. I KNEW what I had married and I just DEALT WITH IT. It's the only option really. Maybe she will stop, but likely not. Just let her do what she does and enjoy it together. In my case, there was no way I could keep up with what she was doing and with whom. I never realized she was cheating most of the time. She just cheated, lied to me and I believed her because I HAD TO. I had no idea what a "cheating slut" my wife was and I mean this in the serious sense, not in some bizarre, sex site sense. It was tough, I will tell you that, when I would find out about guys she was fucking. I just didn't have any control over it so I had to trust her to keep it rational. She did for the most part, but I caught her on several occasions. She just lied her way out of it or in most cases, I didn't even bother to confront her about it. Ioved her and what I married. I knew she was going to be adventurous and she didn't do anything that I didn't encourage. Eventually, I just let her do what she wanted and left it alone. I wasn't allowed to ask questions because of one of the few "rules" we had, so I had to try to figure it out. It still drives me crazy in a good way when I find out something "new" that she's kept from me. Sometimes it's difficult though, but it's just "reality" I suppose. I look forward to her stories. I've encouraged her to tell some of them that I believe you will find shocking but she believes are not even interesting. Just hope for some great stories and let her play as long as you guys can keep your relationship strong.

Mr Hw
 
OK, I don't often comment on the threads, but why don't you just enjoy your wife for what she is? Seriously, this isn't a joke, she IS A SLUT! She enjoys fucking and as long as it's not interfering with your relationship, why don't you just enjoy it and thank your lucky stars?? If you only knew how many times over the years Mrs Hotwife was cheating on me and embarrassing me with my friends, etc you would understand. I KNEW what I had married and I just DEALT WITH IT. It's the only option really. Maybe she will stop, but likely not. Just let her do what she does and enjoy it together. In my case, there was no way I could keep up with what she was doing and with whom. I never realized she was cheating most of the time. She just cheated, lied to me and I believed her because I HAD TO. I had no idea what a "cheating slut" my wife was and I mean this in the serious sense, not in some bizarre, sex site sense. It was tough, I will tell you that, when I would find out about guys she was fucking. I just didn't have any control over it so I had to trust her to keep it rational. She did for the most part, but I caught her on several occasions. She just lied her way out of it or in most cases, I didn't even bother to confront her about it. Ioved her and what I married. I knew she was going to be adventurous and she didn't do anything that I didn't encourage. Eventually, I just let her do what she wanted and left it alone. I wasn't allowed to ask questions because of one of the few "rules" we had, so I had to try to figure it out. It still drives me crazy in a good way when I find out something "new" that she's kept from me. Sometimes it's difficult though, but it's just "reality" I suppose. I look forward to her stories. I've encouraged her to tell some of them that I believe you will find shocking but she believes are not even interesting. Just hope for some great stories and let her play as long as you guys can keep your relationship strong.

Mr Hw
if she was trying to keep her adventures secret, how did you find out?
 
Everyone has their own opinion on this one, but there is a big difference between cheating and being a hotwife. Cheating is for the benefit one the person cheating and is happening without knowledge or support from both parties in the primary relationship. If she wants to cheat, that is on her. However, if she wants to move forward with hotwifing, then you are a part of the show. That doesn’t mean you get to call the shots or direct what happens. Instead, you both need to talk and figure out if there is a way for you to both get what you need out of the arrangement.

Each couple has their own mix of what works or what doesn’t work for them. My wife likes to play one on one which means I often wait at home for her. However, she is always hot and ready for more when she comes home. For us, the goal is for us both to get the sexual attention we need. She gets to play outside of our marriage because she needs more sex than I do. However, she also agrees that Our relationship and sex takes priority. There have been a couple of times where she didn’t come home after playtime or was worn out from a new friend. However, we always discuss what is working and where we need to evolve so that we are both better off moving forward.

The op needs to figure out what he wants, then discuss with his wife to see if there is a scenario where they can both have their needs met in this lifestyle. I don’t believe you can get their without honesty and communication moving forward.
I totally agree with you, it is what I have been trying to express here. Before we can move on with any such relationship we do need to deal with what happened we can’t go forward without mutual understanding and trust.
 
I totally agree with you, it is what I have been trying to express here. Before we can move on with any such relationship we do need to deal with what happened we can’t go forward without mutual understanding and trust.
Yes agree 100% - I just don’t get it if it’s been a fantasy and she has the rock solid chance to make it a reality then why not just send the text / call etc , so it really must have been a lot more than a fuck so that is cheating - why cheat when you can get extra cock with your husbands knowledge and agreement ? As you’ve said before more and more must come out in order for you both to move on - so do you get turned on when she is opening up a bit more about it or is the deceit and going behind your back with this guy you didn’t like still your overriding emotion / I know I was - what about you ? 👍
 
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Yes agree 100% - I just don’t get it if it’s been a fantasy and she has the rock solid chance to make it a reality then why not just send the text / call etc , so it really must have been a lot more than a fuck so that is cheating - why cheat when you can get extra cock with your husbands knowledge and agreement ? As you’ve said before more and more must come out in order for you both to move on - so do you get turned on when she is opening up a bit more about it or is the deceit and going behind your back with this guy you didn’t like still your overriding emotion / I know I was - what about you ? 👍
It’s still a mix of anger and hurt which I know try not to let her see as much and yes turned on, it does end in fucking sessions but with me being the dominant one. When I am alone i Do get off on the detail, ii seem more detached
 
It’s still a mix of anger and hurt which I know try not to let her see as much and yes turned on, it does end in fucking sessions but with me being the dominant one. When I am alone i Do get off on the detail, ii seem more detached
Yes I can imagine and she won’t be there so it will become detached almost surreal , but as soon as you see or hear from her you will be back to reality - so is she allowing or wanting you to be more dominant in bed ? Or is it a coping mechanism for the hurt and anger ?