Surprising things about the lifestyle

[Stevens4fun]

On the Bull-side of the lifestyle, I still can't get over how many cuckolds are retired US Marines ... big guys ... guys with 10 inch cocks ... not the type of guy that one would ever have expected to spend a Saturday evening watching baseball in the living room while I, or several of us, are filling his wife up with cum in the back bedroom.

You will also find high level businessmen, even CEOs who want their wives seduced and pleased by other men. Real life example: my wife's "big boss" at her workplace wielded total power, was an aggressive, domaneering alpha male. But in our home with my wife and traveling with her, or even with him in the corporate suite at the Marriott, she owned him. My wife loves this on many levels.

The Marines, and CEOs, professional athletes, etc. are accustomed to wielding power, and controlling things. But what "sharing" or "cuckolding" is really about is an exchange of power, of control. Most of the wannabes in this forum who are frantically jacking as they fantasize about watching their wife haven't yet moved beyond the more voyeuristic aspects. Or hubby wants to be an XXX director! 🤣🤣🤣🤣Giving up control is so hard for many guys.

Seriously, all of us guys have a little voyeur in us, but...in order for us to find our sexy wives enjoying other men often in a way that's rewarding to her, we have to give up some power in our marriage. We have to give the control up. Some guys can't do this, but it's the price.

 

[dinoo-2]

.....in order for us to find our sexy wives enjoying other men often in a way that's rewarding to her, we have to give up some power in our marriage. We have to give the control up. Some guys can't do this, but it's the price.

My wife, Lady D, played around as if it were part of her life.

She once told me:
'I'm surprising myself by taking cocks into my mouth, getting fucked by strangers and cumming constantly when they lick my pussy. It's become such a normal part of my life. I love seeing you get aroused when you watch me, but rest assured that I'm enjoying it all myself. I never imagined that I would love it so much. It's a shame we didn't start earlier.'

 

[Stevens4fun]

My wife, Lady D, played around as if it were part of her life.

She once told me:
'I'm surprising myself by taking cocks into my mouth, getting fucked by strangers and cumming constantly when they lick my pussy. It's become such a normal part of my life. I love seeing you get aroused when you watch me, but rest assured that I'm enjoying it all myself. I never imagined that I would love it so much. It's a shame we didn't start earlier.'

Ha ha, for sure! I think that as we move into our middle, and then older years, we all wish we'd started sooner. But life is happening as we are trying to find a way to make things happen. The heavy duty fetishists in this site speak as if we can pursue the fun 24/7. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 The reality is that if we allow ourselves to be too consumed by it all we'll start fucking up at work or with family. As guys, we have to deploy brain #1 and quit stroking long enough to go to work and help our loving wives manage their career, family, and everything else. At first, it's all about the spontaneity, but as time goes by we have to do a good job planning our fun and (for my wife and I) we had to give up spontaneity to create quality experiences for her to enjoy a BF. Block out her weekends with her boss on our calendars. He had to do that too! If we do a good job of planning out time and place, we can be assured that the intensity and quality of the experience will be way beyond the expectation.

 

[White5andahalf]

The most surprising aspect of cuckolding is the pressure it takes off me to sexually satisfy my lovely wife, because of what's she's packing and I am not. Thanks for talking the time to read, whether you agree or not. Phil and Nicole.

 

[keylife022]

What are some surprising things you have experienced in the lifestyle? For me it’s how once my wife got over the first time nervous and saw that we both loved our experience and the lifestyle. It surprised me how my innocent wife and mom of two would easily give herself to another man and would either fuck them or give them a blowjob on a first meet, and how submissive she becomes with a much more alpha male, pretty much doing or trying anything they ask.

For me it was finding out how many married women I have had working for me that were eager to make themselves available inside and outside work hours. EVERY one of them had husbands who knew

 

[dickhurtz]

Interesting thread with some great content.

 

[HubbyJohn]

I echo the sentiment above that the feeling f taking the pressure off disappointing my wife with sex was an unexpected relief... but I do sometimes miss having sex with her even I can't and don't really want to and feel worse when we do... that weird confusion of desire without any way to satisfy it was unexpected.. losing the desire to fuck while still having the desire to make love, but then also not wanting the shame of sliding in and out of a woman as she yawns... when I was younger I never could have even imagined this feeling existed.

 

[werekinky2]

I think for us it’s been the friendships formed. Because of what my husband does it’s amazing how many men after fucking me want to have a drink with him and talk. Some help him on projects or come over just to visit.

Wow that sounds great to me also being the husband of Hotwife

 

[SNJ_Dom]

On the Bull-side of the lifestyle, I still can't get over how many cuckolds are retired US Marines ... big guys ... guys with 10 inch cocks ... not the type of guy that one would ever have expected to spend a Saturday evening watching baseball in the living room while I, or several of us, are filling his wife up with cum in the back bedroom.

Cuckolds, or just stags/hotwives?

 

[Stevens4fun]

On the Bull-side of the lifestyle, I still can't get over how many cuckolds are retired US Marines ... big guys ... guys with 10 inch cocks ... not the type of guy that one would ever have expected to spend a Saturday evening watching baseball in the living room while I, or several of us, are filling his wife up with cum in the back bedroom.

It's about the power exchange between wife and hubby, giving her the control when it comes to your marital sex and her other man. Hubbies who can't give up control won't succeed in this LS. Instead they'll be dealing with resentment.

 

[Stevens4fun]

The most surprising aspect of cuckolding is the pressure it takes off me to sexually satisfy my lovely wife, because of what's she's packing and I am not. Thanks for talking the time to read, whether you agree or not. Phil and Nicole.

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Easy to agree. And it feels right as we see how happy she is.

 

[zio-ugo]

la cosa che maggiormente mi ha sorpreso in mia moglie è che da sposina 21 vergine (io 8 anni più di lei) che si vergognava solo a fare all'amore con me, che imparava con vergogna alcune cose essenziali della vita sessuale coniugale, dopo che i figli sono nati e sono cresciuti diventando adolescenti sia divenuta una puttanella amante del cazzo, una moglie che mi tradisce in continuazione, che cambia e somma amanti su amanti e che faccia tutto questo negandolo e nascondendosi da me, quando io ho prove su prove di quanto accade. Ad ogni mia scoperta i scusa, si pente e dice che è stato un caso, un cedimento momentaneo, lascia l'amante ma nel giro di pochi mesi ne trova un altro se non più di uno. E' riuscita a scopare anche un amico del figlio quando aveva 55 anni ed il ragazzo 25 e solo ora mi ha concesso di poterla guardare scopare un altro giovanotto di 25 anni (ora lei ne ha 62)

 

[Stevens4fun]

I’ve experienced much the same. When I first brought up the idea it was a straight up “no” from my wife. Role play,
No problem. After her first experience she hasn’t looked back. Again, it was slow at first. She didn’t want to do it more than 3-4 times a year. But after having gotten to know the guy shes with now it’s become far more regular. Almost weekly when their schedules permit. She really enjoys having sex with him. We fuck very different so it’s a treat for her to experience the variety. Shes commented on how our cocks feel and smell differently.

My wife was enjoying what she characterized as "the best sex she ever had" with her BF about once every 3 weeks, depending on her work schedule, family, her period, and her fertile windows. Those of you enjoying this type of marriage will understand. We'd just had sex one afternoon, with lots of erotic talk about what she and her BF had been doing. We both agreed that it would be more satisfying if she could be with him more often. But, how??? I said (kiddingly) "I'll bet you want it every night, don't you?" I expected a comic reply, but she said "you have no idea." That afternoon, she and I decided our goal would be for it to happen once a week. But life intervenes. We never reached that goal. Had her BF lived closer, we could easily have had him over more than once a week, she could have done more overnights with him, - all of the really hot stuff. Doubtless, our family would have been much larger - she still kids me about how we'd need a larger house with more kid's bedrooms.

 

[werekinky2]

For me what seems to be surprising is to find a good bull to fuck the wife at times can be difficult

 

[GodofThunder46]

For me what seems to be surprising is to find a good bull to fuck the wife at times can be difficult

That is surprising, especially given how hot she is! I would love to be a good bull to her! 😈

 

[Anon321]

would easily give herself to another man and would either fuck them or give them a blowjob on a first meet, and how submissive she becomes with a much more alpha male, pretty much doing or trying anything they ask.

I agree with this. I feel like not only do you learn a lot about your partner's sexual preference but they learn more about their own sexual preferences in the lifestyle. The whole submissive thing and doing literally anything she's told rings true for my GF.

 

[Loridan]

We are pretty conservative. Late 50s, clean, no tats, in pretty good shape, wife works out regularly. We have jobs and friends.
We get with a guy we know semi regularly now for sexy fun.
First times were strange, fun but like...what are we doing? I only watched, wife was kinda into it. They would have sex, he'd leave then we had sex for a good two hours and she was very horny. Lots of guilt the following days. We got more ok with it each time. It got to them going two rounds befor he left, I just watched.
Now we're all good with it, we take turns with her. We all have a fun time.
For us this has really opened our thoughts about sexy fun. My conservative wife really let's go and enjoys. She fucks him like crazy, any position he wants, as many times as he wants right in front of me. Then she does the same with me while he watches. We kick back and relax for a few then do it all again. My wife loves it.

 

[rataver_]

It was surprising to see, wives that were "shy" because it is their first time... How quick they opened their mouthes when i placed my dick on their lips...

 

[Stevens4fun]

We are pretty conservative. Late 50s, clean, no tats, in pretty good shape, wife works out regularly. We have jobs and friends.
We get with a guy we know semi regularly now for sexy fun.
First times were strange, fun but like...what are we doing? I only watched, wife was kinda into it. They would have sex, he'd leave then we had sex for a good two hours and she was very horny. Lots of guilt the following days. We got more ok with it each time. It got to them going two rounds befor he left, I just watched.
Now we're all good with it, we take turns with her. We all have a fun time.
For us this has really opened our thoughts about sexy fun. My conservative wife really let's go and enjoys. She fucks him like crazy, any position he wants, as many times as he wants right in front of me. Then she does the same with me while he watches. We kick back and relax for a few then do it all again. My wife loves it.

Exactly, and what you've said clarifies why a regular BF for the wife can work out so well. A hot "one-off" can satisfy more primal needs and be erotic beyond belief, but to establish the level of comfort and connection our wife needs with her BF, the two of you will need to get to know him on various levels. Hubby and her BF become partners in essence, assuring the wife is experiencing rewarding and satisfying sex (lots of orgasms), the way SHE wants them, when she wants them, with the man she wants to enjoy them with. I use the word "enjoy" as her orgasm brings all three partners to a certain level of joy, doesn't it? Watching (or hearing) my wife have a profound orgasm with a man she has feelings for has always brought me a sense of joy, for all three of us. It's the happy place for a husband, I'd say.

 

[Loridan]

Exactly, and what you've said clarifies why a regular BF for the wife can work out so well. A hot "one-off" can satisfy more primal needs and be erotic beyond belief, but to establish the level of comfort and connection our wife needs with her BF, the two of you will need to get to know him on various levels. Hubby and her BF become partners in essence, assuring the wife is experiencing rewarding and satisfying sex (lots of orgasms), the way SHE wants them, when she wants them, with the man she wants to enjoy them with. I use the word "enjoy" as her orgasm brings all three partners to a certain level of joy, doesn't it? Watching (or hearing) my wife have a profound orgasm with a man she has feelings for has always brought me a sense of joy, for all three of us. It's the happy place for a husband, I'd say.

Our friend isn't her boyfriend at all. We only see him for sexy fun, we don't socialize with him at all.
We have invited him to backyard BBQ with our friends, he's super cool about our fun and keeps quiet. Wife got off big time with him mingling with our friends.
He's a guy we enjoy inviting into our sex fun. We're comfy with what we do, we know what each likes. Our fun with him has really opened our thoughts about sexy fun. We/she does things now she thought didn't like before, anal for one.
It's very obvious she likes sex with him, sometimes I feel she likes it a little too much but that's part of the fun.
They have a connection for sure.