Surprising things about the lifestyle

[HubbyJohn]

On the Bull-side of the lifestyle, I still can't get over how many cuckolds are retired US Marines ... big guys ... guys with 10 inch cocks ... not the type of guy that one would ever have expected to spend a Saturday evening watching baseball in the living room while I, or several of us, are filling his wife up with cum in the back bedroom.

Not as a surprising as it would seem when you think about it. Men who spend long periods of time on the other side of the world, likely start to fantasize about their wives being satisfied as they jerk off. Likely worry that their wife might cheat and use a cuck fetish to feel in control of the cheating. They also have high stress jobs that leave some trauma and I would imagine the idea of relinquishing responsibility for satisfying her sexually while at the same time controlling it would be natural. I feel like once your brain crosses over into being a cuck there is no going back.

 

[HubbyJohn]

For me what was surprising was that she had tolerated mu little dick for so long and was willing to live a life with unsatisfying sex or almost no sex with me before I encouraged her.

I’m also still surprised about the deep emasculating shame I still feel after I orgasm. It just never goes away. Also never imagined that I would stop initiating sex and just feel too inadequate to bother her with it. I serious think that I will never have PIV sex again in my life. With my wife or even if she left me. I just feel too small and inadequate to do that again. That is shocking to me that I have accepted it.

 

[Jack W]

Not as a surprising as it would seem when you think about it. Men who spend long periods of time on the other side of the world, likely start to fantasize about their wives being satisfied as they jerk off. Likely worry that their wife might cheat and use a cuck fetish to feel in control of the cheating. They also have high stress jobs that leave some trauma and I would imagine the idea of relinquishing responsibility for satisfying her sexually while at the same time controlling it would be natural. I feel like once your brain crosses over into being a cuck there is no going back.

I never thought about it like that.

 

[jsaltydog]

We go to a regular LS houseparty. Mature crowd. We're in our 50s and are usually the youngest couple there!! 70 seems the average age and, probably thanks to the wonder of modern ED meds, there are some very horny and active septuagenarians in attendance - both men and women! This is me (left) with two wives taking a break at one of those parties. I had the pleasure of having these two to myself that night and they were pure fire 🔥
SView attachment 3034913o yeah. I am surprised at the way older are embracing the Lifestyle these days!

Two really beautiful women.

 

[jsaltydog]

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Picture of mine on the right… I have some old homemade videos in the vault, but don’t know where or what lifestyle site allows videos, so, as of now I just take screenshots of the videos and share them.

Your wife is beautiful.

 

[Stevens4fun]

On the Bull-side of the lifestyle, I still can't get over how many cuckolds are retired US Marines ... big guys ... guys with 10 inch cocks ... not the type of guy that one would ever have expected to spend a Saturday evening watching baseball in the living room while I, or several of us, are filling his wife up with cum in the back bedroom.

You will also find high level businessmen, even CEOs who want their wives seduced and pleased by other men. Real life example: my wife's "big boss" at her workplace wielded total power, was an aggressive, domaneering alpha male. But in our home with my wife and traveling with her, or even with him in the corporate suite at the Marriott, she owned him. My wife loves this on many levels.

The Marines, and CEOs, professional athletes, etc. are accustomed to wielding power, and controlling things. But what "sharing" or "cuckolding" is really about is an exchange of power, of control. Most of the wannabes in this forum who are frantically jacking as they fantasize about watching their wife haven't yet moved beyond the more voyeuristic aspects. Or hubby wants to be an XXX director! 🤣🤣🤣🤣Giving up control is so hard for many guys.

Seriously, all of us guys have a little voyeur in us, but...in order for us to find our sexy wives enjoying other men often in a way that's rewarding to her, we have to give up some power in our marriage. We have to give the control up. Some guys can't do this, but it's the price.

 

[dinoo-2]

.....in order for us to find our sexy wives enjoying other men often in a way that's rewarding to her, we have to give up some power in our marriage. We have to give the control up. Some guys can't do this, but it's the price.

My wife, Lady D, played around as if it were part of her life.

She once told me:
'I'm surprising myself by taking cocks into my mouth, getting fucked by strangers and cumming constantly when they lick my pussy. It's become such a normal part of my life. I love seeing you get aroused when you watch me, but rest assured that I'm enjoying it all myself. I never imagined that I would love it so much. It's a shame we didn't start earlier.'

 

[Stevens4fun]

My wife, Lady D, played around as if it were part of her life.

She once told me:
'I'm surprising myself by taking cocks into my mouth, getting fucked by strangers and cumming constantly when they lick my pussy. It's become such a normal part of my life. I love seeing you get aroused when you watch me, but rest assured that I'm enjoying it all myself. I never imagined that I would love it so much. It's a shame we didn't start earlier.'

Ha ha, for sure! I think that as we move into our middle, and then older years, we all wish we'd started sooner. But life is happening as we are trying to find a way to make things happen. The heavy duty fetishists in this site speak as if we can pursue the fun 24/7. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 The reality is that if we allow ourselves to be too consumed by it all we'll start fucking up at work or with family. As guys, we have to deploy brain #1 and quit stroking long enough to go to work and help our loving wives manage their career, family, and everything else. At first, it's all about the spontaneity, but as time goes by we have to do a good job planning our fun and (for my wife and I) we had to give up spontaneity to create quality experiences for her to enjoy a BF. Block out her weekends with her boss on our calendars. He had to do that too! If we do a good job of planning out time and place, we can be assured that the intensity and quality of the experience will be way beyond the expectation.

 

[White5andahalf]

The most surprising aspect of cuckolding is the pressure it takes off me to sexually satisfy my lovely wife, because of what's she's packing and I am not. Thanks for talking the time to read, whether you agree or not. Phil and Nicole.

 

[keylife022]

What are some surprising things you have experienced in the lifestyle? For me it’s how once my wife got over the first time nervous and saw that we both loved our experience and the lifestyle. It surprised me how my innocent wife and mom of two would easily give herself to another man and would either fuck them or give them a blowjob on a first meet, and how submissive she becomes with a much more alpha male, pretty much doing or trying anything they ask.

For me it was finding out how many married women I have had working for me that were eager to make themselves available inside and outside work hours. EVERY one of them had husbands who knew

 

[dickhurtz]

Interesting thread with some great content.

 

[HubbyJohn]

I echo the sentiment above that the feeling f taking the pressure off disappointing my wife with sex was an unexpected relief... but I do sometimes miss having sex with her even I can't and don't really want to and feel worse when we do... that weird confusion of desire without any way to satisfy it was unexpected.. losing the desire to fuck while still having the desire to make love, but then also not wanting the shame of sliding in and out of a woman as she yawns... when I was younger I never could have even imagined this feeling existed.

 

[TexasDaddy]

Surprising how much pussy a wedding ring attracts.

 

[TexasDaddy]

Surprising how much pussy a wedding ring attracts.

 

[werekinky2]

I think for us it’s been the friendships formed. Because of what my husband does it’s amazing how many men after fucking me want to have a drink with him and talk. Some help him on projects or come over just to visit.

Wow that sounds great to me also being the husband of Hotwife

 

[SNJ_Dom]

On the Bull-side of the lifestyle, I still can't get over how many cuckolds are retired US Marines ... big guys ... guys with 10 inch cocks ... not the type of guy that one would ever have expected to spend a Saturday evening watching baseball in the living room while I, or several of us, are filling his wife up with cum in the back bedroom.

Cuckolds, or just stags/hotwives?

 

[Stevens4fun]

On the Bull-side of the lifestyle, I still can't get over how many cuckolds are retired US Marines ... big guys ... guys with 10 inch cocks ... not the type of guy that one would ever have expected to spend a Saturday evening watching baseball in the living room while I, or several of us, are filling his wife up with cum in the back bedroom.

It's about the power exchange between wife and hubby, giving her the control when it comes to your marital sex and her other man. Hubbies who can't give up control won't succeed in this LS. Instead they'll be dealing with resentment.

 

[Stevens4fun]

The most surprising aspect of cuckolding is the pressure it takes off me to sexually satisfy my lovely wife, because of what's she's packing and I am not. Thanks for talking the time to read, whether you agree or not. Phil and Nicole.

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Easy to agree. And it feels right as we see how happy she is.

 

[zio-ugo]

la cosa che maggiormente mi ha sorpreso in mia moglie è che da sposina 21 vergine (io 8 anni più di lei) che si vergognava solo a fare all'amore con me, che imparava con vergogna alcune cose essenziali della vita sessuale coniugale, dopo che i figli sono nati e sono cresciuti diventando adolescenti sia divenuta una puttanella amante del cazzo, una moglie che mi tradisce in continuazione, che cambia e somma amanti su amanti e che faccia tutto questo negandolo e nascondendosi da me, quando io ho prove su prove di quanto accade. Ad ogni mia scoperta i scusa, si pente e dice che è stato un caso, un cedimento momentaneo, lascia l'amante ma nel giro di pochi mesi ne trova un altro se non più di uno. E' riuscita a scopare anche un amico del figlio quando aveva 55 anni ed il ragazzo 25 e solo ora mi ha concesso di poterla guardare scopare un altro giovanotto di 25 anni (ora lei ne ha 62)

 

[Stevens4fun]

I’ve experienced much the same. When I first brought up the idea it was a straight up “no” from my wife. Role play,
No problem. After her first experience she hasn’t looked back. Again, it was slow at first. She didn’t want to do it more than 3-4 times a year. But after having gotten to know the guy shes with now it’s become far more regular. Almost weekly when their schedules permit. She really enjoys having sex with him. We fuck very different so it’s a treat for her to experience the variety. Shes commented on how our cocks feel and smell differently.

My wife was enjoying what she characterized as "the best sex she ever had" with her BF about once every 3 weeks, depending on her work schedule, family, her period, and her fertile windows. Those of you enjoying this type of marriage will understand. We'd just had sex one afternoon, with lots of erotic talk about what she and her BF had been doing. We both agreed that it would be more satisfying if she could be with him more often. But, how??? I said (kiddingly) "I'll bet you want it every night, don't you?" I expected a comic reply, but she said "you have no idea." That afternoon, she and I decided our goal would be for it to happen once a week. But life intervenes. We never reached that goal. Had her BF lived closer, we could easily have had him over more than once a week, she could have done more overnights with him, - all of the really hot stuff. Doubtless, our family would have been much larger - she still kids me about how we'd need a larger house with more kid's bedrooms.