Big dildo? No. Cock sleeve? No. Bigger cock? Where would I find one?.

A few mornings ago I engaged with my wife in approximately 30 seconds of coitus. She has seemed to delight recently in making me come as quickly as possible and I have confessed that I like it when she teases me.

A few hours later I was trying to redeem myself, warming her up with her favourite vibe, but the morning's exertions – Ignominiously brief though they may have been - were apparently too much for my little 5 1/2 incher to become hard again.

As I fiddled with my diminutive tool I decided to test the waters a little bit by asking “have you ever been curious to try something bigger than my cock?”

“Where am I going to find one?” My wife responded. Note this followed on from a recent bedtime conversation where I had told my wife she would get lots of hits if she ever went on Tinder and she admitted for the first time I wasn't very big.

“I don't know” I responded “but have you ever been curious?” I persisted.

“Where would I find one?” Again answering a question with a question; something she often does when she doesn't necessarily want to answer.

“We could get a big dildo” I offered. She had tried one before - the same size as mine though in our conversation that morning it was apparent she thought it was bigger. In the same conversation though it was clear that she wasn't interested in a dildo despite me saying we could find one that felt more realistic [which had been the major turn off the one time we did play with one].

My next suggestion was a sleeve however this too was dismissed summarily. Then she caught me off guard by saying albeit in a jocular manner “Oh my God, you want to do like those pornos where the husband watches the wife with another man.”

“Do you like to watch those?” I asked trying to keep the hope from my voice

“No” She responded “I have seen them when I'm searching for videos I like”

“why don't you watch them?” I probed

“because they’re gross” she said

I didn't push it any further and we gave up on trying to get my limp little noodle into an acceptable state and so went on with our day.

So, a number of doors have been closed to me from this conversation and it is probably just fools hope that I note she did not deny being curious about trying something bigger. However, last night my wife spoke of one of her friends who is in an open marriage and had just returned from a solo trip to a tropical location. It was there my wife said in a suggestive tone, that “she had lots of fun”. She had previously told me that her friend’s husband had handed her a box of condoms to pack before she left him at home. I mentioned that I couldn't wait to hear more but my wife said it was “just between us girls”. It was quite apparent though that she had spent at least some of her trip in bed with a man [or men] other than her husband.

So, adding into the mix a friend who is enjoying being a hot wife and a couple of other recently divorced friends [plus her younger sister] enjoying themselves on Tinder and I can still believe enough to jerk off thinking she may just have a hankering for a nice, big, fat cock. One that can stay up longer than the 1-5 minutes she normally gets from me.

Problem is, I would really have loved to have started with some toys before a possible sharing scenario. I have fantasised about it a lot, but I'm not sure that I could handle it in real life particularly as it would seem that if it ever did happen, I would not be there to participate or at least see it.

Any feedback from those who have been here before?
 
I was in a similar situation, I'm just average in length and girth and I'm the only one my wife has been with. I had been wanting to open her up more sexually because I'm very open but she has always been really conservative. First I got her to let me take a few pics of her naked and us playing around and then I got her a vibrator. I didn't ask, just got her one. She said she would try it and needless to say she loved it so for Christmas I got her three dildos. One was my size and one was a little bigger. We used my size first and she was good with it so the bigger one was used and she came hard off of it. Since then we have added an 8" hollow strap-on, she likes it and gets off on it but doesn't like that its not realistic feeling at all. We also have a 8" self thruster that is by far her favorite. There is some clips in my media of her using it and she has some intense orgasms off of it. Now I'm slowly trying to move her to the real thing. It's been a long process.
 
I tried a cock sleeve too but the one I got was very uncomfortable.
You have to spend the money on good ones. Blissful creations makes great stuff. Also it should be warm before using, don’t go sticking cold silicon or plastic inside her and expect a nice reaction. Especially for her first time, that will be a huge turnoff.

When you use something bigger even the sleeve, try rubbing her pussy with it for a while and get her nice and warmed up first. My wife liked using it after I would be inside her first. Later she told me she only said that because she thought I would like it better. I told her I’d rather use the sleeve first and now that’s what’s been happening. It took a few days to get her pussy used to the sleeve which is pretty big bc girth wise I am 5.5” around so the sleeve makes me huge. She loved being filled up and she has told me how good it feels but likes when I start slow.
 
You have to spend the money on good ones. Blissful creations makes great stuff. Also it should be warm before using, don’t go sticking cold silicon or plastic inside her and expect a nice reaction. Especially for her first time, that will be a huge turnoff.

When you use something bigger even the sleeve, try rubbing her pussy with it for a while and get her nice and warmed up first. My wife liked using it after I would be inside her first. Later she told me she only said that because she thought I would like it better. I told her I’d rather use the sleeve first and now that’s what’s been happening. It took a few days to get her pussy used to the sleeve which is pretty big bc girth wise I am 5.5” around so the sleeve makes me huge. She loved being filled up and she has told me how good it feels but likes when I start slow.
Well I don't have the budget to spend too much on that stuff. She likes the toys we have now, especially the self thruster but we still start slow before she goes crazy on it because of the size.
 
“Where am I going to find one?” My wife responded. Note this followed on from a recent bedtime conversation where I had told my wife she would get lots of hits if she ever went on Tinder and she admitted for the first time I wasn't very big.

“I don't know” I responded “but have you ever been curious?” I persisted.

“Where would I find one?” Again answering a question with a question; something she often does when she doesn't necessarily want to answer.

From reading this post, It appears the door may not be closed but rather partially open for your fantasies to become realities.

While our entry into the lifestyle was very different, it was my wife's idea, and she made the moves to make it happen, she admitted that she had often thought about and fantasized about larger cocks and other men. If there were signs along the way, I was oblivious to them.

After entering the Lifestyle, my wife always loved to talk to other couples about how they got into the lifestyle. We learned through many discussions with other couples that it was split fairly evenly between the woman and the man who made the first move.

The one scenario of introducing the second man into the mix that seemed common was using a hot tub. Even after that first encounter, hot tubs seem to be a common tool used to introduce action.

You may find this type of scenario to work well for your situation based on your wife's previous responses. Find out what looks and traits your wife finds sexy in men. Find a guy who matches her desires and invite him over one evening for drinks. Ideally, if you have a hot tub at home, you have a rule such as no bathing suits allowed to keep the detergents out of the jets. Most men will have no issue with getting naked when a lady is present under the auspices of getting into a hot tub. If you are able to confide in the man before he meets your wife as to what you are wanting and are comfortable with, it sounds like your wife may allow nature to take its course and she will have a bigger cock right in front of her.