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[R&Rlove]

Your wife is beautiful! I mean, she looks like a kick-ass lady. Bring her in on the conversation here and let her immerse herself in the subculture before the lifestyle. I am doing that with my wife...slowly. My wife is at that same point of almost desperately wanting to experience another woman. While she will flirt with guys all day long, she clams up and gets red-faced around women she is attracted to...I tease her about it a lot. Do not use her want for a woman as your "in" to get her with another man after. Instead, use it as a way of opening her up to the life of enjoyment. By supporting her female with female experience you are supporting her adventure, as a couple. What a fun time!

I 100% support her finding another woman. My wife's issue with getting shy and nervous isn't so much gender specific. She doesn't even like to talk to servers to ask for condiments. She has me do it haha. I try to get her to come out of her shell but she refuses. She likes for me to take lead and get her what she wants. Not in EVERYTHING just things that aren't so important. But standard decision making is not her Forte nor does she want it to be. I talk to her and I listen. I know my wife pretty well and know that she would like to have a third whether they are male or female. She would prefer to try it with a woman first. If women come forward and we are mutually interested I'm all for that, but it's much harder to find a woman interested in this. Men are asking left and right. I'd choose a woman over a man for our first any day because at the end of the day, I am still just a guy and I like boobs.

 

[R&Rlove]

Wow she is definitely worth a good fuck.......are you sure she as not been done before

I'm sure

 

[R&Rlove]

If you're pushy for immediate action you may come across too abrasive or desperate. You're going to lose us. 1)This is a first. We are looking to do it right and safe. 2) I have the gold. The prize is mine and I get to look at it, touch it, and taste it everyday. It's MY wife. If you get upset for being put on hold then I'll just drop the call because there are others waiting. I'm not going to get my first message from some stranger I've never seen or heard of and give him the ok to be alone in a room with me and my wife a week from that moment. This takes time. I'm requesting local people because if we do get to meeting, that's all it's going to be. A casual hangout to just see if we all vibe. See if you eat pasta with a fork or your hands. Find out how good you are at skeeball. The first time we meet will probably have ZERO sexual tension. It's just to see if we like you as a person, not a partner.

 

[SloanC]

I see your in CA. I am too. Southern? Perhaps if you show me a picture and I tease with sexual innuendo that will move things forward. Please let me know your thoughts.

She truly is a beautiful woman. I would like to flirt with her I’d she would consider it.

 

[Funfriends]

I am looking to get my wife into the Stag/Vixen lifestyle. We have never done anything like this. It's exciting and nerve wracking at the same time. The idea of my wife getting sexual pleasures from other women (her current preference) and men (my idea) excites me more than I can explain. I want to watch, join, control, and take picutes/ videos during some, especially the first, of these encounters. We talk about it in the bedroom some and she has shown some serious interest recently even asking serious questions like how I'd feel about another man penetration her. She very much loves to please me and I know how I want the first encounter to happen. Because she is very nervous and not likely to lean into it I know it's up to me to get the ball rolling and I KNOW she will enjoy herself with the right person. Discussions, input, and questions are welcome but please be respectful. I intend to post some sexy/ revealing pictures of her on here but unless we actually get into the lifestyle they will not show her face unless she is completely covered. I am actually looking for a man right now but I know SHE really wants to have a sexual experience with a woman. Seems a little backwards I know but it is how it is. That's enough for one message, if you actually read all of this but a winky face at the beginning of your post.

Great posts and I really like seeing my wife and I aren’t the only ones exploring new ideas. I think we’d be more willing to try this out with another couple first, what about you? Is this something to try with close friends or new friends and couples?

would really like to conversation some more, take care and have fun!

 

[Welder]

If you're pushy for immediate action you may come across too abrasive or desperate. You're going to lose us. 1)This is a first. We are looking to do it right and safe. 2) I have the gold. The prize is mine and I get to look at it, touch it, and taste it everyday. It's MY wife. If you get upset for being put on hold then I'll just drop the call because there are others waiting. I'm not going to get my first message from some stranger I've never seen or heard of and give him the ok to be alone in a room with me and my wife a week from that moment. This takes time. I'm requesting local people because if we do get to meeting, that's all it's going to be. A casual hangout to just see if we all vibe. See if you eat pasta with a fork or your hands. Find out how good you are at skeeball. The first time we meet will probably have ZERO sexual tension. It's just to see if we like you as a person, not a partner.

Sexy school teacher look! Very attractive

 

[Hwcouple702]

If you're pushy for immediate action you may come across too abrasive or desperate. You're going to lose us. 1)This is a first. We are looking to do it right and safe. 2) I have the gold. The prize is mine and I get to look at it, touch it, and taste it everyday. It's MY wife. If you get upset for being put on hold then I'll just drop the call because there are others waiting. I'm not going to get my first message from some stranger I've never seen or heard of and give him the ok to be alone in a room with me and my wife a week from that moment. This takes time. I'm requesting local people because if we do get to meeting, that's all it's going to be. A casual hangout to just see if we all vibe. See if you eat pasta with a fork or your hands. Find out how good you are at skeeball. The first time we meet will probably have ZERO sexual tension. It's just to see if we like you as a person, not a partner.

I believe you should let her "date" on her terms. Just give her permission and encourage her to explore. That way she isn't feeling pressure with you being present and she can explore and play on her terms. A separate dating life is essential for me.

In your situation I also recommend a QUALITY lifestyle meeting site in order to find compatible others. A "lifestyle club" might be a bit too much because many of them are kind of seedy, but, you could find one and sit back and observe. You could also chat with others who approach you and she could become accustomed to it, especially the girls. If you have the financial resources, you might attend a "non-lifestyle" resort such as a nudist resort, but one that is classy. That way you would be around sexy people and nudity with others would be a bit "normalized" for you. Hidden Beach in Cancun Mexico, Secrets (topless but sexy) and a few others would be VERY sexy and fun for you, without the pressure for sex. Eventually you could advance to Desire Resorts in Cancun (couples only) for lifestyle play if you wish. We have been to Desire RM a few times but honestly, as active as we are in the LS, we have never actually PLAYED there. We just hang out, have sexy fun and if the RIGHT COUPLE or single is found, we would play. We suggest the Bliss Cruise, where there are thousands of lifestyle couples and you can be fully clothed, topless or fully nude if you desire. Tons of hot people and tons of opportunities to play if you want, but no pressure to do so and we believe that many of the attendees don't play at all, but are there for the sexy environment. If you are both on the same page but a bit confused and unsure how to continue, then just have some fun, nude recreation as described above.

Mrs Hotwife

 

[R&Rlove]

Great posts and I really like seeing my wife and I aren’t the only ones exploring new ideas. I think we’d be more willing to try this out with another couple first, what about you? Is this something to try with close friends or new friends and couples?

would really like to conversation some more, take care and have fun!

We both have agreed it would have to be new friends not people we are already close to.

 

[R&Rlove]

I believe you should let her "date" on her terms. Just give her permission and encourage her to explore. That way she isn't feeling pressure with you being present and she can explore and play on her terms. A separate dating life is essential for me.

In your situation I also recommend a QUALITY lifestyle meeting site in order to find compatible others. A "lifestyle club" might be a bit too much because many of them are kind of seedy, but, you could find one and sit back and observe. You could also chat with others who approach you and she could become accustomed to it, especially the girls. If you have the financial resources, you might attend a "non-lifestyle" resort such as a nudist resort, but one that is classy. That way you would be around sexy people and nudity with others would be a bit "normalized" for you. Hidden Beach in Cancun Mexico, Secrets (topless but sexy) and a few others would be VERY sexy and fun for you, without the pressure for sex. Eventually you could advance to Desire Resorts in Cancun (couples only) for lifestyle play if you wish. We have been to Desire RM a few times but honestly, as active as we are in the LS, we have never actually PLAYED there. We just hang out, have sexy fun and if the RIGHT COUPLE or single is found, we would play. We suggest the Bliss Cruise, where there are thousands of lifestyle couples and you can be fully clothed, topless or fully nude if you desire. Tons of hot people and tons of opportunities to play if you want, but no pressure to do so and we believe that many of the attendees don't play at all, but are there for the sexy environment. If you are both on the same page but a bit confused and unsure how to continue, then just have some fun, nude recreation as described above.

Mrs Hotwife

I don't believe it has anything to do with pressure from me. I don't stop her or hold her back from anything and because of work I spend more time away from home than I do at home. And I have told her if she finds someone, male or female, to let me know. She has no will to search without me I think. When we browse porn or other sites together she gets frisky and has fun pointing out attractive people though. I think she enjoys it because it is time spent with me since we are apart so much. I understand that one might feel too much pressure from thier SO if they are around and maybe it feels strange to flirt or something if they are nearby. But I know my wife isn't afraid to talk to someone WITH me. I believe sheis more afraid to talk to someone without me.

 

[Queanman]

I am looking to get my wife into the Stag/Vixen lifestyle. We have never done anything like this. It's exciting and nerve wracking at the same time. The idea of my wife getting sexual pleasures from other women (her current preference) and men (my idea) excites me more than I can explain. I want to watch, join, control, and take picutes/ videos during some, especially the first, of these encounters. We talk about it in the bedroom some and she has shown some serious interest recently even asking serious questions like how I'd feel about another man penetration her. She very much loves to please me and I know how I want the first encounter to happen. Because she is very nervous and not likely to lean into it I know it's up to me to get the ball rolling and I KNOW she will enjoy herself with the right person. Discussions, input, and questions are welcome but please be respectful. I intend to post some sexy/ revealing pictures of her on here but unless we actually get into the lifestyle they will not show her face unless she is completely covered. I am actually looking for a man right now but I know SHE really wants to have a sexual experience with a woman. Seems a little backwards I know but it is how it is. That's enough for one message, if you actually read all of this but a winky face at the beginning of your post.

Maybe I can help you guys
I'm pretty experienced and I think I step you over in this life style message me

 

[sinsnaps]

Here's a picture of her just for enjoyment. Maybe it will get this thread the attention she should have.

I guarantee you will find women and men willing to do her, she's a total hottie.

 

[Malachy]

😉 Myself and my husband are the same. We're not quite ready to do anything with other people, but get really turned on talking about it. ,😊. I always imagined an extra person with us would be male - that's what we've always talked about. Recently though, it's turned more towards a female - I like the idea of being undressed and caressed by a woman, whilst hubby watches. I've been more attracted to women on here than some of the men, so I understand where your wife is coming from. It's all very exciting and exhilarating, such a turn on.🤗 . I'm happy to chat (or talk dirty)!(Mrs ©©)

Myself and wife are in the same situation as yourselves. We have talked about a third person and while she would like a man she is also very curious and excited to try a women. We would love to communicate with yourselves to begin with and if that goes well perhaps swap some intimate pics etc. Our preference would be not to show faces until we would be comfortable to do so.

 

[Wifehot68]

Here's a picture of her just for enjoyment. Maybe it will get this thread the attention she should have.

I definitely see why you can’t wait for this to happen…she looks hot and open to try new things…good luck

 

[Coycouple]

Myself and wife are in the same situation as yourselves. We have talked about a third person and while she would like a man she is also very curious and excited to try a women. We would love to communicate with yourselves to begin with and if that goes well perhaps swap some intimate pics etc. Our preference would be not to show faces until we would be comfortable to do so.

Hello. If you'd like to chat ( or talk dirty 🤭), send us a personal message. We look forward to hearing from you! 😊 (MrsCC)

 

[Bobby171710]

Hi R&R and everyone. My wife and I aren’t swingers by any means. We’re both professionals and pretty conservative. I’m 51 and she’s 41. Because of some minor health issues the past few years in regards myself, and what we think is maybe an early menopause issue with her, my sex drive went down and her’s went up. My wife has a stressful, corporate job and her being sexually frustrated and irritable all of the time was making both of our lives miserable.

We were in couples therapy. To make a long story short, it became apparent that my wife needed more sex than I could provide for her. We decided to get my wife a bull. Did a lot of research, took awhile to find the right guy, but it is working out so far. My advice is to definitely not take this lightly. Also I strongly suggest not getting neighbors, or friends involved. Our therapist was very adamant about that and so was Jan’s doctor. Her doctor even told her that this is more common than you think, you just have to approach it the correct way. I’d be more than happy to chat with you about more of the details. It just seems that many people rush into this and I’m sure happy we didn’t.

 

[Stag]

I am looking to get my wife into the Stag/Vixen lifestyle. We have never done anything like this. It's exciting and nerve wracking at the same time. The idea of my wife getting sexual pleasures from other women (her current preference) and men (my idea) excites me more than I can explain. I want to watch, join, control, and take picutes/ videos during some, especially the first, of these encounters. We talk about it in the bedroom some and she has shown some serious interest recently even asking serious questions like how I'd feel about another man penetration her. She very much loves to please me and I know how I want the first encounter to happen. Because she is very nervous and not likely to lean into it I know it's up to me to get the ball rolling and I KNOW she will enjoy herself with the right person. Discussions, input, and questions are welcome but please be respectful. I intend to post some sexy/ revealing pictures of her on here but unless we actually get into the lifestyle they will not show her face unless she is completely covered. I am actually looking for a man right now but I know SHE really wants to have a sexual experience with a woman. Seems a little backwards I know but it is how it is. That's enough for one message, if you actually read all of this but a winky face at the beginning of your post.

Please. Give her a woman first.

 

[OhEye812]

Here's a picture of her just for enjoyment. Maybe it will get this thread the attention she should have.

Gorgeous Lady!!!!!!!

 

[PinkHat]

I am looking to get my wife into the Stag/Vixen lifestyle. We have never done anything like this. It's exciting and nerve wracking at the same time. The idea of my wife getting sexual pleasures from other women (her current preference) and men (my idea) excites me more than I can explain. I want to watch, join, control, and take picutes/ videos during some, especially the first, of these encounters. We talk about it in the bedroom some and she has shown some serious interest recently even asking serious questions like how I'd feel about another man penetration her. She very much loves to please me and I know how I want the first encounter to happen. Because she is very nervous and not likely to lean into it I know it's up to me to get the ball rolling and I KNOW she will enjoy herself with the right person. Discussions, input, and questions are welcome but please be respectful. I intend to post some sexy/ revealing pictures of her on here but unless we actually get into the lifestyle they will not show her face unless she is completely covered. I am actually looking for a man right now but I know SHE really wants to have a sexual experience with a woman. Seems a little backwards I know but it is how it is. That's enough for one message, if you actually read all of this but a winky face at the beginning of your post.

Sexy wife, mine would love a taste of her pussy

 

[Sigp220]

I 100% support her finding another woman. My wife's issue with getting shy and nervous isn't so much gender specific. She doesn't even like to talk to servers to ask for condiments. She has me do it haha. I try to get her to come out of her shell but she refuses. She likes for me to take lead and get her what she wants. Not in EVERYTHING just things that aren't so important. But standard decision making is not her Forte nor does she want it to be. I talk to her and I listen. I know my wife pretty well and know that she would like to have a third whether they are male or female. She would prefer to try it with a woman first. If women come forward and we are mutually interested I'm all for that, but it's much harder to find a woman interested in this. Men are asking left and right. I'd choose a woman over a man for our first any day because at the end of the day, I am still just a guy and I like boobs.

😉 hi I read everything so if you want to chat just pm me also she cute 😊

 

[R&Rlove]

Hi R&R and everyone. My wife and I aren’t swingers by any means. We’re both professionals and pretty conservative. I’m 51 and she’s 41. Because of some minor health issues the past few years in regards myself, and what we think is maybe an early menopause issue with her, my sex drive went down and her’s went up. My wife has a stressful, corporate job and her being sexually frustrated and irritable all of the time was making both of our lives miserable.

We were in couples therapy. To make a long story short, it became apparent that my wife needed more sex than I could provide for her. We decided to get my wife a bull. Did a lot of research, took awhile to find the right guy, but it is working out so far. My advice is to definitely not take this lightly. Also I strongly suggest not getting neighbors, or friends involved. Our therapist was very adamant about that and so was Jan’s doctor. Her doctor even told her that this is more common than you think, you just have to approach it the correct way. I’d be more than happy to chat with you about more of the details. It just seems that many people rush into this and I’m sure happy we didn’t.

We definitely aren't rushing into anything. This has been talk for years. Starting as just dirty talk, watching videos together, then talking a little more seriously about it over time getting a feel for how her mood about it has changed. And we have both already agreed that it wouldn't be anybody we already know or see regularly. We know what we want out of it, now I'd like to start searching for the right people.