@R&Rlove Sounds very similar to my wife and I. We live in SoCal. Been verified members on here for years.
Some background:
1. Last year we joined a popular swingers site that resulted in meeting another local couple at a restaurant for a few drinks. The other couple arrived late and the wife in the other couple was not in the mood following a long work day. Plus she already had a boyfriend on the side so she wasn't interested in another man. Her husband was looking for a girlfriend (my wife) that's why they showed up. This mis-match made the whole experience uncomfortable for my wife and I. Our casual encounter ended and we haven't done another one since.
2. Around the same time last year we also joined a local swingers/singles club in our area but never attended, partly because the couple we met with above were also members of same club. Nevertheless watching my wife in the gloryhole booth would be fun but we just can't seem to pull the trigger. We have a family too, which makes getting away for an evening tough most the time.
3. My wife use to only date girls and we've had a few threesomes with others females over the ten years we've been married. Each time lots of fun for everyone!! I suggest exploring with another female first (married or not) and see how it goes. Let them go in the room alone first to start, then join them 10-15 minutes later. If all goes well then move onto option 2 = wife with another man.
4. One of my old friends from highschool 20+yrs ago revealed last year how her and her husband are swingers but after hanging out with them we didn't mesh and nothing happened. My highschool friend was flaky and her hubs was an ahole. Nope.
5. Im 40 and hung. My wife is 34 and hot. I'd be ok with our wives having fun together since it doesn't bother my wife and I (done it before). Zero jealousy. On the other hand if our wives want to go farther and hangout with another man (us) then we can discuss and proceed but only if it feels right for everyone since we've all never done that before.
Sharing all of this data so you know it takes time and in many cases might not even happen for one reason or the other.
*Planning, comfort and safety are all a must for us!!
We're in no rush to meet new couples but if you guys or anyone else on here (couple or female) is located in SoCal and interested in making new friends...feel free to DM us anytime and we'll see where it goes.