Should I start using condoms?

[droopy1]

Condoms can be seen in two ways as a barrier: one to prevent the spreading of semen and the other to keep the semen. Plastic pants can be seen as a kind of large condom. They can be very nice in cumplay.
It ads next to the fact that the receptive person not only has cum inside her/his most intimate bodyparts but that she/he is remaining with her/his lower body for some longer time (literally sitting) in the semen of the dominant breeder what makes the powerrelation even more obvious. Having to cum in panties, chastitycage, diaper or plastic pants have also the same metaphorical idea/message as that you (have) to cum in a condom being that you can not are aloud to spread your semen. If you wear a barier as a receptive person after that you have been seeded as a fertility cup or menstruationcup that keeps the sperm of your lover in you it enhances also your motivation and being possesed by his action, semen and DNA. For a man it could be with a buttplug. For man or woman it can be done with a diaper or plastic pants. The fact that semen drips out of you is something that you can not control and has on its own a certain powerdynamic next to the fact that you have been fucked and have received the semen and in a way the signature of your lover in you. Then sitting in this semen has also an extra powerdynamic and can also be nice to play in as masturbate of for example rub your wife's genital and holes with the semen of her lover in plastic pants or being obliged to pull on plastic pants that have been filled with the leaking semen out of your wife of the bull and being obliged to masturbate in or being massaged in this semen.

You fully understand this fetish. When my wife receives semen from her man it symbolizes her surrender to him and her rejection of me. It has a certain power that helps all three of us to know where we each rank in the relationship. My wife worships his cum, it is the nectar that represents his manly sexual conquest of her and for me as the submissive weakling it keeps me in my place as I'm forbidden to produce any of my own. It would be inappropriate and even offensive to my wife if I were to ejaculate on her or in her presence. That's why she puts me in a cage and it's one of the reasons why she makes me wear diapers. She loves to savor his cum and make it last by wearing non absorbing rubber or vinyl panties to extend her experience after the lovemaking is over. When it's time for her to finally part with this and clean up she employs me to assist her. She has a special kind of enjoyment making me clean her and she knows that I enjoy this submissive act. I guess she feels sorry for me after the fact or because I can't function like a man but she sees how much I relish my duties as her cuckold and usually rewards me by giving me her messy panties. It's now my turn to enjoy her lover's cum on my level. Sometimes when their bedsheets get soaked with overspill she gives me the damp sheets to sleep on. This is another way of being reminded of my place in our marriage and what I am in my wife's eyes.

 

[CONST65]

I would like to know what I should do. My girlfriend has a lover on the side. She has sex with him 2 times per week and it is quite obvious she prefers to do it with him. We also still have sex but I am beginning to accept that perhaps I need to surrender a privilege. She has denied me a couple of times after she let him have her but I am not ready to be denied for a long time. What is the middle ground? The idea has come to mind that I should perhaps start wearing condoms. Should I and what is the reasoning behind this? She's taking the pill so technically there is no need. Would it lessen the feeling of sloppy seconds? Would it help me to last longer? I can't get myself to try it even a single time so I think I need to raise the subject with her. What do I tell her?

There is nothing wrong with hotwife having a hiy ti fuck.her preferably more than ine so she doesn't get attached occasionally being denied adds to the experience but putt the hibby or boyfriend out of the picture is WRONG my hotwife cages me when she goes out to fuck and. Somtimes im denied cged or uncaged occasionally sometimed a week or so But the claiming. Can be great even sloppy seconds

 

[Startinginnow]

No ,
Just cause your a cuck doesn't mean you don't like sex anymore.
And then why use a condom either.
No way and mine doesn't want that either.

 

[candaulasie]

hello,
my wife does not want sex with me, she is chinese. the rare time we make it, one or twice a year, she says she prefers smaller and straight cock, feels better inside. Is she just teasing me or she really knows how it feels coz she has it? what should i do?

 

[robbiewillsucku]

you should start licking your cum off her tits and her pussy if you are still fucking her.

 

[JMNBABE]

I definitely recommend you using condoms with your wife. I have been on condom only sex with my wife since Noember 2012 and it is FANTASTIC!! Especially when she lets her Lover go without them and is full of their sperm while yours is not allowed in or on her at all. CW

 

[coastalkid]

I voted no. I believe that once these restrictions start coming into play they continue to be added on until she really has no responsibility or concern for your sex life. The whole notion of you having to give up something because she has a better, bigger, longer lasting, more fulfilling lover seems ridiculous. Simply because she's found her path to sexual liberation doesn't mean that yours should diminish. You've ALREADY given up a lot! She's gained everything and now you are offering to give up what little you have left. Ultimately, your resentment will grow when you feel that you are insignificant sexually to her.

Now if you don't care about your sex life then forget all the above. If you're happy just knowing she's happy then you're on the right track. Just tell her upfront that you no longer see her as your sex partner and ask her if it's ok if you can jack-off quietly to some internet porn.

I personally have a difficult time believing that before being in "the lifestyle" wives can be so caring and loving and devoted and then suddenly lose those qualities. It paints an ugly stereotype that seems like it would be difficult for a wife to do unless she had no respect for her husband at all. Why be with someone you don't respect? I would think that (and obviously I'm WAY off here) that most women would be grateful that a husband could be so generous and patient to allow them an experience few get to do with support from a loving husband.

 

[droopy1]

I voted no. I believe that once these restrictions start coming into play they continue to be added on until she really has no responsibility or concern for your sex life. The whole notion of you having to give up something because she has a better, bigger, longer lasting, more fulfilling lover seems ridiculous. Simply because she's found her path to sexual liberation doesn't mean that yours should diminish. You've ALREADY given up a lot! She's gained everything and now you are offering to give up what little you have left. Ultimately, your resentment will grow when you feel that you are insignificant sexually to her.

Now if you don't care about your sex life then forget all the above. If you're happy just knowing she's happy then you're on the right track. Just tell her upfront that you no longer see her as your sex partner and ask her if it's ok if you can jack-off quietly to some internet porn.

I personally have a difficult time believing that before being in "the lifestyle" wives can be so caring and loving and devoted and then suddenly lose those qualities. It paints an ugly stereotype that seems like it would be difficult for a wife to do unless she had no respect for her husband at all. Why be with someone you don't respect? I would think that (and obviously I'm WAY off here) that most women would be grateful that a husband could be so generous and patient to allow them an experience few get to do with support from a loving husband.

This is the essence of the cuckold lifestyle. The guy gives up a lot of freedom while she gains all. It's clearly a departure from the traditional vanilla 50/50 relationship and may transition to a 40/60 , 30/70 or more. But both partners are usually or should be happy about the arrangement.

 

[coastalkid]

This is the essence of the cuckold lifestyle. The guy gives up a lot of freedom while she gains all. It's clearly a departure from the traditional vanilla 50/50 relationship and may transition to a 40/60 , 30/70 or more. But both partners are usually or should be happy about the arrangement.

I don't disagree with you. However as to the "essence of the cuckold lifestyle", I've observed that the only one true shared trait is that a wife has sex with a man other than her husband. After that it breaks into millions of iterations, with millions of different roles and power structures. Your own situation is distinctly different. There are many other cuckolds that don't enjoy or do some of the things that you do. Ultimately, if both partners aren't happy then it is a failure. Why do anything you don't enjoy? I do agree that the essence you mention is the most general public perception of what we've seen and read in erotica. I have a feeling that the power exchange is a lot more dynamic then people let on.

 

[droopy1]

I don't disagree with you. However as to the "essence of the cuckold lifestyle", I've observed that the only one true shared trait is that a wife has sex with a man other than her husband. After that it breaks into millions of iterations, with millions of different roles and power structures. Your own situation is distinctly different. There are many other cuckolds that don't enjoy or do some of the things that you do. Ultimately, if both partners aren't happy then it is a failure. Why do anything you don't enjoy? I do agree that the essence you mention is the most general public perception of what we've seen and read in erotica. I have a feeling that the power exchange is a lot more dynamic then people let on.

So true. As I have said in the past the cuckold lifestyle is really only one aspect of a much larger potential arena. There are the FLM marriages for instance which are associated closely to the cuckolding lifestyle. Some FLM's practice cuckolding some do not. Some cuckolding lifestyles contain elements of an FLM and some present only in their simplest form. Still there are the strict DOM/SUB FLM and Cuck relationships all rolled up into one. A type of marriage that I am in. It's all on a spectrum. How we get there is anyone's guess but you are right about the need for those involved to be happy.

 

[keylife022]

You should also get a vasectomy and still use condoms

 

[Rikx]

We have

I definitely recommend you using condoms with your wife. I have been on condom only sex with my wife since Noember 2012 and it is FANTASTIC!! Especially when she lets her Lover go without them and is full of their sperm while yours is not allowed in or on her at all. CW

I was thinking a few weeks or a couple of months at the time at most. 12 years is quite something. How often do you still get to have her with a condom? Have you never broken the streak?

 

[Pampix]

I would like to know what I should do. My girlfriend has a lover on the side. She has sex with him 2 times per week and it is quite obvious she prefers to do it with him. We also still have sex but I am beginning to accept that perhaps I need to surrender a privilege. She has denied me a couple of times after she let him have her but I am not ready to be denied for a long time. What is the middle ground? The idea has come to mind that I should perhaps start wearing condoms. Should I and what is the reasoning behind this? She's taking the pill so technically there is no need. Would it lessen the feeling of sloppy seconds? Would it help me to last longer? I can't get myself to try it even a single time so I think I need to raise the subject with her. What do I tell her?

I think that the matter about condoms you are questioning yourself about is much broader then the use of condoms. I also did get quite upset and mentally disturbed in having to use condoms, then not because I got a vasectomy and then again to have use condoms although I was snipped.

The broader picture is that she prefers to have sex with her boyfriend then with you. Most women will refuse them to their husband in a progresssive way starting with less sex with all kind of diferent reasons beginning with themselves being tired, period, headache etc.. Becaus these reasons do not work all the time they will start to focus on other reasons not to have sex, matters around birthcontrol, premature ejaculation, not being good enough with your cock and enhancing it that again you were not good enough. This wil also give her the perfect reason to have a lover and lessen her feeling of guilt towards you because you are not good enough.

My journey was over a period of 5 years:

When she had her first lover:
- less sex
- then the less sex was less and less PIV sex
- she gave me handjobs ad even bought me a fleshlight..

When she was done with her first lover everything was as almost as before for some time but:
- because we were having not so much sex she wanted me to use condoms to stop birthcontrol for her health
- she then sugested me to get a vasectomy and that in that way we could have sex again without condoms, so I got snipped

She then had her second lover and:
- after some weeks she was seeing him, and I did not know it, she then wanted me to use condoms again when PIV because she thougt it was cleaner
(but in fact she was disgusted to have my semen in her) and she used birthcontrol without me knowing because she though wanted his semen in her..
- in the mean time she focused on the PE and ED that I got from all that fuss with her boyfriend, condoms etc...

So in the end I became quite incompetent in bed and our cuckold dynamic grew more and more and not to get fucked up in he head you try to
accept it and start looking how to find a balance in the dynamic to live togeteher with a wife that denies you and has a lover on the side. Chastity
and a chastity device is quite a good sollution because it makes you own state clear.

And this is quite possibele if you have enough compensation in this dynamic: cuddling, alternative ways of sex, and you wife/girlfriend becomes you best friend bacause the comepting sexcomonent is not there anymore.

A lot of woman like two types of men: one for the adventure and sex and another one she can rely on, be safe, that cares for her, looks aftre the children etc..

The cuckold dynamic is possible but not easy to get it balanced..

 

[coastalkid]

I think that the matter about condoms you are questioning yourself about is much broader then the use of condoms. I also did get quite upset and mentally disturbed in having to use condoms, then not because I got a vasectomy and then again to have use condoms although I was snipped.

The broader picture is that she prefers to have sex with her boyfriend then with you. Most women will refuse them to their husband in a progresssive way starting with less sex with all kind of diferent reasons beginning with themselves being tired, period, headache etc.. Becaus these reasons do not work all the time they will start to focus on other reasons not to have sex, matters around birthcontrol, premature ejaculation, not being good enough with your cock and enhancing it that again you were not good enough. This wil also give her the perfect reason to have a lover and lessen her feeling of guilt towards you because you are not good enough.

My journey was over a period of 5 years:

When she had her first lover:
- less sex
- then the less sex was less and less PIV sex
- she gave me handjobs ad even bought me a fleshlight..

When she was done with her first lover everything was as almost as before for some time but:
- because we were having not so much sex she wanted me to use condoms to stop birthcontrol for her health
- she then sugested me to get a vasectomy and that in that way we could have sex again without condoms, so I got snipped

She then had her second lover and:
- after some weeks she was seeing him, and I did not know it, she then wanted me to use condoms again when PIV because she thougt it was cleaner
(but in fact she was disgusted to have my semen in her) and she used birthcontrol without me knowing because she though wanted his semen in her..
- in the mean time she focused on the PE and ED that I got from all that fuss with her boyfriend, condoms etc...

So in the end I became quite incompetent in bed and our cuckold dynamic grew more and more and not to get fucked up in he head you try to
accept it and start looking how to find a balance in the dynamic to live togeteher with a wife that denies you and has a lover on the side. Chastity
and a chastity device is quite a good sollution because it makes you own state clear.

And this is quite possibele if you have enough compensation in this dynamic: cuddling, alternative ways of sex, and you wife/girlfriend becomes you best friend bacause the comepting sexcomonent is not there anymore.

A lot of woman like two types of men: one for the adventure and sex and another one she can rely on, be safe, that cares for her, looks aftre the children etc..

The cuckold dynamic is possible but not easy to get it balanced..

When you say it like this you make it sound so easy!